Boyfriend can’t stay over

Okay so, I’m a uni student who lives in a house with two housemates. My boyfriend occasionally visits and when he does he would stay over ( in my room) since he lives far. One of my housemates told me he wouldn’t be able to stay during her religious period of Ramadan as she won’t be allowed to ‘be living with’ a guy. This basically means he won’t be able to visit as he lives too far to come and go back home the same day. I understand I need to respect her and her religion but at the same time I’ll be really affected by her religious beliefs for a whole month where I won’t be able sleep next to or meet my boyfriend (I have exams so we had plans for him to just come over and chill). Just would like others opinions on this, and what you would do if you were in my position?

Okay so, I’m a uni student who lives in a house with two housemates. My boyfriend occasionally visits and when he does he would stay over ( in my room) since he lives far. One of my housemates told me he wouldn’t be able to stay during her religious period of Ramadan as she won’t be allowed to ‘be living with’ a guy. This basically means he won’t be able to visit as he lives too far to come and go back home the same day. I understand I need to respect her and her religion but at the same time I’ll be really affected by her religious beliefs for a whole month where I won’t be able sleep next to or meet my boyfriend (I have exams so we had plans for him to just come over and chill). Just would like others opinions on this, and what you would do if you were in my position?

I would say that you respect her beliefs, but it's your house too and you need to be able to be comfortable. Your boyfriend isn't living at the house, therefore she isn't living with him. Honestly, it's unreasonable of her to ask this. I would still let your boyfriend come over. If she objects, just say it's unrealistic for her to expect this of you, and point out that he is a guest, a visitor, not a housemate, so she isn't living with him. I thought Muslim women weren't allowed to live with non-family men all the time? Please correct me if I'm wrong, but if she's okay with it at other times then it's fine during her more religious period too.

As someone who observes the Holy month of Ramadan,your boyfriend staying over does not effect her fasting since 1 he's not staying with her and 2 aslong as she is not engaging in any activities with him... The only thing that would effect this is if you and your boyfriend engage in activities that can disturb the period of Ramadan e.g. Listening to music outloud, smoking and drinking around the house etc.
Personally I think if you guys could just be a bit sensitive when she is around, there shouldn't be a problem

Islamically, his temporary stay will not affect her given that there is no excessive interaction and her personal affairs are carried out in privacy. You should let her know that it won't hinder her fasts and perhaps research a bit on it to clarify any rulings.

As someone who observes the Holy month of Ramadan,your boyfriend staying over does not effect her fasting since 1 he's not staying with her and 2 aslong as she is not engaging in any activities with him... The only thing that would effect this is if you and your boyfriend engage in activities that can disturb the period of Ramadan e.g. Listening to music outloud, smoking and drinking around the house etc.
Personally I think if you guys could just be a bit sensitive when she is around, there shouldn't be a problem

no thats why its her religious period is seperate to normal days you need to be the most religious and following the rules to the T, as long as you keep to yourself with your boyfriend or whatever and dont disturb her i think its okay but i dont know everything so do your research on the does and donts during ramadan and as long as you talk to each other or maybe she can visit her family or you yours or reach a compromise i think that would be good

She also needs to respect that her housemates don't follow the same rules and religion as her. In this case, especially if it turns out having the boyfriend over wont affect her, she needs to accept it. In future she should perhaps live with other muslims to avoid this conflict. Respect works both ways. The OP sounds perfectly reasonable, and sounds like having her boyfriend round will barely be noticeable.

Yeah I understand and agree. For those who observe Ramadan, are there a set of rules that’s the same for everyone or is it flexible with your personal beliefs as well. Because most people on here, such as yourself, are agreeing with me that it does not actually count as her living with my boyfriend, however if she personally still believes it’s wrong and makes her feel wrong, is it worth saying anything else to her or should I just drop the matter and listen to her?

Well boo hoo, at least you have a boyfriend.

It’s not that difficult to get a boy interested. You don’t need to show cleavage or anything, just talk to them lol

I just don’t know how to let her know without coming across as kind of rude , especially since I am not a Muslim and she is. She may feel as though I’m questioning her beliefs if I’m not careful?

Its not as easy as you make out or everyone would have someone.