Haha fair enough. Too much revision at 2am!
Yes, tbh you are thinking about things way ahead of time and if it’s causing you extra stress/anxiety you should just forget about it. Focus purely on graduating medical school and everything else you can work on later. I get that you’re a Muslim young woman and having a family is obviously very important to you, but don’t waste your energy overthinking and planning everything you want. As I’m sure you know, nothing in life ever goes completely according to plan. Keep your priorities in order - first finishing medical school and starting work as a doctor, then starting a family later. Don’t be one of those Muslim people who get their priorities completely upside down and end up getting married before they graduate and before either of them are earning. Like I said, people like this are only doing Medicine for the prestige so I hope you don’t fall into that trap.
I’m sure you realise that surgery as a career has its limitations when it comes to having a family. The reason why there are few women in surgery isn’t because you are less capable but because balancing a family with it becomes unmanageable at some point. I don’t want to discourage you from doing what you want, but clearly you will have to work much harder to maintain a family life with surgery. Maybe get some advice from women already in surgery but also consider why so many women opt for more family friendly specialties with better work-life balance, such as GP. All I would suggest is that you find a specialty of surgery in which there are some opportunities for working part time.
I agree. This is a good mentality to have. Can’t support a family without first being able to support yourself and/or a husband. Just thought I would mention it as lots of women nowadays focus more on what they can take from a relationship rather than what they can give.