Marriages of Convenience:(

You shouldn't get married to a straight man who thinks that you are attracted to men, because this is deceitful and it's not fair on him. Instead maybe seek out a gay man also in the same situation as you so that you can help each other and you don't have to be fearful about him turning on you? Neither is ideal really; I'm sorry that you're stuck in such a difficult situation.

I think you should disown your "parents" tbh.

I cannot even think of hurting anyone let alone my own parents!!
My kindness is my strength and also my weakness.

Clearly they couldn't care less about your welfare or happiness so as far as I am concerned they do not deserve to be called "parents".

They DO care about my happiness they feel a man will make me happy, because in Muslim communities, being straight is what is normal and acceptable the idea of me being gay has not even crossed their minds! So they do not understand. Maybe if they knew other LGBT people they would understand.
They want me to be happy, this is why they do not want me to be single all my life because they claim I will be lonely and when they pass away I will have noone to support me.
I do understand them but I wish they could understand also that my feelings cannot change and that being with a man will not change my feelings and make me happy.

From their perspective they are doing what they believe is right, they probably think if I remain single somehow, I will not be happy, , will not have children and that somehow my life will be less.

So if you don't get married they'll think you're unhappy which explains why you think they'll disown you?

Okay then.

At the end of the day they want me to marry and be happy (whilst married).
According to them I will not be happy being single.
And sadly, marrying the same sex is out of the question.
I can only be happy married to the opposite sex according to them!

So all in all, what they think will make me happy, I dont think will and vice versa

You seem very mature, and faithful. That’s really nice to see

You seem very mature, and faithful. That’s really nice to see

Faithful? To bigoted parents who don't care about her happiness?

Are you a bigoted Muslim as well by any chance?

I'm sorry but my parents are not bigoted they just would not want their own child doing something that their religion forbids. As to anyone else who identifies as gay they couldn't care less.

I have been told in the past that I am 'very faithful' and I am curious as to what it means in my context.

Today I came across a page that has really disturbed me
I'm a Muslim and my family would like me to be married although I have no romantic attraction to men. But they do not understand that.
So my plans were to just have a marriage of convenience and when I feel comfortable I would tell my partner that I am gay and am not attracted to him and that then would result in us separating and that way my parents will not be upset with me or disown me because I would have got married but it just would not have worked out.

However today I came across a page about LGBT Asians having a marriage of convenience and how when the wife told her husband she is gay and how she didn't want to shame her family so she got married; he ended up burning her!!!! I cannot explain how this story has disturbed me. I felt, if people do have marriages of convenience and if they do ever come out; it would just be the case of then separating but I failed to realise that things can actually be a lot worse!!!! It's heartbreaking. And has actually made me fearful!!

Faithful? To bigoted parents who don't care about her happiness?

Are you a bigoted Muslim as well by any chance?

Today I came across a page that has really disturbed me
I'm a Muslim and my family would like me to be married although I have no romantic attraction to men. But they do not understand that.
So my plans were to just have a marriage of convenience and when I feel comfortable I would tell my partner that I am gay and am not attracted to him and that then would result in us separating and that way my parents will not be upset with me or disown me because I would have got married but it just would not have worked out.

However today I came across a page about LGBT Asians having a marriage of convenience and how when the wife told her husband she is gay and how she didn't want to shame her family so she got married; he ended up burning her!!!! I cannot explain how this story has disturbed me. I felt, if people do have marriages of convenience and if they do ever come out; it would just be the case of then separating but I failed to realise that things can actually be a lot worse!!!! It's heartbreaking. And has actually made me fearful!!