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I am in my mid 20s. An african who grew up in south london. I have been receiving pressure from my parents ever since i started university 4 years ago to get a girlfriend. I tell them no, i can't get a girlfriend, im ****ing autistic and have severe depression. My family are homophobic and my mum thinks i'm gay because i have never had a gf

I can't get a girlfriend, i have no friends, why would a girl want me? My parents know im a loner. Also black girls really really don't like me and my parents are racist to other countries.

I lost my virginity and i enjoy ****ing random girls (who are often eastern European girls) and spending on escort. It helps my loneliness and my depression. If i told my parents what i was doing, i would be finished.

What the hell should i do to my ****** parents to leave me alone. I should have ****ed off after graduation but now im depressed again in my home. I'm also depressed in London because i have no friends

Anyway the debate is would u date a guy who ****s escorts or is a loner?
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Try a dating app? Just get out there, talk to new girls. But u need to stop having sex with random girls that is NOT attractive. Don’t worry, try to ignore ur parents. Everything will work out eventually.
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I've dated men on the spectrum, so that part is not an issue. I also don't believe there is anything wrong with casual sex or paying for it so that wouldn't be an issue either.

The lack of friends would be a dealbreaker though. I can't deal with being someone's only source of social interaction. I've dated a lad who had no friends before and it was just so unhealthy.
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I can't deal with being someone's only source of social interaction. I've dated a lad who had no friends before and it was just so unhealthy.
THIS.

And i have experienced this once with a girl, who i believed fancied me and then when she realised in uni 'ugh, this guy has no friends, he's just a miserable loser'. She stopped talking to me.

Talking to people isn't the same as having friends, i have ZERO FRIENDS. I've tried but i have given up. I spend my time being severely depressed at work or looking at jobs abroad to live a false life
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Try a dating app? Just get out there, talk to new girls. But u need to stop having sex with random girls that is NOT attractive. Don’t worry, try to ignore ur parents. Everything will work out eventually.
have u used a dating app before? I don't think using something online solves issues.

I will leave my home in due time, i can't cope right now being at home or living in london
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It seems the bigger issue is you lack a purpose.

Find what you want to do with your life and pursue it.

Forget sex and girlfriends. Find a Passion and pursue it.

From what I've read your only real purpose is to have a girlfriend.
If I was a girl I'd be thinking this guy is gonna be really clingy.
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It seems the bigger issue is you lack a purpose.

Find what you want to do with your life and pursue it.

Forget sex and girlfriends. Find a Passion and pursue it.

From what I've read your only real purpose is to have a girlfriend.
If I was a girl I'd be thinking this guy is gonna be really clingy.
This is what i say to my parents. I don't need a girlfriend but when you have a mother who is likely to die in 10 years, i don't blame them...

I have a career plan that my family refuse to accept. Instead they are more interested in having grand children


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Is your career plan going to make you happy?


As for your parent's wishes it doesn't matter.
Most People have nagging parent's just tune them out.

Are you happy in your job right now?
Are you happy in your home right now?

I suspect you just want to let off steam though
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Is your career plan going to make you happy?


As for your parent's wishes it doesn't matter.
Most People have nagging parent's just tune them out.

Are you happy in your job right now?
Are you happy in your home right now?

I suspect you just want to let off steam though
I don't lknow if my career 'plans' are going to make me happy. I am diagnosed with severe depression and because of this it makes it harder for me to view life like how normal people view life

I work, strangeley enough, in mental health care. My parents has worked in mental health for decades and my dad knows the manager of my currrent job. He basically persuaded him to hire me even though i do not have the right qualifications and it is not my interest. I wanted to be teacher but i am an introvert. So im working hard to become a civil servant.

I hate my home, my mum has muscular dystrophy and her condition depresses me, because i know she is going to die soon even though she has treated me harsh since childjhood. My little brother is very annoying and pisses me off and my dad is a psychological bully. I ran away to america last year due to home and being treated as **** when i was uni.

having nobody sends me to the sad site. Talking to people doesn't count as friends and now i'm just living a sad pathetic life drinking whiskey on a sunday night whilst my parents are asleep. It has never bothered me to have a gf but with my parents and also other relatives pressuring me, i am now becoming like sad ****s guys on TSR who complain 'why they can't get a gf'
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I am in my mid 20s. An african who grew up in south london. I have been receiving pressure from my parents ever since i started university 4 years ago to get a girlfriend. I tell them no, i can't get a girlfriend, im ****ing autistic and have severe depression. My family are homophobic and my mum thinks i'm gay because i have never had a gf

I can't get a girlfriend, i have no friends, why would a girl want me? My parents know im a loner. Also black girls really really don't like me and my parents are racist to other countries.

I lost my virginity and i enjoy ****ing random girls (who are often eastern European girls) and spending on escort. It helps my loneliness and my depression. If i told my parents what i was doing, i would be finished.

What the hell should i do to my ****** parents to leave me alone. I should have ****ed off after graduation but now im depressed again in my home. I'm also depressed in London because i have no friends

Anyway the debate is would u date a guy who ****s escorts or is a loner?
Ermmmm brother instead of paying for *** take the money and rent your own place . Your parents just want the best for you x and are you very severe on the autistic scale ? I'm sure you'll find a nice black girl to take home to the fam and maybe it's just the area you live in is very ignorant to your situation uno being autistic . Personally the way you phrased this made me LOL and ofcourse I wouldn't want to date you , you might have a a disease instead of running from problems take a step in controlling your life and go to the doctors , secondly you seem to have low self esteem "why would anyone date me "
best wishes !
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I am autistic also, but I wouldn't date anyone like you who wallows in their own self pity. No girl is going to put up with that amount of miserable. Get your own place, work hard, get a career, then you'll find a woman. I don't think anyone ever wants a man who sleeps with prostitutes out of desperation.
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Ermmmm brother instead of paying for *** take the money and rent your own place . Your parents just want the best for you x and are you very severe on the autistic scale ? I'm sure you'll find a nice black girl to take home to the fam and maybe it's just the area you live in is very ignorant to your situation uno being autistic . Personally the way you phrased this made me LOL and ofcourse I wouldn't want to date you , you might have a a disease instead of running from problems take a step in controlling your life and go to the doctors , secondly you seem to have low self esteem "why would anyone date me "
best wishes !
ok. ermmmmm mixed post.

ur a muslim right? any religion does not understand autism, but i respect religion regardless

yes i have low esteem, im depressed because i was cursed by this disorder

anyway i dont know what to say but thanks for your input because im drunk right now.
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I am autistic also, but I wouldn't date anyone like you who wallows in their own self pity. No girl is going to put up with that amount of miserable. Get your own place, work hard, get a career, then you'll find a woman. I don't think anyone ever wants a man who sleeps with prostitutes out of desperation.
yeah i do understand.

Im still gonna sleep with escorts or girls which helps my depression. Autism is a spectrum and i assume u have the good social skills of autism i wish i had.
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I would never ever outright discount someone for mental health issues. But sleeping around? Big warning lights. Absolutely, 100% not.
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Have you had any therapy for your depression?
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No girl is going to be interested in a guy who sleeps around. Just concentrate on your health and your career, life aspirations. Make friends and Ignore your parents. You'll have a girlfriend later on.
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I honestly would date a guy who is a loner. cause im a loner so we can both be a loner together innit.
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(Original post by Saffron08)
Try a dating app? Just get out there, talk to new girls. But u need to stop having sex with random girls that is NOT attractive. Don’t worry, try to ignore ur parents. Everything will work out eventually.
women have sex with random chad all the time
why is this different for them ?
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yeah i do understand.

Im still gonna sleep with escorts or girls which helps my depression. Autism is a spectrum and i assume u have the good social skills of autism i wish i had.
It's not helping with your depression, it's just a short escape from your depression and it seems you're probably getting addicted to it. If you want a relationship you'd have to give up sleeping with others and be committed with that person. I'd honestly suggest you see a psychiatrist. Theres no shame in going at all, they'll do their best to work with you.

Other than that have you ever tried working on yourself a bit? By this I mean exercising, grooming yourself, having a hobby? Starting with these are a good idea.
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