I decided to ask a girl out. Unfortunately, I was rejected.

hey well done on asking her out.... it requires courage

don't get hung up on her; there are plenty more out there

Put simply. Move on with your life. These kind of hypotheticals are detrimental to your mental health, like you don't know WHETHER she actually liked you, WHETHER she'd date you before the boyfriend or even WHETHER she'd even be thinking of dating for a while if she HAPPENED to break up with the current boyfriend. Just cool down and think of what other opportunities for happiness is available in your life.

Best thread title I've ever seen.

Yeah, I overthink too much which is often why I never reveal my feelings. I think I chose the best girl to ask out first as I knew if I was rejected she is too friendly to hurt me. I'll move on from this situation and most likely come out stronger from it. Thank you

Hey all, so this is a follow-up question from my last one.

That girl I spoke about, I realised I couldn't stop thinking about her and just had to ask. Of course, this was my 1st time EVER asking a girl on a date, so it was kinda soppy and looking back - probably a little cringey. But I genuienly think it touched her heart.

I hate it that I found out she had a boyfriend btw. I just wasn't expecting it, but I continued to send my feelings anyway.

Her response: "I didn't know you felt that way. I appreciate you telling me but as you know I do have a boyfriend and I think it would be really inappropriate to go for food for obvious reasons, but I wish you the best for the future"

I felt compassion actually flowing through that response - it just proves how nice I thought she was - however it is still going to be agonising not seeing her until like June now.

Do you think if I told her before she got a boyfriend things would have been differently?

Should I try to forget about my crush for her or should I hold hope that someday we can go for 'food'?

Thanks for any thoughts

That's just a standard polite rejection. There's no 'compassion' there whatsoever. Don't read into it; just leave it.

Hey all, so this is a follow-up question from my last one.

That girl I spoke about, I realised I couldn't stop thinking about her and just had to ask. Of course, this was my 1st time EVER asking a girl on a date, so it was kinda soppy and looking back - probably a little cringey. But I genuienly think it touched her heart.

I hate it that I found out she had a boyfriend btw. I just wasn't expecting it, but I continued to send my feelings anyway.

Her response: "I didn't know you felt that way. I appreciate you telling me but as you know I do have a boyfriend and I think it would be really inappropriate to go for food for obvious reasons, but I wish you the best for the future"

I felt compassion actually flowing through that response - it just proves how nice I thought she was - however it is still going to be agonising not seeing her until like June now.

Do you think if I told her before she got a boyfriend things would have been differently?

Should I try to forget about my crush for her or should I hold hope that someday we can go for 'food'?

Thanks for any thoughts

Girls use the "boyfriend" excuse when they do have a boyfriend, and a lot of the time when they don't have a boyfriend too to reject guys.

Honestly the vast amount of times i've asked out girls and they've said they have a boyfriend [and actually had one] ...they probably wouldn't have gone out with me anyway ...even if they were single imo

there's no way to tell if she would have said to you if she didn't have a boyfriend so don't loose sleep over it....

Do girls always wish best luck for the future at the end? 😂

I dunno. But you're reading into it way too much, trying to get your hopes up. Whenever people get rejected from anything there's always something similar to that at the end just to be polite. Like if you got rejected from a job you could expect such a last sentence if they were feeling polite.

I am probably reading into to much yeah 😅. It'll be because I know how nice she is. I hope next time I see her (whenever that will be) nothing is awkward and actually this experience grows us closer together (as in; next time I see her, a conversation starts etc)

Hey all, so this is a follow-up question from my last one.

That girl I spoke about, I realised I couldn't stop thinking about her and just had to ask. Of course, this was my 1st time EVER asking a girl on a date, so it was kinda soppy and looking back - probably a little cringey. But I genuienly think it touched her heart.

I hate it that I found out she had a boyfriend btw. I just wasn't expecting it, but I continued to send my feelings anyway.

Her response: "I didn't know you felt that way. I appreciate you telling me but as you know I do have a boyfriend and I think it would be really inappropriate to go for food for obvious reasons, but I wish you the best for the future"

I felt compassion actually flowing through that response - it just proves how nice I thought she was - however it is still going to be agonising not seeing her until like June now.

Do you think if I told her before she got a boyfriend things would have been differently?

Should I try to forget about my crush for her or should I hold hope that someday we can go for 'food'?

Thanks for any thoughts