Never know what to say IRL

It’s fine to have social anxiety. Actually pretty normal for some people. That describes me to an extent. I’m generally improving my conversation skills in real life but online, it does sound like I’m a different person.

Perhaps you enjoy talking to people you are comfortable with.

I was thinking that at first but I can't do it even with people I'm comfortable with. It happened once with a teacher and for the rest of the year, all I could say were basically simple short things. I can't talk freely to my best friend. It feels so much easier to type everything.

I can relate to the whole seeming like a different person thing. I hope that I get better at talking to people in real life. Same goes to you, honestly all the best with that.

To be honest the whole social anxiety thing, just sucks. It isn't getting any better. It's like an easy way to get held back in life. You have anything you would like to do but you struggle with because of something you can't control?

It takes time to get used to being comfortable around people.
As long as you have the motivation, gradually you’ll become more confident.
Just get used to trying small talk and being friendly.

It’s common. Thanks, just have to take risks and put yourself out there. There’s no harm in trying.

No one chooses to being socially anxious but you shouldn’t let that stop you from being the person you want to be.

Maybe finding a girlfriend but that’s a common thing and I’m getting better at being myself around others. Just have to find someone I guess.

Yeah, I'm planning to go in small steps. Still, suck at the small talk thing. Been trying it but it isn't going far yet but I did get hella good at talking online. On a side note, I'm extremely good at dealing with setting up appointments and dealing with the authority as long as I know exactly what I'm doing.

I am trying not to let it stop me from doing things but I am on the extreme end, need help and have been trying to get myself to get some but it's been a long journey. I ended up trying to set appointments, once I called and guess what, they were closed for the day, another day I came a bit too late and they ran out of appointments and that really sucks. Once upon the time, I couldn't talk to people at all. Not even stuff like "yes" or "no." I could try to force myself but nothing would come out, it felt like I had something stuck in my throat.

You have anyone you're interested in yet?

Yeah, I'm planning to go in small steps. Still, suck at the small talk thing. Been trying it but it isn't going far yet but I did get hella good at talking online. On a side note, I'm extremely good at dealing with setting up appointments and dealing with the authority as long as I know exactly what I'm doing.

I am trying not to let it stop me from doing things but I am on the extreme end, need help and have been trying to get myself to get some but it's been a long journey. I ended up trying to set appointments, once I called and guess what, they were closed for the day, another day I came a bit too late and they ran out of appointments and that really sucks. Once upon the time, I couldn't talk to people at all. Not even stuff like "yes" or "no." I could try to force myself but nothing would come out, it felt like I had something stuck in my throat.

You have anyone you're interested in yet?

It’s about having faith and practice. Just keep practicing and getting used to talking to people.

Sometimes, even going through conversations you had will help.

It’s just a bit of bad luck. Something which isn’t uncommon. There are resources online that could help. I had to have lessons due to me being unable to talk to people but it made a difference and now I am able to talk to anyone.

Not yet. It’s been hard to find people but it’s not anything I’m fussing over. The right person will come naturally I guess.

Hey this happens to me too!!
Once I was talking to this guy (we had met before) on text and it was so easy, we never ran out of things to say. And when we met in irl it’s like I was a different person- I couldn’t put a single sentence together without talking nonsense in between! I have social anxiety too so that’s probably a factor. Going to follow this thread because I want to know why this happens to us too :L

Also, that feeling of having something in your throat is also common. It’s a symptom of anxiety. Being confident and learning to over come your anxiety will help lessen that feeling.

Hard to say but you know what, at the very least we got the "talking online" thing figured out. That sounds like a step in the right direction

True, so many people find it hard to talk over text. I think for me it comes from social anxiety too because I feel like when I am in person there is a high expectation to be just as you are over text. Especially because say you are cracking a witty joke, there is ample time to think of it in comparison to when you are face to face. Even writing this is easier than saying it in person when you are on the spot in my opinion?

Best of luck with that. Just make sure that the right person is truly right for you because there is no point in trying to make a relationship work when it won't. Btw, you on here often? I remember seeing you since like 2018. You're very active on here.

I don't really lack confidence. I know it's a common thing for people with social anxiety to have an issue with it and it does make sense when you think about it but honestly, anxiety is a thing that lacks sense. Maybe I do have an issue with confidence (even if it's just a slight one) that I don't really notice.