How to stop cheating in a relationship

Hi there. Thanks for reading.

First of all, I want to say that I'm not looking for sympathy with this, only advice.
I've been in an exclusive relationship for 4 years with a great guy: he's kind, attentive, funny, and all the trimmings. I love him. To the outside world, we are a perfect couple. However, throughout the entire time that we have been together, I have constantly cheated on him through the use of certain phone apps (Grindr etc.). The men who I meet are simply there for sexual gratification- quick encounters with no strings. I know why I do it. There's a thrill to it, and I've convinced myself that, through these hookups, I can explore my sexuality and interests. I will also say openly that me and my boyfriend have different sexual needs. In short, I know deep down that I'm not satisfied sexually in our relationship, and that's precisely why I cheat.
Yet, in spite of this, I know i love my boyfriend (some may disagree given that I'm unfaithful) and want to remain with him. I couldn't imagine my life without him, and I crave the idea of being in a happy, committed, monogamous relationship. As such, I've decided that I have to stop cheating. I know I can't have my cake and eat it. I also know that if I continue to cheat, then I will eventually get caught, be it by a friend, himself or through an STI. The main reason for this is that Ive become the very person who I swore never to become; I don't want to continue to be a complete and utter ******** who disregards someone's love and trust so much that I would betray them in such a way.
So, my question is how I can do this? Is there any hope that I can stop doing this? Have any of you been a serial cheater? How did you deal with this? So many other couples in the world are completely faithful to one another. I know I'm not a bad person, yet I continue to do such horrible things.
I should say that I've decided to not tell my boyfriend about my unfaithfulness, for now.
I'll say again that I'm not looking for sympathy, and any advice, as frank as it may be, is appreciated.

Hi there. Thanks for reading.

First of all, I want to say that I'm not looking for sympathy with this, only advice.
I've been in an exclusive relationship for 4 years with a great guy: he's kind, attentive, funny, and all the trimmings. I love him. To the outside world, we are a perfect couple. However, throughout the entire time that we have been together, I have constantly cheated on him through the use of certain phone apps (Grindr etc.). The men who I meet are simply there for sexual gratification- quick encounters with no strings. I know why I do it. There's a thrill to it, and I've convinced myself that, through these hookups, I can explore my sexuality and interests. I will also say openly that me and my boyfriend have different sexual needs. In short, I know deep down that I'm not satisfied sexually in our relationship, and that's precisely why I cheat.
Yet, in spite of this, I know i love my boyfriend (some may disagree given that I'm unfaithful) and want to remain with him. I couldn't imagine my life without him, and I crave the idea of being in a happy, committed, monogamous relationship. As such, I've decided that I have to stop cheating. I know I can't have my cake and eat it. I also know that if I continue to cheat, then I will eventually get caught, be it by a friend, himself or through an STI. The main reason for this is that Ive become the very person who I swore never to become; I don't want to continue to be a complete and utter ******** who disregards someone's love and trust so much that I would betray them in such a way.
So, my question is how I can do this? Is there any hope that I can stop doing this? Have any of you been a serial cheater? How did you deal with this? So many other couples in the world are completely faithful to one another. I know I'm not a bad person, yet I continue to do such horrible things.
I should say that I've decided to not tell my boyfriend about my unfaithfulness, for now.
I'll say again that I'm not looking for sympathy, and any advice, as frank as it may be, is appreciated.

Hi there. Thanks for reading.

First of all, I want to say that I'm not looking for sympathy with this, only advice.
I've been in an exclusive relationship for 4 years with a great guy: he's kind, attentive, funny, and all the trimmings. I love him. To the outside world, we are a perfect couple. However, throughout the entire time that we have been together, I have constantly cheated on him through the use of certain phone apps (Grindr etc.). The men who I meet are simply there for sexual gratification- quick encounters with no strings. I know why I do it. There's a thrill to it, and I've convinced myself that, through these hookups, I can explore my sexuality and interests. I will also say openly that me and my boyfriend have different sexual needs. In short, I know deep down that I'm not satisfied sexually in our relationship, and that's precisely why I cheat.
Yet, in spite of this, I know i love my boyfriend (some may disagree given that I'm unfaithful) and want to remain with him. I couldn't imagine my life without him, and I crave the idea of being in a happy, committed, monogamous relationship. As such, I've decided that I have to stop cheating. I know I can't have my cake and eat it. I also know that if I continue to cheat, then I will eventually get caught, be it by a friend, himself or through an STI. The main reason for this is that Ive become the very person who I swore never to become; I don't want to continue to be a complete and utter ******** who disregards someone's love and trust so much that I would betray them in such a way.
So, my question is how I can do this? Is there any hope that I can stop doing this? Have any of you been a serial cheater? How did you deal with this? So many other couples in the world are completely faithful to one another. I know I'm not a bad person, yet I continue to do such horrible things.
I should say that I've decided to not tell my boyfriend about my unfaithfulness, for now.
I'll say again that I'm not looking for sympathy, and any advice, as frank as it may be, is appreciated.

Hi there. Thanks for reading.

First of all, I want to say that I'm not looking for sympathy with this, only advice.
I've been in an exclusive relationship for 4 years with a great guy: he's kind, attentive, funny, and all the trimmings. I love him. To the outside world, we are a perfect couple. However, throughout the entire time that we have been together, I have constantly cheated on him through the use of certain phone apps (Grindr etc.). The men who I meet are simply there for sexual gratification- quick encounters with no strings. I know why I do it. There's a thrill to it, and I've convinced myself that, through these hookups, I can explore my sexuality and interests. I will also say openly that me and my boyfriend have different sexual needs. In short, I know deep down that I'm not satisfied sexually in our relationship, and that's precisely why I cheat.
Yet, in spite of this, I know i love my boyfriend (some may disagree given that I'm unfaithful) and want to remain with him. I couldn't imagine my life without him, and I crave the idea of being in a happy, committed, monogamous relationship. As such, I've decided that I have to stop cheating. I know I can't have my cake and eat it. I also know that if I continue to cheat, then I will eventually get caught, be it by a friend, himself or through an STI. The main reason for this is that Ive become the very person who I swore never to become; I don't want to continue to be a complete and utter ******** who disregards someone's love and trust so much that I would betray them in such a way.
So, my question is how I can do this? Is there any hope that I can stop doing this? Have any of you been a serial cheater? How did you deal with this? So many other couples in the world are completely faithful to one another. I know I'm not a bad person, yet I continue to do such horrible things.
I should say that I've decided to not tell my boyfriend about my unfaithfulness, for now.
I'll say again that I'm not looking for sympathy, and any advice, as frank as it may be, is appreciated.

Hi there. Thanks for reading.

First of all, I want to say that I'm not looking for sympathy with this, only advice.
I've been in an exclusive relationship for 4 years with a great guy: he's kind, attentive, funny, and all the trimmings. I love him. To the outside world, we are a perfect couple. However, throughout the entire time that we have been together, I have constantly cheated on him through the use of certain phone apps (Grindr etc.). The men who I meet are simply there for sexual gratification- quick encounters with no strings. I know why I do it. There's a thrill to it, and I've convinced myself that, through these hookups, I can explore my sexuality and interests. I will also say openly that me and my boyfriend have different sexual needs. In short, I know deep down that I'm not satisfied sexually in our relationship, and that's precisely why I cheat.
Yet, in spite of this, I know i love my boyfriend (some may disagree given that I'm unfaithful) and want to remain with him. I couldn't imagine my life without him, and I crave the idea of being in a happy, committed, monogamous relationship. As such, I've decided that I have to stop cheating. I know I can't have my cake and eat it. I also know that if I continue to cheat, then I will eventually get caught, be it by a friend, himself or through an STI. The main reason for this is that Ive become the very person who I swore never to become; I don't want to continue to be a complete and utter ******** who disregards someone's love and trust so much that I would betray them in such a way.
So, my question is how I can do this? Is there any hope that I can stop doing this? Have any of you been a serial cheater? How did you deal with this? So many other couples in the world are completely faithful to one another. I know I'm not a bad person, yet I continue to do such horrible things.
I should say that I've decided to not tell my boyfriend about my unfaithfulness, for now.
I'll say again that I'm not looking for sympathy, and any advice, as frank as it may be, is appreciated.

It isn't fair to your boyfriend to not know about this. Imagine if it was you being totally faithful, and he was the one constantly cheating on you. You would want to know who you're really with, right? You owe it to him to tell him so he can decide if he wants to be with you. You don't get to decide for him if he stays with a cheater or not.

Personally, I think you need to break up with him and let him find someone who truly loves and respects him. You wouldn't repeatedly cheat if you did love and respect him, you would have communicated with him about how you're dissatisfied with your sex life and worked out a solution with him.

I really hope for the poor guy's sake he finds out and can then make his own decision. He will find out, either through you or someone else. It'll be a lot worse if he hears it and from someone else.

i hope you know if she tells him..it could break the relationship.. cuz he wouldn't trust her and see her as the same anymore. i hope you know

i hope you know if she tells him..it could break the relationship.. cuz he wouldn't trust her and see her as the same anymore. i hope you know

Who are you Ciel? I'm not a troll. I'm asking for advice. Thanks.

Hi there. Thanks for reading.

First of all, I want to say that I'm not looking for sympathy with this, only advice.
I've been in an exclusive relationship for 4 years with a great guy: he's kind, attentive, funny, and all the trimmings. I love him. To the outside world, we are a perfect couple. However, throughout the entire time that we have been together, I have constantly cheated on him through the use of certain phone apps (Grindr etc.). The men who I meet are simply there for sexual gratification- quick encounters with no strings. I know why I do it. There's a thrill to it, and I've convinced myself that, through these hookups, I can explore my sexuality and interests. I will also say openly that me and my boyfriend have different sexual needs. In short, I know deep down that I'm not satisfied sexually in our relationship, and that's precisely why I cheat.
Yet, in spite of this, I know i love my boyfriend (some may disagree given that I'm unfaithful) and want to remain with him. I couldn't imagine my life without him, and I crave the idea of being in a happy, committed, monogamous relationship. As such, I've decided that I have to stop cheating. I know I can't have my cake and eat it. I also know that if I continue to cheat, then I will eventually get caught, be it by a friend, himself or through an STI. The main reason for this is that Ive become the very person who I swore never to become; I don't want to continue to be a complete and utter ******** who disregards someone's love and trust so much that I would betray them in such a way.
So, my question is how I can do this? Is there any hope that I can stop doing this? Have any of you been a serial cheater? How did you deal with this? So many other couples in the world are completely faithful to one another. I know I'm not a bad person, yet I continue to do such horrible things.
I should say that I've decided to not tell my boyfriend about my unfaithfulness, for now.
I'll say again that I'm not looking for sympathy, and any advice, as frank as it may be, is appreciated.