Perhaps love is a strong word but this is more than a crush. He is probably age 30 at most, I am 23. But he is one of three therapists that leads a DBT skills group I am in. I am head over heels for this guy. But he is very reserved.
I want to connect with him outside of group. I know this is unprofessional but I feel like my heart is on fire. I really cannot tell if he takes any special interest in me.
Here is where it gets crazy: I went to a cafe after group today. On my way out I see him at a bus stop ahead, directly in my path. I scrambled to look like I was reading a book I happened to be carrying (very awkwardly as I walked down a busy street). And I believe he saw me. He looked away very quickly as I looked up. I cut across a courtyard to avoid getting too close. But I couldn't help myself, I stopped to sit on a bench not far away to see what line he took.
Tomorrow I am thinking of taking that bus around the same time. There is a restaurant I like on that route so it would not be a "special" trip. I plan on maybe chatting him up, God willing we "bump into" one another.
Is this a terrible idea? I know it is not great but I am desperate.
P.S. I am told in the past that I am attractive but I have never had a boyfriend or girlfriend. Someone has said it's because "I'm too pretty to approach" but I don't know if I believe that. I am very inexperienced and have social anxiety. My only kiss was ten years ago, I was 13 and I'm pretty sure we didnt do it right at all.