My boyfriend wants to have a sleepover with two other girls Watch

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My boyfriend and I were supposed to go to a movie next Friday, but then he suddenly said he couldn't go anymore. I asked him what he was going to do instead, but he didn't want to tell me. Eventually, the girl, he apparently was going to sleep over with, told me because she's a good friend of mine and I asked her what her plans for the weekend were. My boyfriend, that girl and another female friend of theirs (so my boyfriend and two other girls) meet up quite often. Now, I don't mind him having other female friends, but he has said some weird things about my friend.He said he thinks she's a pretty girl, he said he would sleep with her and he said he sees potential in her and that maybe they could be together someday. He also talks about her pretty often. At the same time, he says that they are just friends, but I would never say such things about my male friends. The thing is, he often ignores me on social media and then goes talking to her. It just seems like he'd rather be with her than with me and him acting this way makes me feel like I'm completely worthless to him. When I went to talk to him about the sleepover, he said he didn't want me to know because I'd get grumpy about it. I reacted sad about it and I find it very stupid of myself to have reacted that way. Now he ignores me. I don't know what to do, because he doesn't want to talk to me anymore, but still talks to my friend. My question is, do I just agree with him going over there (I don't really have a choice, but imagine if) or tell him that I don't want it?
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Does he know that you’re his girlfriend?
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You seem very open-minded about the idea, so why did he think you'd get mad?

Him feeling the need to hide it is what is more problematic here.
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Yes he does
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Does he know that you’re his girlfriend?
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your boyfriend is basically cucking you lmfao
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He thinks that I'd get in a moodswing, so that's why he didn't want me to tell him
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You seem very open-minded about the idea, so why did he think you'd get mad?

Him feeling the need to hide it is what is more problematic here.
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Tell him to upload the results to the internet.
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LMAO no he wouldn't go that far
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Tell him to upload the results to the internet.
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He thinks that I'd get in a moodswing, so that's why he didn't want me to tell him
Sounds more like he’s projecting his guilt here: by using how you might react as a way to justify hiding it from you.
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I don't see the point of this relationship tho
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You sure you're dating?

If he's talking about being with another girl in the future then it suggests your relationship isn't going to last and he thinks you will break up at some point.
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So what can I do about that?
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Sounds more like he’s projecting his guilt here: by using how you might react as a way to justify hiding it from you.
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He can be very sweet too!
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I don't see the point of this relationship tho
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Don't be a doormat. He doesn't sound very respectful about your feelings. from his behaviour and the way he talks about your friend. You feeling guilty and pressured into agreeing really shows how much he's manipulating you. Don't see this working out in the long term imo.
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can't imagine telling my wife that I was going to sleep over at another girls house without her. I'd get a slap, and Id bloody deserve it.

The cheek of the guy. Tell him to get his act together and that sleeping alone with other girls in their place, especially ones he said he would **** before, is absolutely not on. If he wants to do that, he can go find himself another girlfriend.

Don't let your guy take the piss, or you will get cheated on sooner or later.
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You sure you're dating?

If he's talking about being with another girl in the future then it suggests your relationship isn't going to last and he thinks you will break up at some point.
Yeah but he's also said to me that he wants his entire future with me so idk
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Yeah but he's also said to me that he wants his entire future with me so idk
Well if he only had eyes for you then he wouldn't even consider the prospect of dating another
Everyone always say they see a future with their current person so they stay together, but clearly he doesnt
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think honestly you need to do what's best for you, if you are constantly questioning what he is doing, I don't think it is healthy for you.
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what a player
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I don't think you should have reacted in any other way. He might think that you're overreacting, but there are some signs that you can pick up on. If he's going to spend time with another girl and he also constantly talks about her, if he postpones your plans just to have a sleepover with her, that's not a good sign. He sounds like he doesn't respect your feelings that much even though you're his girlfriend. Tell him why you feel uncomfortable about the situation and let him know sincerely and respectably. Don't fight with him about it but ask him to listen to why you feel that way. If he refuses to see your side and he says you're overreacting, tell him "I'm seeing the bigger picture, and that's what anyone else on the outside would think", so why don't you have a valid reason to feel that way? I say be honest and open, but also patient and understanding.
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