Is there any gay muslims that won&#x27;t commit gay sex?

Original post by Anonymous

Hi, just trying to find out if there are people like me who decided to put their homosexuality on hold for their deen. And if so, how they manage about their sexual tensions and moment of loneliness as well as the futur with marriage and family. I need answers plz

Assalaamu 'aleykum

Also what are your habits now - what do you watch on television, do you watch gay Youtubers, what kind of clothes do you wear, how do you behave and talk (e.g. have you developed an effeminate voice, are you a sassy person etc), what is your social circle like, do you feel you relate to the typical concept of 'masculinity'? I just want to understand more about your life now and when you were younger because perhaps it might help us/me to understand how best to help you or what to suggest.

Please provide as much detail about yourself as possible.

(edited 5 years ago)

Reply 3

Aleykum salam,
yeah i went to the website, it was a bit unislamic. Not really what i wanted 😁
Well my feelings emerged like every teenager around early mid school. I have never been abused by my familly and when it comes to bullying i guess like every kid in mid college not really too much. I don't watch tv im more on youtube and no gay youtubers. I wear normal casual stuff, im masculin and i am a very sportive person. I think i am like every men i know and im not sure what sassy means(im french sorry). I have mix gender friends and no one knows about me.
I ve been with girls and boys( in secret of course) but my religion became i big part of my life so i don't date anymore. I m more focused about my studies and inchallah career.
I started to watch a lot of porn both gay and hetero when i stoped dating( by the way, when i say date with guys, its not sexual relation i mean maybe kissing and huging but not more), after all the relationship i had, i can say im that kind of person that is 100% commited to the other and i project easily on the futur with kids and stuffs. Anyway thats it.
I m just going with my life, now its either staying single and fasting until the end or marry a woman and support it. Pretty sad i know, but i believe that maybe IF i go to jannah i will be able to be with a man even if it is haram on earth, like the wine and the silk clothes and gold 😁

Reply 4

badeebaa

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As long as you share the mainstream-orthodox belief that homosexual intercourse is a sin, then your mind will always be in torment.

You are hardwired to have these urges, same way straight men have them towards women. You will never control them, they will never cease to exist.

Every time you see an attractive man on the street, every time you're in the mosque praying and a handsome brother is next to you, there will be guilt and confusion.

Every time you see a gay couple enjoying their lives, you will feel envy and hate.

You marry a woman, you think it's going to help, but it's only made things a thousand times worse.

You decide to have children, surely they will comfort you in your miserable life, but no, you're only digging yourself in deeper down the rabbit hole.

This is your reality, the one you set out for yourself, by choosing to believe this is what Allah wants you to do.

Ask yourself, would Allah want this?

Reply 5

Asada786

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Massive respect for putting your desires on hold for your deen, Mashallah.

This is a test by Allah, smash it famm. Stay strong.

Reply 6

Original post by Xanimede

As long as you share the mainstream-orthodox belief that homosexual intercourse is a sin, then your mind will always be in torment.

You are hardwired to have these urges, same way straight men have them towards women. You will never control them, they will never cease to exist.

Every time you see an attractive man on the street, every time you're in the mosque praying and a handsome brother is next to you, there will be guilt and confusion.

Every time you see a gay couple enjoying their lives, you will feel envy and hate.

You marry a woman, you think it's going to help, but it's only made things a thousand times worse.

You decide to have children, surely they will comfort you in your miserable life, but no, you're only digging yourself in deeper down the rabbit hole.

This is your reality, the one you set out for yourself, by choosing to believe this is what Allah wants you to do.

Ask yourself, would Allah want this?

You are wrong we have control about our feelings, of course i will feel stuff about guys i ll met but i ll just control them as i did all those years. Not easy but it works well. I asked myself a thousand times about this, i am certain this is what Allah wants and he knows for sure how hard it is for me. Don 't get me wrong i am not saying its going to be easy choising this path but it will worth it at the end. Just wanted some advise from someone whos been there. I mean if u are not muslim you probably dont get what i m going through but thanks for your thoughts mate 😁

Reply 7

Ciel.

Original post by Anonymous

Hi, just trying to find out if there are people like me who decided to put their homosexuality on hold for their deen. And if so, how they manage about their sexual tensions and moment of loneliness as well as the futur with marriage and family. I need answers plz

Do you honestly believe that ruining some woman's life (you will never truly love her) will make your 'god' happy? Forget about your religion, and just do what you want - there is no after life anyway. And even if there were... why would any god care who do you sleep with.

Reply 8

username3941996

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Original post by BrownFace

You are wrong we have control about our feelings, of course i will feel stuff about guys i ll met but i ll just control them as i did all those years. Not easy but it works well. I asked myself a thousand times about this, i am certain this is what Allah wants and he knows for sure how hard it is for me. Don 't get me wrong i am not saying its going to be easy choising this path but it will worth it at the end. Just wanted some advise from someone whos been there. I mean if u are not muslim you probably dont get what i m going through but thanks for your thoughts mate 😁

Why would there be haram things in heaven? It’s a bit concerning you think you would be able to be gay in heaven?

Reply 9

Original post by Ciel.

Do you honestly believe that ruining some woman's life (you will never truly love her) will make your 'god' happy? Forget about your religion, and just do what you want - there is no after life anyway. And even if there were... why would any god care who do you sleep with.

You don't believe in god thats on you but plz don't impose your belief to mine plz. Maybe like some people,i could fall in love with a particular woman who knows. Maybe my god will answer my wishes. And what if i become happy with a woman. I am just asking for advise or experience from men in this kind of situation

Reply 10

Original post by Professional G

Why would there be haram things in heaven? It’s a bit concerning you think you would be able to be gay in heaven?

You said it yourself if there is nothing haram in heaven then homosexuality becomes acceptable or maybe it will disapear from me IF i go of course 😁

Reply 11

Ciel.

Original post by BrownFace

You don't believe in god thats on you but plz don't impose your belief to mine plz. Maybe like some people,i could fall in love with a particular woman who knows. Maybe my god will answer my wishes. And what if i become happy with a woman. I am just asking for advise or experience from men in this kind of situation

It's impossible for a gay man to stop being gay, plain and simple. I don't care what you do with your life, all I'm saying is that you will spend the rest of it being completely miserable if you continue to deny your true self.

Reply 12

Original post by Ciel.

It's impossible for a gay man to stop being gay, plain and simple. I don't care what you do with your life, all I'm saying is that you will spend the rest of it being completely miserable if you continue to deny your true self.

I never said i was going to stop feelings such things but i can somehow diminish its impact on my life. Its exactly what i did for the last fiew years and i dont feel miserable. The fact is that there are gay people that lived a hetero lifestyle and did well, i want advise from them, what i can do to improve my life in that way

Reply 13

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