I need to vent out, there is no one that will listen. Watch

A12lolo
Badges: 8
Rep:
?
#1
Report Thread starter 1 month ago
#1
So, I am a muslim hijabi girl (15).

My family are pious (not extreme but believers), I have been brought up to believe in islam (not forced). I started practising islam since I was really young, it was my own choice no one forced me I was happy even though I was still a child at that time.

I need to vent out things my family will probably dislike. I have no one that will listen and react/respond. That's why i am here.

So, basically since last year summer, I lost a huge amount of faith in ISLAM not in ALLAH/GOD.

I became depressed at that time, I even stopped practising for a while (stopped praying) but I couldn't anymore and ended up praying again because Allah/God has a huge place in my heart (I guess) and because i decided that:
-i still believe in Allah, i noticed that. Also i still believe in the massangers because i don't think all those people will go around spreading almost the same story when they even never met.
-to never listen to muslim scholars again, since they break my heart with their nasty words about women. i speak 4 languages, so i listen/ read different/a lot of scholars opinion, 99% of them are backward men who put down women.

So, I know its Ramadan and I am currently fasting (And am hungry lol) I don't even know why I am being like this right now but I DONT WANT TO WEAR HIJAB ANYMORE.


1: Yeb, I have been wearing it since I was 9 and I don't think I want to wear it anymore. My mother will be sad if she finds out what I am planning but tbh I want to do what I want.


The reason:
so, lol I don't even know where to begin but I discovered something that changed my mind upside down and made me hate muslim scholars even more.

They say that a slave woman cant wear hijab or even dress modest. ok, tf they believe, I would have told myself its only some backwards that believe in something like that but nope, most of them do. And do you know? they say free women and slave women are not the same? they literally saying, men will not see their body as the same and the free women is more attractive somehow.

so now the question is, since those backwards believe and preach this nonsense, what other nonsense did they preach? i believe there are a lot of none correct things they spread.

*a small reason is that hijabi women are discriminated against here but this is just a small reason for me.

-----------

*other things I want to vent, I hate muslim scholars, ok I sound weird right now but they really hurt me a lot.

*All those scholars keep saying different things, who do i believe?

*you know the most thing that hurts me? they make it seem as if women will go to hell by the slightest mistake. i truly dislike them.

-------
So here are my big decisions for now:

A: i will not leave islam since i believe in
1:Allah
2:his massengers
3: after life
4: quran
5: and other creation he created.

the reason i believe in them is:
- i believe or think (since nothing is a fact right now) that this big/huge universe cant create itself.
-the scientific facts in the Quran are too much to deny

B: i will remove hijab.

C: i will not get married. ok, this is weird, one of the things muslim scholars cause me is HATING MARRIAGE. yeb, after hearing their nonsense:
- wives should obey husbands
-wives should please husbands
-wives should go where husband wants
-when a woman wants to get a divorce, she either has to PAY as if she was enslaved or she has to search for another MAN (a judge or imam) to FREE her/divorce her.
-the man in the after life will get hoor al ayn + his wife to satisfy him. i know women will also get a what they want BUT what i hate about this is THAT I AM STILL REGARDED AS HIS OBJECT. MOST OF THE SCHOLARS WILL GO AROUND SAYING, ''YOUR WIFE AND YHE HOOR AL AYN ARE THERE TO PEASURE YOU, HA HA HA''.

i don't even believe there will be sex in the after life.


So i am done and i feel depressed as hell.

Thanks dears. I am crying lol. There are a lot more but i am too tired/depressed to even think about them all right now. Sorry btw, English isn't my first language. If you are a muslim and this thread causes you any stress/bad feeling (IF) then sorry.
0
reply
Coolkitkat23
  • Political Ambassador
Badges: 15
Rep:
?
#2
Report 1 month ago
#2
I AGREE THANKS i am here to listen! I dont want to get married either o o f, luckily in islam, its not necessary to wear the hijab, but it is preferred. I have lost faith a really long time ago, and couldnt do anything islam based again... I am ashamed, however i feel like its right for me right now not to force myself on religion, perhaps when i go to university i will start praying again...
(Original post by A12lolo)
So, I am a muslim hijabi girl (15).

My family are pious (not extreme but believers), I have been brought up to believe in islam (not forced). I started practising islam since I was really young, it was my own choice no one forced me I was happy even though I was still a child at that time.

I need to vent out things my family will probably dislike. I have no one that will listen and react/respond. That's why i am here.

So, basically since last year summer, I lost a huge amount of faith in ISLAM not in ALLAH/GOD.

I became depressed at that time, I even stopped practising for a while (stopped praying) but I couldn't anymore and ended up praying again because Allah/God has a huge place in my heart (I guess) and because i decided that:
-i still believe in Allah, i noticed that. Also i still believe in the massangers because i don't think all those people will go around spreading almost the same story when they even never met.
-to never listen to muslim scholars again, since they break my heart with their nasty words about women. i speak 4 languages, so i listen/ read different/a lot of scholars opinion, 99% of them are backward men who put down women.

So, I know its Ramadan and I am currently fasting (And am hungry lol) I don't even know why I am being like this right now but I DONT WANT TO WEAR HIJAB ANYMORE.


1: Yeb, I have been wearing it since I was 9 and I don't think I want to wear it anymore. My mother will be sad if she finds out what I am planning but tbh I want to do what I want.


The reason:
so, lol I don't even know where to begin but I discovered something that changed my mind upside down and made me hate muslim scholars even more.

They say that a slave woman cant wear hijab or even dress modest. ok, tf they believe, I would have told myself its only some backwards that believe in something like that but nope, most of them do. And do you know? they say free women and slave women are not the same? they literally saying, men will not see their body as the same and the free women is more attractive somehow.

so now the question is, since those backwards believe and preach this nonsense, what other nonsense did they preach? i believe there are a lot of none correct things they spread.

*a small reason is that hijabi women are discriminated against here but this is just a small reason for me.

-----------

*other things I want to vent, I hate muslim scholars, ok I sound weird right now but they really hurt me a lot.

*All those scholars keep saying different things, who do i believe?

*you know the most thing that hurts me? they make it seem as if women will go to hell by the slightest mistake. i truly dislike them.

-------
So here are my big decisions for now:

A: i will not leave islam since i believe in
1:Allah
2:his massengers
3: after life
4: quran
5: and other creation he created.

the reason i believe in them is:
- i believe or think (since nothing is a fact right now) that this big/huge universe cant create itself.
-the scientific facts in the Quran are too much to deny

B: i will remove hijab.

C: i will not get married. ok, this is weird, one of the things muslim scholars cause me is HATING MARRIAGE. yeb, after hearing their nonsense:
- wives should obey husbands
-wives should please husbands
-wives should go where husband wants
-when a woman wants to get a divorce, she either has to PAY as if she was enslaved or she has to search for another MAN (a judge or imam) to FREE her/divorce her.
-the man in the after life will get hoor al ayn + his wife to satisfy him. i know women will also get a what they want BUT what i hate about this is THAT I AM STILL REGARDED AS HIS OBJECT. MOST OF THE SCHOLARS WILL GO AROUND SAYING, ''YOUR WIFE AND YHE HOOR AL AYN ARE THERE TO PEASURE YOU, HA HA HA''.

i don't even believe there will be sex in the after life.


So i am done and i feel depressed as hell.

Thanks dears. I am crying lol. There are a lot more but i am too tired/depressed to even think about them all right now. Sorry btw, English isn't my first language. If you are a muslim and this thread causes you any stress/bad feeling (IF) then sorry.
3
reply
Professional G
Badges: 22
Rep:
?
#3
Report 1 month ago
#3
(Original post by A12lolo)
So, I am a muslim hijabi girl (15).

My family are pious (not extreme but believers), I have been brought up to believe in islam (not forced). I started practising islam since I was really young, it was my own choice no one forced me I was happy even though I was still a child at that time.

I need to vent out things my family will probably dislike. I have no one that will listen and react/respond. That's why i am here.

So, basically since last year summer, I lost a huge amount of faith in ISLAM not in ALLAH/GOD.

I became depressed at that time, I even stopped practising for a while (stopped praying) but I couldn't anymore and ended up praying again because Allah/God has a huge place in my heart (I guess) and because i decided that:
-i still believe in Allah, i noticed that. Also i still believe in the massangers because i don't think all those people will go around spreading almost the same story when they even never met.
-to never listen to muslim scholars again, since they break my heart with their nasty words about women. i speak 4 languages, so i listen/ read different/a lot of scholars opinion, 99% of them are backward men who put down women.

So, I know its Ramadan and I am currently fasting (And am hungry lol) I don't even know why I am being like this right now but I DONT WANT TO WEAR HIJAB ANYMORE.


1: Yeb, I have been wearing it since I was 9 and I don't think I want to wear it anymore. My mother will be sad if she finds out what I am planning but tbh I want to do what I want.


The reason:
so, lol I don't even know where to begin but I discovered something that changed my mind upside down and made me hate muslim scholars even more.

They say that a slave woman cant wear hijab or even dress modest. ok, tf they believe, I would have told myself its only some backwards that believe in something like that but nope, most of them do. And do you know? they say free women and slave women are not the same? they literally saying, men will not see their body as the same and the free women is more attractive somehow.

so now the question is, since those backwards believe and preach this nonsense, what other nonsense did they preach? i believe there are a lot of none correct things they spread.

*a small reason is that hijabi women are discriminated against here but this is just a small reason for me.

-----------

*other things I want to vent, I hate muslim scholars, ok I sound weird right now but they really hurt me a lot.

*All those scholars keep saying different things, who do i believe?

*you know the most thing that hurts me? they make it seem as if women will go to hell by the slightest mistake. i truly dislike them.

-------
So here are my big decisions for now:

A: i will not leave islam since i believe in
1:Allah
2:his massengers
3: after life
4: quran
5: and other creation he created.

the reason i believe in them is:
- i believe or think (since nothing is a fact right now) that this big/huge universe cant create itself.
-the scientific facts in the Quran are too much to deny

B: i will remove hijab.

C: i will not get married. ok, this is weird, one of the things muslim scholars cause me is HATING MARRIAGE. yeb, after hearing their nonsense:
- wives should obey husbands
-wives should please husbands
-wives should go where husband wants
-when a woman wants to get a divorce, she either has to PAY as if she was enslaved or she has to search for another MAN (a judge or imam) to FREE her/divorce her.
-the man in the after life will get hoor al ayn + his wife to satisfy him. i know women will also get a what they want BUT what i hate about this is THAT I AM STILL REGARDED AS HIS OBJECT. MOST OF THE SCHOLARS WILL GO AROUND SAYING, ''YOUR WIFE AND YHE HOOR AL AYN ARE THERE TO PEASURE YOU, HA HA HA''.

i don't even believe there will be sex in the after life.


So i am done and i feel depressed as hell.

Thanks dears. I am crying lol. There are a lot more but i am too tired/depressed to even think about them all right now. Sorry btw, English isn't my first language. If you are a muslim and this thread causes you any stress/bad feeling (IF) then sorry.
(Original post by Coolkitkat23)
I AGREE THANKS i am here to listen! I dont want to get married either o o f, luckily in islam, its not necessary to wear the hijab, but it is preferred. I have lost faith a really long time ago, and couldnt do anything islam based again... I am ashamed, however i feel like its right for me right now not to force myself on religion, perhaps when i go to university i will start praying again...
Religion isn’t supposed to feel like a burden. Honestly live life how you want. You have to know that forcing yourself to believe in something isn’t gonna help you in faith. You have to believe in it yourself. Despite what others say, religion can be very liberal - you don’t have to follow every belief. I’m not saying you should drink or eat pork but do what you think is right. That way you can follow your religion and live your life in the best way possible
Posted on the TSR App. Download from Apple or Google Play
2
reply
A12lolo
Badges: 8
Rep:
?
#4
Report Thread starter 1 month ago
#4
(Original post by Professional G)
Religion isn’t supposed to feel like a burden. Honestly live life how you want. You have to know that forcing yourself to believe in something isn’t gonna help you in faith. You have to believe in it yourself. Despite what others say, religion can be very liberal - you don’t have to follow every belief. I’m not saying you should drink or eat pork but do what you think is right. That way you can follow your religion and live your life in the best way possible
Thanks, you are right and I agree.
0
reply
username4573738
Badges: 15
Rep:
?
#5
Report 1 month ago
#5
Are you talking about the YouTubers eg dawah man etc

Yeahhh they’re annoying and loud lol
2
reply
A12lolo
Badges: 8
Rep:
?
#6
Report Thread starter 1 month ago
#6
(Original post by warm it up)
Are you talking about the YouTubers eg dawah man etc

Yeahhh they’re annoying and loud lol
All of them, youtubers that claim to give dawah, preachers, imams (some), scholars and some old men that act like they know everything.
0
reply
username4573738
Badges: 15
Rep:
?
#7
Report 1 month ago
#7
(Original post by A12lolo)
All of them, youtubers that claim to give dawah, preachers, imams (some), scholars and some old men that act like they know everything.
Yep, really don’t like them they’re too aggressive :rolleyes:

Maybe just talk to your mum/dad (whoever’s more open) it’s good to question stuff
0
reply
A12lolo
Badges: 8
Rep:
?
#8
Report Thread starter 1 month ago
#8
(Original post by Coolkitkat23)
I AGREE THANKS i am here to listen! I dont want to get married either o o f, luckily in islam, its not necessary to wear the hijab, but it is preferred. I have lost faith a really long time ago, and couldnt do anything islam based again... I am ashamed, however i feel like its right for me right now not to force myself on religion, perhaps when i go to university i will start praying again...
They say hijab is mandatory but whatever I don't even believe in what they say anymore, I like praying at least . Can I pm you?
0
reply
Coolkitkat23
  • Political Ambassador
Badges: 15
Rep:
?
#9
Report 1 month ago
#9
of course dude! vent on me whenever you like, because i was in a similar situation like 2 years ago also i started wearing shorts too, not outside lol.
(Original post by A12lolo)
They say hijab is mandatory but whatever I don't even believe in what they say anymore, I like praying at least . Can I pm you?
0
reply
londonmyst
Badges: 18
Rep:
?
#10
Report 1 month ago
#10
Don't upset yourself, you have the freedom to choose your own beliefs and how you practice them.
That is how you decide who you want to be, what you believe in and what you want to do with your life.
So many different choices in life- fashion, food, religion, politics, hobbies and future ambitions.

I'm not a follower of islam but have many friends that believe in islam and many who don't with families that do.
Islam has a many sects ranging from liberal to reform, conservative, orthodox and then traditionalist or salafi.
So many different traditions, teachings and interpretations of islamic scripture.
Plenty of other religious and philosophical ideas to take a look at too.

All religions and groups have bad apples.
Whether its religious movements, football supporters, abortion activists, vegans or political campaigners.
They are always a very unpleasant minority that cause a lot of hassle for everyone else, shout the loudest and get so much attention for doing it.
Don't let their words and actions distress you.
Last edited by londonmyst; 1 month ago
2
reply
Fullsend
Badges: 14
Rep:
?
#11
Report 1 month ago
#11
it actually is necessary to wear hijab in Islam.
(Original post by Coolkitkat23)
I AGREE THANKS i am here to listen! I dont want to get married either o o f, luckily in islam, its not necessary to wear the hijab, but it is preferred. I have lost faith a really long time ago, and couldnt do anything islam based again... I am ashamed, however i feel like its right for me right now not to force myself on religion, perhaps when i go to university i will start praying again...
1
reply
X

Quick Reply

Attached files
Write a reply...
Reply
new posts
Latest
My Feed

See more of what you like on
The Student Room

You can personalise what you see on TSR. Tell us a little about yourself to get started.

Personalise

Are you tempted to change your firm university choice now or on A-level results day?

Yes, I'll try and go to a uni higher up the league tables (131)
19.35%
Yes, there is a uni that I prefer and I'll fit in better (67)
9.9%
No I am happy with my course choice (383)
56.57%
I'm using Clearing when I have my exam results (96)
14.18%

Watched Threads

View All