Let me start of this post by saying one thing: I am looking for actual advice and analysis of my situation, not motivation or other garbage that's suppose to make me feel better about myself. I don't care about that stuff whatsoever, so it would be appreciated if you would leave something actually useful below.
So I always took pride in my ability to suppress emotions and not having to deal with motivation, as motivation simply never existed for me in the first place, so I don't have to worry about it. However there's one thing that finally made me crack, and actually feel an uncontrollable sadness, and that is the fact that I've never been in a relationship.
In my life, despite being 17, I've never been in a relationship, nor have I even kissed a girl, held hands with a girl, or even hugged a girl. Even when I told my group of 13-14 year old friends that they were shocked, as even all of them been in a relationship, or even several before. Whenever I sit with some friends and they talk about relationships, I'm simply mind-blown seeing how far they've gotten in relationships while I've never even been in a single one. I usually just sit back and say nothing in those instances. I'd only get involved when someone says something like "don't worry, we'll get you a girlfriend one day", to which I usually just reply with some self-deprecating joke at my own expense. It's simply unheard of, at least in young society in England, not to have been in a relationship by 17.
Whenever I hear people complaining about things like only being in a relationship for a week or something is when I get the most confused. I would do anything just for a week-long relationship. Am I just that far behind?
But it get's worse. I've been recently having dreams about the topic almost every other night. Dreams of me finally getting a girlfriend, or watching the stars with someone. Then I wake up and remember that they are not dreams; they are nightmares, teasing, twisted illusions of things that won't happen.
The thing that's really done it for me recently though is when I was sitting with a group of friends, discussing relationships, crushes, etc. One of my friends, despite her being one of the most friendliest, caring people I know, told me it's really easy to get a relationship, and told me about how she got a friend of hers a boyfriend just by talking to him, and so that she also doesn't sympathies with me despite her kind nature because of that. Ever since that conversation, I can't stop thinking about this, and I have this heavy feeling on my heart like the one you get when you hear about someone you know dying.
So seeing how I don't even know how you are suppose to get into a relationship despite being 17, I'm still far off from fixing this problem, so advice is really needed and welcome. I know barely anything about romantic interaction or even a lot about social interaction in general. Only a few years ago I found out that people can also hug for non-romantic reasons, and I got that when saw the option for a "friendly hug" on The Sims 3 (yes, that's how bad my situation is). And once again, I am looking for ACTUAL advice. Not motivation, not comforting speech, not "it's ok, lot's of people don't have relationships". I don't care about that stuff, and it doesn't help whatsoever.