LGBTQIA+ Muslim!! I'm homeless, my parents disowned me! Help please!!

I'm female and I want to transition to being male. I'm asexual and aromantic too btw. I never really felt feminine and I hate being a woman. When I told my parents they got angry and kicked me out. I'm using my mobile data to write this. I have enough money for a few days but it's not enough..

Advice please!

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Reply 1

Obolinda

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Reply 2

Wired_1800

Original post by LGBTMuslim

Go to your local council and tell them you are trans and need support. You should be speaking with the Council more than TSR.

why would you...

what ???

Original post by BLACKPINKK

why would you...

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Call your local council and tell them the situation - tell them that you've become homeless and then they have the responsibility to find you somewhere to stay. If possible, even apply for universal credit because if you're 16-18 you can apply since you'd be classed as estranged from parents. I'd also look into the YMCA housing within your area, they may have rooms available and if they do, and you want a room - they will interview you and then decide if they will give you the room. They're usually really good with giving rooms, especially if you're homeless. If you try looking on booking.com for rooms at hostels while you sort something out, they can be cheap depending on the area. I wish you all the luck in the world and I'm really sorry that your parents have done this. If you need any more advice, just ask. I've recently just helped my boyfriend who had been made homeless, and I can do research for you. I can send you my number if you want to talk any more.

Reply 7

LGBTMuslim

thanks i'll get in touch with them .. why do you not agree with being trans?

Original post by JesusisGod

You could call childline: https://www.childline.org.uk/ or call homeless helplines, and/or find a trusted friend or family member.

https://england.shelter.org.uk/housing_advice/homelessness/your_situation/homeless_help_your_situation_-_16_and_17_year_olds
https://www.runawayhelpline.org.uk/
https://www.supportline.org.uk/problems/children-and-young-people-support/
http://www.youthaccess.org.uk/supernav/links
https://www.themix.org.uk/
https://www.familylives.org.uk/advice/your-family/social-services-and-your-family/social-services-and-your-family/

I personally do not agree with transgenderism, but I think the important thing now is safety.

If you are under 16 I don't believe parents in the UK have the legal right to not provide for you. If you are 16-17 you have priority for housing. http://england.shelter.org.uk/legal/homelessness_applications/priority_need/16-_and_17-year-olds

Reply 8

Facesareablxr

Try these: https://www.crisis.org.uk/get-help/
They're a charity within the UK who may be able to help, they're in 12 locations across the UK. Do you also have basic necessities? If not, they're should be some charities nearby who are able to give you a bag of items to carry with you, and some food for the time being.

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I want to transition from being female to male. I hate being a woman it's horrible for me.

it's not a sexual thing i'm asexual and aromantic i just don't feel like a girl. i hate feminine things i love short hair, boys clothes and video games.. i am a man on the inside not a woman..

My parents kicked me out and said I cannot return unless I stay as my assigned gender at birth. as a muslim i should obey my parents .

What should I do? Continue being female or leave but lose my family and be male?

Reply 11

HS2030

Do what you think will make you happy.
What are your beliefs?
Do you agree with your religion?
I know my choice, but if I told you, it's not your own.
You have to walk the walk alone i'm afraid, but if you need support....DMs

I'm 16

I am Muslim but I think being LGBT+ is natural in some people. I interpret my religion in a liberal and an open minded way. I'm not a muslim fundamentalist..
Tell me what to do?
What is your choice tell me please?

Original post by HS2030

Reply 14

fallen_acorns

firstly.. enjoying you calling an incredibly liberal/accepting person transphobic. Its a pretty telling thing to do...

Secondly.. i've been there and done the trans thing. take your time with it - don't rush into it, and remember a few things:

1, nothing magically changes after you come out.. its a long process if you do go down that route, and you need to be mentally capable of dealing with it - that starts with being stable enough before you set off, something which you don't seem to be.
2, you can express as much 'male' characteristics as you like without transitioning. You have 2 years until your an adult and can do what you like and leave home easily. It may be that the most sensible route is that you just be a really really boyish girl for the next two years, then when your at uni - do what ever the hell you want and your parents won't be able to do a thing
3, Gender non-conformity doesn't mean your transgender.. and mental-pain comes from many sources. Really take your time to question yourself and think whether your pain is caused by your gender, or whether there are wider reasons.

I ask you to think about them because from personal experience, they really matter. It may be that you go through all of it, and then still decide there is no option but to transition - in which case go to your GP and get the ball rolling if you can deal with your parents, if you cant, then wait..

For me, I have always been a bit of a gender-non conformist.. I could easily make the opposite list that you did about girl things.. and when I was going through a really bad time, I was really anxious, depressed and down, I thought the two were connected.. I am feeling awful, and I don't fully conform to my gender? I must be transgender, and this feeling must be dysphoria. After that its very easy to convince yourself that your feelings are real, and painful. No one can question you because only you know your feelings, so its really simple to have people believe you. Turns out for me though it was wrong, I caused myself years more of pain, lost a lot of people, created permanent scars in my relationships with my family, missed some of the potentially best years of my life... all of which led me to exile myself away from everything half of the way around the world. Turns out I am not transgender, I'm just a boy who has a few more feminine tendencies then most boys, and who gets along with girls better then boys.. turns out it wasn't dysphoria I was feeling it was an awful bout of depression with some other mental health issues thrown in, that I would eventually somewhat work my way through.

I wish I could say that I would have listened to myself back then, but honestly - if someone told me what I am telling you know, I would have told them to **** off for being a trans phobic ****.

Still, you can always try.

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Reply 15

talise.2625

if you don't feel like a girl and you actually feel like a boy, there's nothing more you can do than to wait till you can actually move from your parents. you can't do anything about it, unless there's a place for you to go. start with a binder and then move onwards slowly. this sorta stuff takes over a year though, so you need to be careful and you can't actually do it all untill you're away from your parents tbh

Reply 16

BurstingBubbles

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@LGBTMuslim

Hi there,

Just to let you know I've moved your 3 threads into one as they are on the same subject. Please don't post more than one thread on the same topic unless a number of months have passed. This is a general rule, no matter what the content.

I hope things get better for you soon!

Reply 17

BurstingBubbles

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Moderation note: please do not post anything offensive, off-topic, or spam in threads. Debating transgender issues should go in the Society forum, this thread is to offer advice and support only. Please think about how your words may affect other, very vulnerable people. Any further rule breaking rules will be removed and warned.

Thank you.

Reply 18

cf_99

Original post by LGBTMuslim

Look, I know it's horrible for you, but I think that you should stay female for now and continue to live with your parents. If you hate them so much, then call a helpline. You were clearly subjected to abuse from them (that is kicking you out of the house) and you have every right to target them for abuse and to let the authorities deal with them. That being said, you may not want your parents to go on trial and that would mean having to live with them until you're an adult, I guess.

I would personally, take legal action against them as you seem to have suffered a lot from their ignorance.

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Reply 19

JesusisGod

Original post by LGBTMuslim

thanks i'll get in touch with them .. why do you not agree with being trans?

Glad to hear that. Hope you will stay safe.

Do you have anyone trusted other than your parents to discuss your situation and feelings with?

If you attend school you could find a time to speak with a trusted school staff, such as a school counsellor, school social worker or teacher (maybe email them).