I don't want a joint bday (turning 21)

So my parents suggested to have a joint birthday with my sister. I'm turning 21 and I already told them I really don't like the idea (I'm strongly against it) since:


Plus we both have different ideas on what to do for our birthdays in terms of the venue, what we're doing, I want to invite my friends, she wants to invite her friends (our friends don't know each other obviously) etc so it'd be really awkward.

Please don't think I'm being ungrateful because I can assure you I am very grateful towards my parents and my family, but I just think it's really weird to make a 21 year old share their bday with a 17 year old.

TLDR: I'm turning 21, sibling is turning 17. Parents want to share our birthdays (even though there's 2 weeks between our birthdays)

To be honest with you I agree.
At that age I wouldn't want to do a joint birthday

Are you wanting advice for something or did you just come to rant though
I don't really see a question as such

I know exactly what you mean, its not ungrateful its a very normal thing not to want to share a birthday let alone your last big one for ages!! Twenty one should be all about you, and you should get what you want (within reason) so perhaps say that you won't have a joint birthday - its not that you're unhappy and will do it any way but that its just not in the cards - and if worst come to worst organise to go out with your friends that night as the celebration? I'd rather do that then have something forced upon me.

It's your birthday - celebrate it how you want to.

If the issue is that your parents are only willing to pay for a party joint with your sibling, then suck it up and accept that is generous or pay for it yourself and get to do whatever you want.

But either way try not to fall out with your parents over it - you probably won't feel like celebrating and nor will they if the party is more aggravation than its worth.