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what to do if im alone at lunch? I feel so embarrased

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Original post by Anonymous
Oh really ? did that work out okay for you in the library every day? did you enjoy it ? I have a big big gap tomorrow, nearly 4 hours, did you have anything of that sort? I am a boy also

nice. think its hard to make friends as a guy.

i have no gaps in between lessons. i have a good timetable, i go home when my lessons end and i come in when they r due. e.g monday i finish 10:30am. only 1 lesson. and wedesday i come in 12:30-4 and go home
Original post by Anonymous
nice. think its hard to make friends as a guy.

i have no gaps in between lessons. i have a good timetable, i go home when my lessons end and i come in when they r due. e.g monday i finish 10:30am. only 1 lesson. and wedesday i come in 12:30-4 and go home

mine is awful, I dont know what to do about it


Also did time go by watching stuff in library? did other people not see u ?
Original post by Anonymous
mine is awful, I dont know what to do about it


Also did time go by watching stuff in library? did other people not see u ?


nobody cares about what other sdo. when i judge i forget about it in 2 secs. if someone sees ur alone. worst case they think ur a loser and 2 secs later they get a notifcation and ur forgotten. ppl saw me ofc and didnt give a flying f***
Original post by Anonymous
nobody cares about what other sdo. when i judge i forget about it in 2 secs. if someone sees ur alone. worst case they think ur a loser and 2 secs later they get a notifcation and ur forgotten. ppl saw me ofc and didnt give a flying f***

Okay, is that how u spent all ur time? just in library when u had gaps? did u not try and socialise
Original post by Anonymous
Okay, is that how u spent all ur time? just in library when u had gaps? did u not try and socialise

i tried. wanted to speak to this girl next to me who was also eating alone but got c*ckblocked by her friend.

my breaks r usually 15 mins once or twitch a day so i just use toilet walk around and arrive 5 mins early.
pretty sad ngl.

i'd try talk to ppl in library but they r so focused and dont wanna ruin stuff 4 them
Original post by Anonymous
i tried. wanted to speak to this girl next to me who was also eating alone but got c*ckblocked by her friend.

my breaks r usually 15 mins once or twitch a day so i just use toilet walk around and arrive 5 mins early.
pretty sad ngl.

i'd try talk to ppl in library but they r so focused and dont wanna ruin stuff 4 them

15 minutes? I have a 3 hour break damn
Original post by Anonymous
15 minutes? I have a 3 hour break damn

Thats why Im saying its important for me to make friends, I can't be alone doing nothing for all that
Original post by Anonymous
15 minutes? I have a 3 hour break damn

ye my timetables super great.
longest break is like 30 mins. rest im in lesson or at home.

but i still kinda feel lonely obvs
Original post by Anonymous
ye my timetables super great.
longest break is like 30 mins. rest im in lesson or at home.

but i still kinda feel lonely obvs

I really wish I had something like that I mean 30 minutes? wow
Original post by Anonymous
as above

this happens to me as well. i feel sooo lonely almost all the time:/ it hurt sm to feel alone in a crowd.
Original post by Anonymous
I really wish I had something like that I mean 30 minutes? wow


if i had 3 hrs i'd go talk to ppl in library and refractory(canteen). but im happy with my breaks lol.
Original post by Anonymous
if i had 3 hrs i'd go talk to ppl in library and refractory(canteen). but im happy with my breaks lol.

Its too awkward in canteen - people are in big groups
Original post by Anonymous
Its too awkward in canteen - people are in big groups

look for any1 on their own. 'hi mind if i sit here' 'nope' shake hands. exchange names ask about lessons/a levels and carry on from there.

maybe get their insta snap done. try that with any1 u see alone.
Okay I will try that, I hope it works thank you

Original post by Anonymous
look for any1 on their own. 'hi mind if i sit here' 'nope' shake hands. exchange names ask about lessons/a levels and carry on from there.

maybe get their insta snap done. try that with any1 u see alone.
Original post by Anonymous
Today was my first day , I didn’t make any friends tbh, just simple chat in my classes about work but nothing much , also teacher decided to make a rude remark about me . Then I had 2 hours and a half spare time but I live too far to go home . I spent it alone in the canteen when many others are in groups of 7/8 ( I don’t know anybody there ) I don’t think I could continue if it remains like this

Hope you're okay. I know exactly how you feel. Bear with me plz as I have a bit to say on this....I am starting a Uni course rn and it's like that for me too. Still! Most people hanging out in groups and they are only 1st years. The thing is, see if you can find other people who are on their own. That's what I've been doing this week. Usually they are the nice ones!
If that's not possible then focus on the studying if you can, cause you picked those subjects cause you like them, right? If you focus on the work, then you will have something to talk about with other people who are into the studying, and maybe you could help each other with studying. So in that way it can lead to socialising....
As a general rule, I find that girls are much kinder than guys when it comes to approaching them just to make a friend. Girls really appreciate a guy who is not trying to chat them up and just wants talk to them like a normal person. (If you're a guy, I don't know.)
On my first day in 6th form, I was made to stand up from my seat, with my whole form class watching, and "do a twirl". Everyone laughed. I just did what the teacher said cause I'm like that, but I feel so stupid, looking back on it, that I let that teacher bully me. He made me do that because I didn't instantly understand something he told us (I'm a deep thinker and a bit slow sometimes when it comes to the more simple info...)
I loved all the subjects I took, but I didn't really have friends. I really enjoyed two of my subjects though, because I got on really well with the people in those classes. They were so much more mature than year 11. The other students in my other two classes were pretty mean to me and it was like being in Y11 again.
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It’s all about confidence, no one judges you if you look content alone, just getting on with work or sitting with headphones in. If you sit looking like you want to die then people may start to pity you, but other than that let them get on with it
shall we all just make a sc group so we can talk during our frees?or just talk when we're at home? I'm up for it lol
Im down
Original post by ImAGiraffe
It’s all about confidence, no one judges you if you look content alone, just getting on with work or sitting with headphones in. If you sit looking like you want to die then people may start to pity you, but other than that let them get on with it

Okay , thats one thing I struggle on is confidence, with friends I am ok, but alone I struggle to even open my mouth
Original post by Paul1990s
Hope you're okay. I know exactly how you feel. Bear with me plz as I have a bit to say on this....I am starting a Uni course rn and it's like that for me too. Still! Most people hanging out in groups and they are only 1st years. The thing is, see if you can find other people who are on their own. That's what I've been doing this week. Usually they are the nice ones!
If that's not possible then focus on the studying if you can, cause you picked those subjects cause you like them, right? If you focus on the work, then you will have something to talk about with other people who are into the studying, and maybe you could help each other with studying. So in that way it can lead to socialising....
As a general rule, I find that girls are much kinder than guys when it comes to approaching them just to make a friend. Girls really appreciate a guy who is not trying to chat them up and just wants talk to them like a normal person. (If you're a guy, I don't know.)
On my first day in 6th form, I was made to stand up from my seat, with my whole form class watching, and "do a twirl". Everyone laughed. I just did what the teacher said cause I'm like that, but I feel so stupid, looking back on it, that I let that teacher bully me. He made me do that because I didn't instantly understand something he told us (I'm a deep thinker and a bit slow sometimes when it comes to the more simple info...)
I loved all the subjects I took, but I didn't really have friends. I really enjoyed two of my subjects though, because I got on really well with the people in those classes. They were so much more mature than year 11. The other students in my other two classes were pretty mean to me and it was like being in Y11 again.

Thanks for your response very interesting to read. How did you cope during your free's? I might try and see if my timeteable could change because it seems so stupid to have them all spaced out so much and and keeping me for long hours from 9-5

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