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Urgent advice on recent school exclusion (year 10)

So, Im a student currently in year 10. I'm normally very well behaved and do academically quite well, however i made the stupid mistake of going on someone else's email-address and sending a pretty graphic / sexual message as a joke to a few teachers and a friend. I thought that since i was using another person's email ( this person left the school in year 7, we're now in year 10) i wouldn't be found and it wouldn't really be a big deal. However, our head teacher called me in and told me that i would probably be receiving an exclusion for a day / maybe (probably not) more. I was told that it was a sexual crime and was even questioned if i was a pornography addict due to the language i used. I regret it deeply, i said "i like penis in my mouth and other variations of this but replaced penis with c***", i also said "f****t. Although to some of you this may seem like a joke, im serious. What can i do? Will the school talk about this to my other teachers? Will my relationships with teachers change because of this? I'm normally always pretty well behaved in class, not to mention my mother who comes from a more traditional Chinese background, who will probably beat me to death...
What do i do?
Reply 1
Face the consequences, simple. You did a bad thing, now bad things could happen to you. Deal with it and don't do it again.
(Original post by Alex Z)
So, Im a student currently in year 10. I'm normally very well behaved and do academically quite well, however i made the stupid mistake of going on someone else's email-address and sending a pretty graphic / sexual message as a joke to a few teachers and a friend. I thought that since i was using another person's email ( this person left the school in year 7, we're now in year 10) i wouldn't be found and it wouldn't really be a big deal. However, our head teacher called me in and told me that i would probably be receiving an exclusion for a day / maybe (probably not) more. I was told that it was a sexual crime and was even questioned if i was a pornography addict due to the language i used. I regret it deeply, i said "i like penis in my mouth and other variations of this but replaced penis with c***", i also said "f****t. Although to some of you this may seem like a joke, im serious. What can i do? Will the school talk about this to my other teachers? Will my relationships with teachers change because of this? I'm normally always pretty well behaved in class, not to mention my mother who comes from a more traditional Chinese background, who will probably beat me to death...
What do i do?
Exclusion isn't that bad, I had internal in yr 10. You just sit there and do work for the day. You're lucky you didn't get anything else, you did a stupid thing so you should face the consequences of your stupid actions.
(Original post by Alex Z)
So, Im a student currently in year 10. I'm normally very well behaved and do academically quite well, however i made the stupid mistake of going on someone else's email-address and sending a pretty graphic / sexual message as a joke to a few teachers and a friend. I thought that since i was using another person's email ( this person left the school in year 7, we're now in year 10) i wouldn't be found and it wouldn't really be a big deal. However, our head teacher called me in and told me that i would probably be receiving an exclusion for a day / maybe (probably not) more. I was told that it was a sexual crime and was even questioned if i was a pornography addict due to the language i used. I regret it deeply, i said "i like penis in my mouth and other variations of this but replaced penis with c***", i also said "f****t. Although to some of you this may seem like a joke, im serious. What can i do? Will the school talk about this to my other teachers? Will my relationships with teachers change because of this? I'm normally always pretty well behaved in class, not to mention my mother who comes from a more traditional Chinese background, who will probably beat me to death...
What do i do?
Hiya, something like this actually happened to me when I was in year 9 and it did feel like the biggest deal at the time, I get the whole strict parents thing and you 'do well' at school and have never been in big trouble before, this was me, to be honest your teachers probably will see you differently but don't let it make you fall into the trap of just getting in trouble constantly because it seems easy if that makes sense that's what I did and I ended up leaving that school completely, just try to keep your head down and move on. Message me if you feel really awful about it, I know I felt like the world was ending x
Original post by Alex Z
So, Im a student currently in year 10. I'm normally very well behaved and do academically quite well, however i made the stupid mistake of going on someone else's email-address and sending a pretty graphic / sexual message as a joke to a few teachers and a friend. I thought that since i was using another person's email ( this person left the school in year 7, we're now in year 10) i wouldn't be found and it wouldn't really be a big deal. However, our head teacher called me in and told me that i would probably be receiving an exclusion for a day / maybe (probably not) more. I was told that it was a sexual crime and was even questioned if i was a pornography addict due to the language i used. I regret it deeply, i said "i like penis in my mouth and other variations of this but replaced penis with c***", i also said "f****t. Although to some of you this may seem like a joke, im serious. What can i do? Will the school talk about this to my other teachers? Will my relationships with teachers change because of this? I'm normally always pretty well behaved in class, not to mention my mother who comes from a more traditional Chinese background, who will probably beat me to death...
What do i do?

You'll be fine, you'll get a 1 day exclusion then return, might be a little awkward but this will pass...
Probably face the wrath of your parents which won't be fun, but seems inevitable i'd imagine.

In a couple of weeks this will be forgotten about, just don't do something this stupid again.

Its probably not a sex crime as the teacher stated, but the fact you sent out information under someone else's identity is technically fraud (although i suspect the school will just close his account, and they'll be no need to escalate this any further)

You'll look back on this in a couple years as a dumb immature thing, that will likely have no bearing on your future.
Reply 7
thanks man, just don't want teachers to think less of me over a stupid mistake.
Original post by so5tired758
Hiya, something like this actually happened to me when I was in year 9 and it did feel like the biggest deal at the time, I get the whole strict parents thing and you 'do well' at school and have never been in big trouble before, this was me, to be honest your teachers probably will see you differently but don't let it make you fall into the trap of just getting in trouble constantly because it seems easy if that makes sense that's what I did and I ended up leaving that school completely, just try to keep your head down and move on. Message me if you feel really awful about it, I know I felt like the world was ending x
I reckon if you just wait it out and don't do anything stupid it'll be fine but just make sure you dont get into trouble for a good while, everyones done stupid things on a whim
Original post by Alex Z
thanks man, just don't want teachers to think less of me over a stupid mistake.
(edited 4 years ago)

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