Dropping out because of loneliness?

@tessak

Sorry to hear it sucks for you.

This does sound odd that you have no problem making friends at home, but can't find anyone at university.

Which socs are you in?

English (I study English lit), creative writing and film. I've read through the list a few times and these are genuinely the only ones that interest me.

They don't sound like very large socs. Do they have social secretaries?

That's what I fear will happen to me

Basically, I'm really unhappy at Uni. I love the city and the course but I have no social life at all. I have absolutely no one to talk to and I can't really do most of the things I want to do (going out clubbing, for example) on my own. The main reason I chose my Uni is because it's well known for it's social scene and night life but currently I don't have the opportunity to experience any of that. This is despite joining multiple societies, going to student union events and trips and chatting to my coursemates as much as possible and suggesting we meet up outside of uni for lunch etc. None of it has worked and at this point it's hard to imagine the social situation any better, which is really having an impact on my mental health. I can't sleep, I'm crying all the time for pretty much no reason and I basically feel the most miserable I ever have (I have spoken to the student welfare people about this and I didn't find it helpful). All I want at the minute is to drop out and get away from the situation.

The only thing is I hate my hometown, all of my friends are at University so I won't see them and I don't have a back up plan at all when it comes to work, apprenticeships etc. Dropping out would be devastating for me because I worked so hard to get where I am and get away from my hometown but honestly I don't think I can carry on like this at uni for much longer. I just don't know what to do anymore.

Do you do any volunteering? I've found that to be a great way to spend some time interacting with people (if I've been studying in my room by myself all day) while also building my CV at the same time.

If you're in a city there are usually loads of opportunities.

What do people mean when they use terminology such as "night-life" and '"clubbing'? Is it merely about talking to people of the opposite sex while influenced by alcohol and a doing a bit of dancing in a very loud,crowded, chaotic environment and then returning home with a larger quantity of assignments and revision piling up but having no control over the situation and resorting to sleeping off the stress and thus repeating the cycle the next day ? I think talking to a psychologist about your problems and working on finding solutions to them is something that could help. Could you describe in a bit more what you want in terms of a ''social life''. Who /what sort of people would be talking to you, how frequently, what it is you would like to talk about, what benefit each participant is receiving, could you also give examples of desired social interaction scenarios, etc. These are just a few suggestions on some things to think about.