Bengali/Islamic marriage

That is true! Also, I have heard it's wrong to have girls (I don't know about boys) unmarried for too long, it becomes a sin for the parents which I don't want in sha allah. But money comes in the way of everything nowadays D: You need income and start your own life as well as standing on your own feet.

The guy has to provide yes, but doesn't mean girls can't. The guy has more responsibility over their partners though obv, its the same in the 21st century lol.

Just being with someone you have never met in your life, don't know what they are like, how they are like - scares me.
'There never is certainty.' - That is what scares me and probably most people cause shaytan loves divorce, breakups etc. How do I find a person that will be suitable for me? Am I able to spend time with him with family/friends to see what he is like or is that haram?

It's 2018 and I'm posting on the 5th of December. Don't see how I'm not in the 21st century?

Clown.

It's 2018 and I'm posting on the 5th of December. Don't see how I'm not in the 21st century?

Clown.

Not to mention the money you'll need to have saved for the actual wedding. There's a lot of money involved, unless both families agree that you want to keep it minimal. I hope you've saved money throughout your life.

LOL where did you hear that?

Parents are encouraged to get their children married as soon as they can because the longer you go unmarried, the more chance of you committing zina. That is all. There's no sin for the parents, they are just encouraged to protect you from the Hellfire.

Western society has moved on from the sexist concept of men being the protectors of women. The modern couple today both are working professionals and share responsibilities. It’s sad that you have been brainwashed into thinking you are some helpless doll that needs a man to look after you.

As @SRouf mentioned, of course you're allowed to spend time with him (as long as there is a mahram present). There is absolutely nothing to fear, I've had two of my sisters married with arranged marriages, and my eldest sister now has two sons, and honestly my first brother-in-law is definitely one of the most amazing men I've ever met. My second sister very recently got married, so I'm getting to know my new brother-in-law slowly, he's a bit quiet but he's still very nice.

If I do go down the arranged marriage route (it's not actually my preference but I don't have anything against it), then I will personally make sure to invite her close brothers/sisters and my sisters and brother-in-laws to a restaurant and have a nice time. That way, the whole family can get to know each other.

I'm 23M bengali, I try not to think about it too much even though my parents bring it up all the time lol

You feel me girl

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I only fear the fact, what if I get married to my husband and I am not compatible for him or he isn't compatible for me. You find out alot more about the person after you get married. That sounds like a nice idea.

Noway! Bengali parents usually are chill with guys lol until they are 28. But I guess its because they just want the best for us.

Sorry if I am some helpless, brainwashed doll, how comes I've studied so hard, I have a good BSc and MSc degree. 'The modern couple today both are working professionals and share responsibilities'. That is exactly what I want but whats wrong with being dependant on the guy when your fresh onto the career field. The modern couple as you say should also support each other. The western society have alot of concepts, that make marriage seem like a little occasion, when it's not.

See, the whole thinking behind the "my family have had arranged marriages and they all got divorced" is very biased if you think about how often divorces take place in love marriages too.

Also, there's a saying that you don't truly know who your partner is until marriage. The fact is, non-Muslim people live together as couples before they get married, so it doesn't affect them because they already have experience living together. But living with your partner after marriage hits hard for Muslim couples because they don't have experience living with their partner. The fact is, whenever you go out on dates, you only see the best side of your partner. You don't ever see the worst side of him, and it'll hit home once you do see it when you two start living together. So this concept of compatibility when it comes to Muslim couples can definitely be challenged.

You know there are also non-practicing Muslim couples that live together befoe marriage?

You're calling someone else a clown when you're going to marry someone you never met?

I’m the clown? Ok then.....

You know there are also non-practicing Muslim couples that live together befoe marriage?

See, the whole thinking behind the "my family have had arranged marriages and they all got divorced" is very biased if you think about how often divorces take place in love marriages too.

Also, there's a saying that you don't truly know who your partner is until marriage. The fact is, non-Muslim people live together as couples before they get married, so it doesn't affect them because they already have experience living together. But living with your partner after marriage hits hard for Muslim couples because they don't have experience living with their partner. The fact is, whenever you go out on dates, you only see the best side of your partner. You don't ever see the worst side of him, and it'll hit home once you do see it when you two start living together. So this concept of compatibility when it comes to Muslim couples can definitely be challenged.