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Ex muslim , How do I tell my family?

I am 17 years old girl

I am so scared to tell them as I could either get disowned or shipped to another country.

What should I do?
When should I tell them?

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

You don’t. You will get disowned and shamed.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

Should I pretend to live as a muslim forever then?
I don't want that

Original post by Anonymous

You don’t. You will get disowned and shamed.

Reply 3

Gent2324

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no one here can answer that since we have no idea what your parents are like and what they will do

Reply 4

Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous

Should I pretend to live as a muslim forever then?
I don't want that

I’m dealing with the same thing but honestly there isn’t much you can do. They will never accept that. My family isn’t even that strict and they would.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

My parents are very strict they don't even let me wear trousers

What would you do if you were me?

Original post by Gent2324

no one here can answer that since we have no idea what your parents are like and what they will do

Reply 6

molly percocet

You don’t need to tell them if it’ll make your life bad.

Just keep pretending, there are some 25+ year old ex-Muslims that still haven’t told their parents because it’ll hurt them and ruin the parent-child bond

Reply 7

Anonymous #3

I think maybe you should consult an imam and see what they would recommend considering they have probably dealt with stuff like this and share the same point of view as your parents. An imam following Islamic principles should be understanding and maybe they can break the news to your parents.

Reply 8

danieliom

Wait until you are self sufficient and not living at home .

Reply 9

username4728618

Please don't tell them. They will hurt you. You don't even need to tell them just make sure you study and work hard so you are financially stable and then leave them!

Reply 10

Neilos

At a minimum, wait until you're legally an adult and you have somewhere else to live.

Reply 11

Gent2324

Careers Forum Helper

Original post by Anonymous

My parents are very strict they don't even let me wear trousers

What would you do if you were me?

i know nothing about your life so i have no idea what i would do if i were you.

we need alot of information to be able to determine if you should tell them or not.

nobody here knows if you should or shouldnt

Reply 12

apspirei

don't tell them. pretend until u leave the house and have independence.

Reply 13

Tootles

Original post by Anonymous

I am 17 years old girl

I am so scared to tell them as I could either get disowned or shipped to another country.

What should I do?
When should I tell them?

Tell them you're gay and/or trans (but preferably both). Then when they've calmed down, admit that you aren't, and then tell them you're not Muslim any more.