Why do men only care about one thing?

I tried looking for halal manner but it didn’t work men were either players or I wasn’t into them I can’t marry a man just for the sake of marriage I need attraction I need love not just marriage certificate

God said to wait for marriage and that’s what I will do plus In my culture a woman who sleeps around is considered bad and not a marriage material and usually they end up alone in 60s and childless and nobody wants them I believe waiting makes us love each other’s in other aspects because physical aspect don’t last and beauty goes away but love lasts and if they really love u they will propose

Every time I meet a guy I like and have a connection with and I feel he is the one he turns out to only care about sex and when I tell him that am looking for a relationship possibly marriage they completely lose interest and ignore me.....
Due to my faith and culture I refuse to engage in any sexual acts with a man before marriage because I truly believe an honest man will wait someone who loves me will wait
But I feel like it’s impossible to find anymore I been disappointed many times and I began to believe I might not find the one
Is there no one waiting anymore?
Do men only care about one thing?

We should have a referendum to send all this cults + followers a few centuries back in time. Some people are not meant to be born in today's society. It really pisses me off people saying stupid things like "mjmimimi sex before marriage = no kids + unhappiness mimkmi". Grow up, theres more than light that meets the eye in this world.

No, not every man wants only one thing. I waited 4 years with my first gf and none of us are religious. But after that I swore to myself that I'd never ever do that again.
Dont get me wrong, to each their own, but I find sex a big part of a relationship (doesnt matter if you do it once a day or once a month).

No they dont just care about one thing. You just need to be patient. Your faith and culuture has made things more challenging. You have thing about where you are looking! Look for people with a similar mindset in your culture if virginity is important to you. Personally i don't think virginity proves or disproves anything. You could ,if you wish, examine the claims of your cultire and faith in more detail. You may decide that virginity is no big deal. I think an issue for determined virgins is that they eventually find out that sex is actually a very big deal in most long term relationships; and it would have been good to know whether your husband or wife was bisexual, gay, asexual, very low libido before getting married. Suppose ,for example, you have a much higher libido than your husband to be who has almost no libido ?You would, in your case, only know this once yiu married him. Then what? you would then be suffering while relying on your faith and hoping! Sexual intimacy tells you a lot more about a person.

Your talking as if ur not from this culture most Muslim men however open won’t deny that in the end they want to marry a woman without sexual experiences even if they had some themselves Double standards, if women and men were treated the same in most cultures maybe we wouldn’t be having this conversation

So if you admit it's hypocritical, why bother? It'll never change if people like you just accept it.

I know it’s hypocritical however I prefer to remain abstinent for personal reasons not just religious or cultural cause those reasons alone cannot make me abstinent it’s a personal choice and the person who wants me must respect that

Yes of course they should respect how you feel. A man who actually wants you should actually want to have sex with you as well. But your comment that men just want one thing is based on what experience exactly? And why would that opinion be attractive to any man unless you have actually met and spoken to literally millions of men?

It’s based on the many men who left me cause am abstinent and my friends experiences

Really? Your friends and you have the same experiences? So you actually think that the numerous guys left yiu because you didnt want to have sex? Did they actually say that or is that what you have decided? Maybe you just need to understand that not every guy will be into you and that is fine? Perhaps also you may just be be an awful picker of the wrong guys? If you are looking for the right person you will have to do a lot of honest reflection before you even begin to accuse the guys. Unfortunately it is true that negativity attracts negativity!