Had sex with her while she was emotional?

4 years ago, I had rejected her out of anger and ego. Laat year we reconnected again but she had a boyfriend who she probably loved.
When we reconnected, all my feelings came back and I wanted a chance but was heartbroken to find out that she was happy with someone else.
She was still being very helpful and friendly inspite of what I did before but I was lovesick over her.

Part of me hated her for being with another guy and I confronted her about it. She burst into tears saying she spent countless nights crying over me until she found the new guy. She told me I was her first true love and she never really lost feelings for me as her boyfriend looks a lot like me.

I was forced to watch her with another guy until her boyfriend was killed in an incident. He was far out in the sea when his boat was kocked over and fell into the water. He died from drowning.

She was obviously distraught and would not stop crying. I did everything I could to support her and started staying with her as well. She was incredibly dependent upon me and would hold me for hours sobbing.
2 nights ago, I made dinner for her and treated her to small candlelight party (just the 2 of us). This quickly escalated into me getting turned on. She tried to reject my advances and cried but I couldn't see her crying anymore. We ended up having sex all night.

I asked her to be my girlfriend but shes in mixed emotions. We had sex yesterday as well, mainly because I pressured her into. I know I'm being selfish but I feel I ve been lovesick for too long to not have her now.

Am I wrong? How to go about convincing her for a relationship?

Reply 1

Oxford Mum

21

Give her time and understanding. Do not pressurise her. Be the person you should have been four years ago.

You lost her once, and know how bad the feeling is. Now fate has placed her in your sights again.

Just listen to her pour her heart out, and tell her how much you missed her, and that you are prepared to wait for her.

Get to know her as a friend and do fun things together like going to the cinema or the beach together. Allow her to fall in love with you again safely and slowly.

You don’t want to lose her again do you?

If it works out, it will be worth the effort. If it doesn’t, if you love her as much as you claim, you will let her go, with a sob in your heart, but with your ( on the surface) blessing

Reply 2

Zain_Ahmed

18

You make me sick ngl.. You first reject the poor thing because of your ego.. Then when she has moved on, you come back because you want attention.. Like charlie puth says "YOU JUST WANT ATTENTION.. YOU DON'T WANT MY HEART".. You just want all the attention, you never really cared about her, if you did you wouldn't have left her and FORCED HER to have sex with you.. You only made dinner so you could have time with her alone tbh.. You selfish donkey

Reply 3

HoldThisL

21

do you know how to treat another human

Reply 4

username3890778

21

yeah ofc he just “drowned”

Reply 5

Amon-ster

14

1. You rejected her, stop making it seem out of anger. Pretty sure anger doesn't last for 4 years if it was truly out of anger you would've apologised and fixed things.
2.You confronted her about being with another guy when you're the one that rejected her? when you weren't together.....
3.You targeted her straight after her boyfriend died.
4.You pressurised her into having sex with you twice.

I think you're super obnoxious and self centred. Why does everything have to be about you. You could just support her and not expect anything in return but it seems like your motive is "Oh i'll support her so she'll be my girlfriend" rather than to genuinely do so for the fact she's lost a loved one. Part of me thinks you're glad her boyfriend died by the way you want to capitalise of the opportunity. Imo you're trash and she should reject you for all the red flags listed above.

I'd be honestly disappointed in her if she considered getting with you.

(edited 4 years ago)

Reply 6

Zain_Ahmed

18

Original post by Amon-ster

4.You pressurised her into having sex with you twice.

IMO, that's rape... He took advantage of her emotional state.. She was in no condition to make a propper decision.. It's litterally disgusting

Reply 7

Bio 7

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Original post by Zain_Ahmed

IMO, that's rape... He took advantage of her emotional state.. She was in no condition to make a propper decision.. It's litterally disgusting

It’s not far off at the very least.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

Original post by Zain_Ahmed

You make me sick ngl.. You first reject the poor thing because of your ego.. Then when she has moved on, you come back because you want attention.. Like charlie puth says "YOU JUST WANT ATTENTION.. YOU DON'T WANT MY HEART".. You just want all the attention, you never really cared about her, if you did you wouldn't have left her and FORCED HER to have sex with you.. You only made dinner so you could have time with her alone tbh.. You selfish donkey

Amen to that.

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

Guys like you disgust me. Don't go breaking others heart and then asking for it back when it is convenient for you. If you really just wanted to support her, you'd have been a friend and kept yourself in your pants. I don't know why people think they have the RIGHT to play with another's emotions like you have.

Reply 10

----_----

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so you used someone who was emotionally vulnerable and pressured them into having sex with you, and now you want to convince her to be in a relationship with you? ok....

I hope she runs the other way as fast as she can lmao. man get some help. you're toxic

Reply 11

username4762440

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How does one not "see" someone crying? You really are quite disgusting.

Reply 12

Anonymous #2

Ufff this forum is going to get soo much hate that the user who made this wont even come back to TSR 😂

Reply 13

Bio 7

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Original post by Anonymous

Ufff this forum is going to get soo much hate that the user who made this wont even come back to TSR 😂

Yeah it seems like a fake story, but there are some really crap people on the planet so there is always the possibility it’s true.

Reply 14

Bang Outta Order

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Original post by Zain_Ahmed

You make me sick ngl.. You first reject the poor thing because of your ego.. Then when she has moved on, you come back because you want attention.. Like charlie puth says "YOU JUST WANT ATTENTION.. YOU DON'T WANT MY HEART".. You just want all the attention, you never really cared about her, if you did you wouldn't have left her and FORCED HER to have sex with you.. You only made dinner so you could have time with her alone tbh.. You selfish donkey

Exactly, was gonna say this in a worse way, and thank gawd you did it straight away since the other posts were setting a sympathetic tone, when he doesn't deserve sympathy.

Original post by HoldThisL

do you know how to treat another human

LOL your posts remind me of Jedward. You are witty in a mean way.

Original post by Zain_Ahmed

IMO, that's rape... He took advantage of her emotional state.. She was in no condition to make a propper decision.. It's litterally disgusting

This

Reply 15

random_matt

20

Troll or one of many scumbags within society.

Reply 16

username4889668

20

You shouldn’t have slept with her. She was too emotional and distraught to fully consent first of all, and you did it for the wrong reasons. Why the heck would you think it’s a good idea to ask her to be your girlfriend when the guy she loved just died? What’s wrong with you?