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I have problems with getting aroused. It’s starting to cause problems with my boyfriend because he wants sex way more often than I do. I’m just not interested in sex, not to mention that I rarely masterbate. Any suggestions on how to feel aroused more often?
get a new boyfriend. out with the old, in with the new.
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Hate to break it to you, but I’ve had this problem with everybperson I’ve been with. It’s on me.
Original post by arthur191202
get a new boyfriend. out with the old, in with the new.
There are several types of sexual dysfunctions. They can be lifelong problems that have always been present, acquired problems that develop after a period of normal sexual function or situational problems that develop only under certain circumstances or with certain partners. Causes of sexual dysfunctions can be psychological, physical or related to interpersonal relationships or sociocultural influences.

Psychological causes can include:

stress from work or family responsibilities
concern about sexual performance
depression/anxiety
unresolved sexual orientation issues
previous traumatic sexual or physical experience
body image and self-esteem problems

Physical causes can include:

diabetes
heart disease
liver disease
kidney disease
pelvic surgery
pelvic injury or trauma
neurological disorders
medication side effects
hormonal changes, including those related to pregnancy and menopause
thyroid disease
alcohol or drug abuse
fatigue


Got this from this website, check it out: https://www.healthywomen.org/condition/sexual-dysfunction
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Original post by Funnystiff
I have problems with getting aroused. It’s starting to cause problems with my boyfriend because he wants sex way more often than I do. I’m just not interested in sex, not to mention that I rarely masterbate. Any suggestions on how to feel aroused more often?

You need to see a gp to check out whether there are any medical reasons. Also could there be stress issues?
I don’t think this is a question on how to get aroused more often but why you might be feeling that way - may that be due to mental health problems (such as depression), lack of sex drive - which is perfectly normal - due to sexuality (being asexual), or even simply due to the fact you’re just not ready for sex yet.

But most importantly, your boyfriend (and future partners) should be more supportive with the fact that you aren’t comfortable to have sex. A relationship is built up of a variety of building blocks but the foundation should not be sex. With a foundation of a relationship being supported by sex only leads to a relationship where there is a lack of emotional support (such as being frustrated with the fact that you don’t want to have sex and yet not bothering to understand why that might be the case)
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Thank you for your response. Oddly enough I find my mind wanting sex and thinking about it regularly. But when it comes down to the act itself, my body just doesn’t react to what my minds wants. I freeze up.
Original post by Lauren.jl
I don’t think this is a question on how to get aroused more often but why you might be feeling that way - may that be due to mental health problems (such as depression), lack of sex drive - which is perfectly normal - due to sexuality (being asexual), or even simply due to the fact you’re just not ready for sex yet.

But most importantly, your boyfriend (and future partners) should be more supportive with the fact that you aren’t comfortable to have sex. A relationship is built up of a variety of building blocks but the foundation should not be sex. With a foundation of a relationship being supported by sex only leads to a relationship where there is a lack of emotional support (such as being frustrated with the fact that you don’t want to have sex and yet not bothering to understand why that might be the case)
Original post by Funnystiff
Thank you for your response. Oddly enough I find my mind wanting sex and thinking about it regularly. But when it comes down to the act itself, my body just doesn’t react to what my minds wants. I freeze up.


I think this might be a problem revolving around body image and performance anxiety. Am I wrong to assume that this may be related ?
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Original post by Funnystiff
I have problems with getting aroused. It’s starting to cause problems with my boyfriend because he wants sex way more often than I do. I’m just not interested in sex, not to mention that I rarely masterbate. Any suggestions on how to feel aroused more often?

Could be body confidence issue?
just cos you don't wanna have sex doesn't mean that there's anything wrong with you , I don't either
Original post by cherlloydfan
just cos you don't wanna have sex doesn't mean that there's anything wrong with you , I don't either


It’s not to say there’s anything wrong with them but more so just trying to help them figure out why they might be feeling a particular way - this isn’t necessarily negative
Original post by Funnystiff
I have problems with getting aroused. It’s starting to cause problems with my boyfriend because he wants sex way more often than I do. I’m just not interested in sex, not to mention that I rarely masterbate. Any suggestions on how to feel aroused more often?


stop watch porn
ban adult material
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Original post by Funnystiff
Thank you for your response. Oddly enough I find my mind wanting sex and thinking about it regularly. But when it comes down to the act itself, my body just doesn’t react to what my minds wants. I freeze up.

do you do much foreplay? it might help you to get him to tease you first

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