Should i tell my husband to kick out his 18 year old son?

No, i am not trolling. ''Try and act his mother (it's hard) and teach him the right ways.'' How? he doesnt listen to me.

I am married to an older man (58). I have been married to him for 9 months.

I grew up alone. I grew up in my abusive uncles household. I met my husband 3 years ago. He helped me a lot, he was the only nice person i ever met. even in school people bullied me. he was more like a friend at first.He is really special to me.

I am a serious person, like i never got taught to enjoy life like other kids. I had to be calm and shut my mouth all the time. My step son is the opposite. He is loud, he drinks a lot, he makes a lot of parties home, he brings girls home, he whores all the time. He is a month older than me though but we are both 18.

My husband is away a lot of days and in those days, my step son makes the house up side down. I sleep at 22:00, his parties begins at 00:00. I cant sleep with a lot of drunk guys around the house. I cant go to drink water because i dont want to walk next to those drunk idiot people. The worst is, some days ago he had a foursome home, like really? he is irresponsible, disrespectful and dumb.

I talked to my step son first, i told him to act like an adult, i know he is young but still he can act mature till he becomes mature. he just laughed at my face.

So, now i want to ask my husband to kick him for this reasons:
-He is bringing a lot of trouble/danger and is being disrespectful to the people that live in the house with him.
-That he is irresponsible and needs to grow up into an adult.

He does have a lot of places he can live. Like with his older brother, college dorm, friends etc.

Should i? or am i overreacting

I am married to an older man (58). I have been married to him for 9 months.

I grew up alone. I grew up in my abusive uncles household. I met my husband 3 years ago. He helped me a lot, he was the only nice person i ever met. even in school people bullied me. he was more like a friend at first.He is really special to me.

I am a serious person, like i never got taught to enjoy life like other kids. I had to be calm and shut my mouth all the time. My step son is the opposite. He is loud, he drinks a lot, he makes a lot of parties home, he brings girls home, he whores all the time. He is a month older than me though but we are both 18.

My husband is away a lot of days and in those days, my step son makes the house up side down. I sleep at 22:00, his parties begins at 00:00. I cant sleep with a lot of drunk guys around the house. I cant go to drink water because i dont want to walk next to those drunk idiot people. The worst is, some days ago he had a foursome home, like really? he is irresponsible, disrespectful and dumb.

I talked to my step son first, i told him to act like an adult, i know he is young but still he can act mature till he becomes mature. he just laughed at my face.

So, now i want to ask my husband to kick him for this reasons:
-He is bringing a lot of trouble/danger and is being disrespectful to the people that live in the house with him.
-That he is irresponsible and needs to grow up into an adult.

He does have a lot of places he can live. Like with his older brother, college dorm, friends etc.

Should i? or am i overreacting

You married him, which means you take on the responsibilities a stepmother. You should have accepted that when you married him. If you haven't, you shouldn't be married in the first place.

It is not your place to replace your husband's son in his life. That you want to try and wield that kind of control over both of them shows that you just shouldn't be in that situation in the first place.

Yeesh. If I was in his position and you asked me to boot my son out, I'd first kick you out so fast you'd have a sore arse for a month, and then check myself into a mental hospital, because anyone who marries someone like you can't be firing on all cylinders.

Ngl, if I was in the same situation I wouldn't listen to you really ever no matter what you said to me.
I'd expect the other parent to try and sort it out and try and come to a compromise, without that discussion, no progress will be made

Why are you married to a man 40 years older than you. Your husband clearly has issues, because he married someone 3 times younger than him, which may be why his son is the way he is.

this is off-topic but do you love your husband?Forget the fact that he was the only nicest guy to you in your hard time etc but do you actually love him?I apologise for the intrusion into your personal life but the fact that you wrote about your hard time and how he was a friend at first,made me come up with this question.

Going back to the topic.You are younger than your step son so this was probably a shock to him as well and I think you have to understand that he won't listen to you as you are literally the same age.Heck I think even talking with him won't solve it.
Speak to your husband first .And 18 to be fair is still really young and of course he wants to have fun.And it's not fair to kick him out at all and I think your step-son would not like that either.And yes he should be respectful etc but I really think talking with everyone-your husband and your step-son- to come up with a decision will be the best.

I married him because i love him. My husband doesnt have issues, lol and his son is just irresponsible trouble maker.