Need advice on how to get over a bad fight with my partner, struggling to forgive him

No offence...He probs thought it would knock some sense into you.. WHY ARE YOU MAD AT HIM? YOU CHEATED NOT HIM.. I'm suprised he is still after you.. He shouldn't be.. Unfortunatley he only dislocated your shoulder... an arm would be fine because you deserve it... u deserve more tbh... "I'm not mad at him anymore"?? WHY WERE YOU MAD IN THE FIRST PLACE? BECAUSE YOU CHEATED ON HIM??

No offence...He probs thought it would knock some sense into you.. WHY ARE YOU MAD AT HIM? YOU CHEATED NOT HIM.. I'm suprised he is still after you.. He shouldn't be.. Unfortunatley he only dislocated your shoulder... an arm would be fine because you deserve it... u deserve more tbh... "I'm not mad at him anymore"?? WHY WERE YOU MAD IN THE FIRST PLACE? BECAUSE YOU CHEATED ON HIM??

i think he really loves you. its hard taking care of somebody whos depressed but he does it because he genuinely loves you. why else would he stay? if you are angry about the fight wait some time to cool off but please start to appreciate it because if you lose him you will regret it all your life. you cant think straight right now because thats what depression does to you.

Please do. Need a big strong man meself.

So what I’m hearing is that karma has caught up to you?
Didn’t people already warn you about this?

Unfortunately it sounds like your relationship may have run its course. Physical abuse isn't okay.

No offence...He probs thought it would knock some sense into you.. WHY ARE YOU MAD AT HIM? YOU CHEATED NOT HIM.. I'm suprised he is still after you.. He shouldn't be.. Unfortunatley he only dislocated your shoulder... an arm would be fine because you deserve it... u deserve more tbh... "I'm not mad at him anymore"?? WHY WERE YOU MAD IN THE FIRST PLACE? BECAUSE YOU CHEATED ON HIM??

I suggest ending the relationship. You don't take him or his feelings seriously, at all. He has a lot of anger about it, which is fair. But hitting you?! That is NEVER okay. If you can cheat on someone, lie to them, hurt them and disrespect them... you're wasting their time and breaking their self-esteem. And while he may be angry and hurt, physical violence is NEVER the correct or just answer. You don't respect him and he hit you. This is an unstable and unhealthy relationship and I suggest you put it to rest before it gets worse. A relationship without trust, loyalty and communication, is not a relationship. It is just a competition. Not fair to either party. Just my opinion

He hit you, that isn't acceptable under any circumstances no matter what you've done...

I think you are still suffering some trauma symptoms and associating your partner with the pain of the injury he accidentally caused you.
By avoiding your partner your brain hopes to avoid incidents that risk further injuries.
Are you getting enough vitamins & sleep?
Remember that prescribed painkillers for your injury can also make you feel more depressed, bad tempered and prone to angry outbursts/mood swings.
Your partner knows you best, has a central role to play in your recovery and is probably feeling terrible for hurting you.

You and your partner need to talk about what direction you each see the relationship progressing in.
So you both know where you stand and understand what each of you want.
Maybe with the help of a friend who knows you both, can give you an independent viewpoint and has never been sexually involved with either of you.
Or a professional relationship counselor, who has a lot of experience helping couples improve their relationship and will ensure that discussions always stay calm.

Hobbies can play a significant role in helping to improve mental health and decrease the severity of depressive episodes.
Have you considered devoting more time to your creative interests?
Maybe taking an art or photography course, to widen your portfolio and skillset.
There are plenty of online and part time courses.
I'm looking into one learning about digital illustration.
I paint and do photography already.

Please do. Need a big strong man meself.

Hi

Are you going back to pretending to be a man?

That's incredibly stupid of your boyfriend to risk a potential arrest or even jail time over a cheating promiscuous woman

Should have just ditched you on the spot.

That's incredibly stupid of your boyfriend to risk a potential arrest or even jail time over a cheating promiscuous woman

Should have just ditched you on the spot.

I'm not a promiscuous woman, hun.

I'm not a promiscuous woman, hun.

Do you think forcing myself to be around him would help me get over this quicker? Maybe that would make my brain associate him with good things again?
I'm slowly getting my sleep schedule back on track, my mood is pretty low again but at least it's stable and keeps me in the house, lol.
And yeah, I agree, I'm currently working on my art projects... Sometimes my moods are all over the place, though, and I **** everything up.

Screw you. Pussy. ****ing coward. Incel. Go on, report me.

I don't really consider myself promiscuous.

Screw you. Pussy. ****ing coward. Incel. Go on, report me.

I don't really consider myself promiscuous.

No, don't force yourself.
It will be a gradual, one step at a time process.
Your brain will slowly shift focus away from trauma to all the best aspects of your partner's character.
So you will remember all the great things in you relationship and let him prove how much he regrets losing his temper the way he did.
It is a two way process, he also has to earn your trust back.

You will know when you feel able to be around your partner, your instincts will let you know when the time is right.
It could be a few days or much longer.
But don't try to completely avoid him as your trust and shoulder recover.
You could try discussing neutral subjects like your pets, the european parliament elections and how all the major party leaders seem to be on the road to nowhere or worse.

Long story short, recently my life spiraled a bit out of control. The usual stuff, meaning spending way too much money on all sorts of useless crap, too much partying, and cheating. All this led to a pretty bad argument between me and my boyfriend. At one point when he was trying to stop me from leaving the house, he ended up hitting me in the face and dislocating my shoulder.

He apologised, of course. I'm not mad at him anymore, to be perfectly honest, I know I deserved it. But for some crazy reason, my brain has now developed this crazy aversion towards him, it's come to the point where I don't even want him to touch me. I just find myself avoiding him all the time. He suddenly reminds me of someone I hate, which is plain stupid and illogical. I need advice on how to put our relationship back on track.