Will the idea of getting married going be commonly looked at as outdated?

I think it is already becoming outdated. It is really only beneficial for the legal reasons to engage in marriage.

So if we were to disregard the legal processes involved, what about just the idea or philosophy of marriage? Like finding a person and spending the rest of your life with that one person even when your feelings fade away. Is that idea considered outdated as well?

Not sure what consititutes the "outside" world, but in the UK you are pretty much free to choose whichever path you like. And regardless of your preference of partner, civil partnerships or marraiges exist for all. I like the fact that I am married. I love the fact that the relationship with my wife is recorded as a public record for future generations to see and I feel secure knowing that my relationship is secured under law with a few perks to add.

Hahaha well by outside world I basically meant countries that aren’t so governed by culture so like America and the uk and Europe and stuff (or I think). My question though wasn’t whether they have the free will to do so but rather whether the idea of not getting married would ever be more socially prevalent and acceptable than getting married.

If things aren't working out you shouldn't stay in a relationship just because you are married, that is insane and unhealthy.

Of course. We have friends with and without kids in long term partnerships who are not married. However they are not protected by the law in the event of a break up. They also benefit from the small tax benefits.

this can only remian true... until you have kids.

Just today there was another article on the BBC about the outcomes of children with two parents and those with one. Even accounting for economic circumstances and including children in families with parents who are unhappy, on average there are still huge statistical disadvantages across the board for children coming from single-parent families.

If we want post-child devorce to be easy and the norm, then we need to completly re-structure the way we raise children in society... because at the moment its a disaster for the kids involved.

But by the actual social meaning of marriage, I would say it is reversed. My family member was never married, and never understood or considered themselves married... but my friend is married to his partner, both in his own attitude and how he functions within society. A peice of paper from the goverment, and an expensive party doesn't change the core meaning for me.

I think it is already becoming outdated. It is really only beneficial for the legal reasons to engage in marriage.

I think the legal rights and responsibilities conferred by marriage are the main reasons why it was ever actually beneficial in the first place.


For example, the legal ties created by marriage are more costly and time-consuming to get out of than simply ending a relationship. This means that if a person is willing to marry you, it is a greater indicator of long-term commitment to the relationship than if they simply move in with you, where they can simply get up and leave at any time, without warning.

Marriage also creates legal recognition of the sharing of property. Suppose a man and a woman have children, and the mother decides to leave her career to care for the child, on the presumption that the father will be financially supporting both of them (which is not uncommon at all). If they are unmarried, then she has no legal entitlement to any of his money at all. If the man dies, she will not be a beneficiary of his pension. If he gets annoyed at her one day and simply decides to stop paying for her food and clothing, there's not a lot she can do about it. It's a bigger risk to take in this case.


Whether the state legally recognises your relationship or not can be highly consequential.

Plenty of people used to do it for religious reasons as well as legal.

do you think that getting married would ever be considered outdated soon? I really hope it doesn't yet at the same time the more I think about marriage the more it kinda almost doesn't make sense. What do you think?

Sorry if I sound a lil sexist here (not my intent), but to me girls and women seem to hold onto the idea of getting married more strongly than dudes do.

Maybe it's to do with stories of messy divorces. Maybe it's gals being told that they should get married and super value their wedding cause it'll make them hella happys, whereas lads don't rlly get this narrative. Maybe it's both. I dunno. memes