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Withdrawing consent mid-sex, is it rape

Is it rape if I withdraw consent mid-sex? If I actually ask /them/ to stop, and they go on? Even harder actually? I agreed to have sex, I had fun at first. But then, I sobered up. And I didn't want to go on. i said stop, /they/ continued even harder. I don't know if me begging for them to wait, to stop, was a turn-on but..I don't know. Is it rape? Or am I just being extra? Because I felt gross afterwards, I felt disgusted with myself and /them/.

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Yes, that is rape.

Yes, if you asked them to stop, and they ignored you and kept going anyway, it's rape, no two ways about it.

Reply 3

ANM775

you make a good point,.........

"technically" there's a lot of porn scences which if they happened IRL would be classed as rape

Reply 4

username1148663

Original post by anarchism101

Yes, if you asked them to stop, and they ignored you and kept going anyway, it's rape, no two ways about it.

Could have misconstrued if it was a bit of role play

Reply 5

username4389978

Original post by paul514

Could have misconstrued if it was a bit of role play

It wasn’t tho

Reply 6

username4389978

Porn isn’t realistic though. It’s mostly fantasy. So comparing my experience to porn is just???¿ I’m not living in a porn movie.

Reply 7

CTLeafez

Consent is a continuous thing. You can consent at the beginning of sex, but withdraw it if you become uncomfortable etc. If you make it clear to the other person that you are no longer consenting and they continue, then yes, that is definitely rape.

There's a difference in tone between "role-playing" stop and genuinely wanting them to stop, as others have suggested there being some confusion. You'd have to be pretty emotionally clueless to not be able to distinguish between the two.

(edited 5 years ago)

Reply 8

62_dy

No, because those who take part in the pornographic industry are all consenting adults, who are being paid. Not even comparable.

Yes, if you withdrew consent at any point, then that is rape.

Reply 9

username1148663

Original post by figuringstuffout

It wasn’t tho

Well obviously as you are asking the question.

I just mean your partner could have thought that.

Reply 10

username1148663

Original post by figuringstuffout

Porn isn’t realistic though. It’s mostly fantasy. So comparing my experience to porn is just???¿ I’m not living in a porn movie.

Very true, I find young people’s ideas on sex to be quite sad as a result of porn exposure at a young age.

Reply 11

_InnocentOne_

So you want 'them' to get arrested or what

Reply 12

Claire461

Original post by _InnocentOne_

So you want 'them' to get arrested or what

Did she mention getting them arrested?

Reply 13

Alpha88

Of course. If you've decided you have had enough and they decide to keep on going, they're doing it against your will. No matter how "bad I want it", if a woman says to me she wants to stop, I'm pulling out straight away.