I am intensely negative and over-sensitive

First off I apologise on behalf of the whole human race, and at the very least this website, for being a sack of ****. I don't quite understand why threads like yours where you are clearly struggling are ignored but untold nonsense is spammed with never ending replies.

I don't have anything to say apart from I suffer from exactly the same thing and wanted to acknowledge that I had listened.

Thank you so much, I don't know why but it's a small comfort to know that somebody has actually bothered to read about my troubles. I feel that if there is over one paragraph, nobody can be asked to read it...

I really want to help you but I don't know a solution. Yes people are probably too lazy, so sad.

You’ve acknowledged what your problems are so you can only work on resolving that.
I think it’s narrow minded to assume that people who have therapy are dense. That indicates what sort of ego you have.
You haven’t been able to sort it yourself so avail yourself of professional help

No worries, you said you were going through the same thing, I hope we can both find a way around this....

I don't mean to sound rude at all, but that's another vague statement that doesn't really help me. The hardest part IS that I acknowledge my issues, I just have no idea how to fix them.

Again, I didn't mean my comment about therapy in a rude way. I don't assume that people who have therapy are dense, maybe because I'm so sensitive, I just cannot physically understand how a person can be helped, knowing that they are talking to a person who is just doing their job, who (unless they have known each other for a while), can have no real emotional connection, who is getting paid upward of £40 in a lot of cases to be sat there - is just beyond me. If you are helped by therapy, I am happy for you. About my ego... I really have none lol, that was crushed years ago.

It’s not vague really. You have issues, you can’t solve them yourself. You need professional help
You’re not really going to get anything else from anyone
There’s two options. Do nothing or seek help
There’s not much else people can say

It feels chemical to me: I know exactly what my problems are and how to fix them, I simply cannot be talked out of an emotion I am feeling I think. Talking does not really work at the minute for me.

Is therapy really the endgame? As I have already said, I was at therapy for 5 months, and it did nothing. I was at counselling during secondary school for a while as well and that again, did nothing. I tried my best every time.

Even if you aren't able to give me some advice, I have no problem with waiting on others haha! I hope somebody can give me a few words.

precisely this! I think this is a big part of the reason why therapy never worked for me.

I’m really not sure what help anyone here can give you to be honest.
I’ve never needed therapy but I do believe it’s helpful.
If you’re just looking for simple tips to try and improve your positivity then can I suggest that every morning when you get up you look for one thing that is good about the day. It can be as simple as the weather.
Look in the mirror and tell yourself something that you like about yourself. Even if it’s simple like your hair looks good. It will be difficult to start with as you’re not used to it. Over time do it with everything throughout the day. Wherever you are and whatever situation you’re in, find one positive thing to say. Eventually it will be second nature but I expect it will be hard for a while. Nothing to lose by trying

Is this the sort of thing you were looking for?

Hi! I've been through a really similar thing. What I found really helped was antidepressants; and I know a lot of people are against them, but they truly do help lift your mood, especially if you feel your issue is chemical. I can understand your frustration as you feel therapy hasn't solved things - this may be because it's not the right therapy for you. I assume you were given cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) which attempts to 'change' your thoughts to more positive ones, which can be incredibly helpful for some people (like my mother) but did not work for me. This is a really common case and it may be that other kinds of therapy work for you.

However, what might be a bigger issue is that you might not be responding well to therapy because you're not in the right mindset for it. If your low mood and negative feelings are particularly intense, it will inhibit your ability to engage with what the person is saying, which will reduce the effectiveness of the help you are receiving. I found that when I was depressed but not on medication, I found it really hard to take in what they were saying and do self-help, as I was too mentally drained. But when I began taking medications, my mood was lifted to a point where I wasn't too tired to do the things they were asking, over and over again. It takes a lot of practise, and when you're really unwell you can't really do it. That's why therapy AND medications are considered the most effective treatment option!

I would see what your doctor says ultimately, as they are the experts and can give you the best advice about the next steps. For some people medications really help so it might be worth considering! If nothing else, know it will be okay and trust me, people do want to help you <3 good luck!

Thank you for the advice. Not sure what people on here can give me either, but also not sure what a therapist could either lol! I will wait.
I'm not helped by simply talking to myself (or others).. but I suppose as you said, nothing to lose by trying...

Have you tried medication? I was using medication for a while and it helped but it reduced my cognition greatly (memory, concentration). I'm considering other medication but I think this may just be something we are cursed with, our burden to keep unfortunately.

Yes, i agree. In the least vain way possible (because it's not a good thing), I think some people are just born really... hyper-sensitive? If I could tune down everything around me and my thoughts, that would be perfect.

Do you mind me asking what kind of medication you took?

Hi! I've been through a really similar thing. What I found really helped was antidepressants; and I know a lot of people are against them, but they truly do help lift your mood, especially if you feel your issue is chemical. I can understand your frustration as you feel therapy hasn't solved things - this may be because it's not the right therapy for you. I assume you were given cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) which attempts to 'change' your thoughts to more positive ones, which can be incredibly helpful for some people (like my mother) but did not work for me. This is a really common case and it may be that other kinds of therapy work for you.

However, what might be a bigger issue is that you might not be responding well to therapy because you're not in the right mindset for it. If your low mood and negative feelings are particularly intense, it will inhibit your ability to engage with what the person is saying, which will reduce the effectiveness of the help you are receiving. I found that when I was depressed but not on medication, I found it really hard to take in what they were saying and do self-help, as I was too mentally drained. But when I began taking medications, my mood was lifted to a point where I wasn't too tired to do the things they were asking, over and over again. It takes a lot of practise, and when you're really unwell you can't really do it. That's why therapy AND medications are considered the most effective treatment option!

I would see what your doctor says ultimately, as they are the experts and can give you the best advice about the next steps. For some people medications really help so it might be worth considering! If nothing else, know it will be okay and trust me, people do want to help you <3 good luck!