Would you date a single mum?

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I am high functioning autistic amusingly enough, but I don't see what that has to do with asking a simple question? Not really following your logic either. If I asked people's reasons they wouldn't date a redhead that means I've had bad experiences with redheads?

That explains a lot. I have a brother who is verging on borderline autism.

He is neurotic on all sorts of things.
People's eating noises,
Getting his hands dirty, Dirt under his finger nails. Old car oil on his hands.
Peoples breathing noises when they have a semi-blocked nose.
Being late for a social appointment when he's been unavoidably delayed.

The sort of things that don't bother me one bit.

This microinterorgasmic trace DNA thing is just the sort of thing he'd get neurotic over too.

I love by brother to bits. I just wouldn't place him as a role model for anyone.

Reply 61

username2393237

Original post by TommyDH

-No I haven't.

-No I didn't.

Asking people why they do or do not date someone isn't "denigrating" anyone. You're choosing to take offense where offense isn't even being offered to you. I've not said one bad thing about single mums or dads. I asked people's reasons they would or wouldn't date them.

If you feel like this is a personal attack on you then you have deeper issues that you need to deal with, rather than projecting onto others and trying to control other people's thoughts/opinions.

I don’t have any children, so no. You heavily implied (basically stated) that you feel morally superior to single mums.

Maybe you asked the question with another account, but there was a very similar question recently. I don’t believe in coincidences.

Reply 62

Andrew97

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This is fun.

Reply 63

TommyDH

Original post by YaliaV

-No I didn't. Quote me where I stated I am morally superior. Infact, I've stated multiple times that morals and values are highly subjective. Not only that, I later conceded that my original assertion that the morals/values of single mums would be incompatible of mine maybe wrong.

I'm incompatible with an orthodox Jew. DO you think that means the orthodox Jews feel they are superior, or I feel orthodox Jews are inferior?

Why do you feel people having different subjectives morals & standards to you = superior/inferior and a "personal attack" anyway, rather than simply...... different? This says a lot more about you than it does about me. I merely asked a question, as I was curious about the reasons guys would say no because I didn't believe the notion that it was simply for 'no reason at all' or as simple and insulting as 'all men bad'.

-Also no I didn't.

Reply 64

StriderHort

Meh, date? sure. I'm 30's, if i was to knock back mum's, well, that's an awful lot of women :tongue:

Taking things further is a bit iffy, but that's me, only child/don't bond well with kids, it's going to come down to how committed i am to the mum at end of the day.

Don't really get this Microchimerism thing, if anything I feel stronger for being able to rise above the dross of my genetic instincts (We own the world, diverse as hell, worked out own genome ect) this 'desire to pass on your genes' stuff is old hat and a weakness.

Reply 65

NowAndThen

If she's interesting and attractive, why not?

Reply 66

katf

I've dated a single mum before. Would do again if I was single.

Reply 67

NowAndThen

Original post by katf

I've dated a single mum before. Would do again if I was single.

That's great. I think it would be an interesting experience.

(edited 5 years ago)

Reply 68

Bang Outta Order

I am now, thank you. Love the kid. And I'm disappointed in you, thought you were a real lad having been homeless.

Reply 69

TommyDH

Original post by Bang Outta Order

I am now, thank you. Love the kid. And I'm disappointed in you, thought you were a real lad having been homeless.

That's great!

And what do you mean? I literally just asked reasons people won't. I've never once said you shouldn't, or it's wrong to. I said they seemed nice girls (the ones I was watching/listening to) and didn't understand why people weren't dating them, as neither did they. Hence my post asking - out of curiosity. How little did I know that this was some heinous crime that makes me worse than Hitler himself! :colonhash:

Sheesh.

Reply 70

It's****ingWOODY

Nah. Purely for the reason that I'm not interested in taking on someone else's kid, I don't even want to raise one of my own :lol:

Judging someone just because they've had sex without a condom in the past is rather silly, we've all done stupid things in the past.

Reply 71

Bang Outta Order

Original post by TommyDH

Sheesh.

we reading the same thread? You slaughtered single mums in your 1st post under your OP :laugh:

i see what you're saying about values and all, if she was like a jeremy kyle guest kinda single mum, but i mean...it's just rich coming from you, i'd have thought you'd be more supportive of people on hard times..

Reply 72

Bang Outta Order

Original post by It's****ingWOODY

Nah. Purely for the reason that I'm not interested in taking on someone else's kid, I don't even want to raise one of my own :lol:

Judging someone just because they've had sex without a condom in the past is rather silly, we've all done stupid things in the past.

you dont want em cos you're not a parental figure, but is it because you think low of em?

Reply 73

TommyDH

Original post by Bang Outta Order

we reading the same thread? You slaughtered single mums in your 1st post under your OP :laugh:

I am supportive, I've already said I've nothing against them, I think they should find dates and love and should be happy. Life's too short to spend it alone. I've not insulted them or put them down in anyway.

I just asked a question. :s-smilie:

Reply 74

Bang Outta Order

Original post by TommyDH

I really didn't. The only thing I said was we would be incompatible when it comes to morals and values, which I said multiple times are highly subjective (so that doesn't mean mine are good and theirs are bad, it just means.... different). Later I conceded my original assertions maybe wrong anyway.

I am supportive, I've already said I've nothing against them, I think they should find dates and love and should be happy. Life's too short to spend it alone. I've not insulted them or put them down in anyway.

I just asked a question. :s-smilie:

i think you're taking this too personally. i know you feel attacked bruh, but i literally just got here! dont take your anger out on me when i like you more than anyone does here?!

Reply 75

Ciel.

Original post by TommyDH

Would you? Why/why not?

Would not date a single dad, my man's attention needs to be focused on me. **** buddies, sure, why not, as long as he keeps the dirty brat far away from me.

Reply 76

bones-mccoy

I would if I was gay. My partner has a child from a previous marriage and it's never been a problem although I understand why some may not feel comfortable.

Reply 77

bones-mccoy

Original post by MrMusician95

Yes but as people have said, it depends. If she's in my age range so 20-30 and only one (max two kids) yes, I would. Any more is too many and if I find out the father wants to be involved and has been since birth and is not being allowed then I'm also leaving. That's a deal breaker for me.

Absolutely. Massive red flag.

Reply 78

Anonymous #3

Original post by TommyDH

Would you? Why/why not?

I’m a straight female, so I will answer whether I would date a single dad. The answer is that it depends. At this age I wouldn’t, I’m too young to be a stepmum. If I got a little older like 30+ I might, depending on the reason they are not together. Did they split up because they’re not compatible or the mum was in the wrong, or because the dad was abusive/a bad partner?