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Boyfriend follows naked women on insta

My boyfriend says he loves me. Yet follows slutty pics constantly on Instagram. I've told him how I feel yet he says to me stop being childish. Even when were out in the car he constantly stares and comments on other women..

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Hiffyy
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My ex used to follow random girls on insta who posted revealing pics. I hated it. Made me feel so insecure about my body.
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Hiffyy
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Don’t know why guys even like to follow naked women on insta🙄
Original post by Anonymous
My boyfriend says he loves me. Yet follows slutty pics constantly on Instagram. I've told him how I feel yet he says to me stop being childish. Even when were out in the car he constantly stares and comments on other women..


Just out of curiosity, have you ever seen topless guys on your insta? I think it depends on whether he is specifically going out of his way to follow naked women, or if he followed women who post other stuff but happened to post a nude pic. The second is alright I think. But it’s up to you decide if he really likes you, calling you childish rather than explaining it’s just Instagram and means nothing is a bit of a red flag to me
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sounds like you should start shopping for a new bf if it bothers you so much..
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Original post by Anonymous
My boyfriend says he loves me. Yet follows slutty pics constantly on Instagram. I've told him how I feel yet he says to me stop being childish. Even when were out in the car he constantly stares and comments on other women..


He does not respect you more than them. He is a f..k boy and you are convenient to be very honest with you! Time to dump him dont you think? He is so blatantly disrespectful to you! Why are you allowing it?
Original post by Hiffyy
Don’t know why guys even like to follow naked women on insta🙄

Oh I don’t know, (really taking a wild guess here), maybe because they find women attractive and naked ones even more so?
The staring/commenting on women in front of you isn't right.

Following hot girls on Insta is something a lot of guys do (heck I do it too and I'm not a guy) and there isn't a deep meaning to it. Yes they're nice to look at, yes there is a chance they jerk off to it, but unless they're messaging these girls it's typically harmless.
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Way to go with making you feel special.
Original post by Dunya
Way to go with making you feel special.

Way too mad out here in this @Dunya

OP why don't you just do the same, follow them ig models who usually go topless and give him the exact same treatment. See if he says anything :colonhash:
If he doesn't I don't really think he's as committed as you think.
I agree with @sinfonietta that the commenting on women in front of you is just plain disrespectful and more of an issue than the instagram following. Also - not a fan of him calling you childish for what is a perfectly reasonable concern. Another sign he has not respect for you.

I have always said, there is no harm in looking and appreciating others beauty even when in a relationship, but it shouldn't be done in a way that will make you feel inadequate and insecure.

If you are feeling uneasy about it then I would trust your gut that this person may not have your best interests at heart. My advice would be to move on from him. You will be surprised how many great guys are out there just waiting to treat you like a Queen! Don't settle for less.
Original post by Amon-ster
Way too mad out here in this @Dunya

OP why don't you just do the same, follow them ig models who usually go topless and give him the exact same treatment. See if he says anything :colonhash:
If he doesn't I don't really think he's as committed as you think.

Great idea, If my husband pisses me off I'm going to put Tom Hardy as my phone background :u:
Even girls follow hot girls on insta. Is it really that much of a big deal? :dontknow:

Being attracted to people doesn't stop just because you're in a relationship.
I don't know why these guys just don't create an alternate account. In what universe is it appropriate to follow porn accounts on a handle your partner knows. That's all it is though, porn.
Original post by Hiffyy
Don’t know why guys even like to follow naked women on insta🙄

same reason why guys watch porn ig
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mgi
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Original post by MidgetFever
Even girls follow hot girls on insta. Is it really that much of a big deal? :dontknow:

Being attracted to people doesn't stop just because you're in a relationship.


No , finding people attractive when you are in a relationship is ok but going through pics of naked people is a bit much unless, as in some relationships, neither person minds. Its about being sensitive to the feelings of your partner. If you were in love with someone and they combed through naked pics of other women/men in front of you would you be ok with it? and how far away from cheating is this? just a thought!
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mgi
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Original post by _gcx
I don't know why these guys just don't create an alternate account. In what universe is it appropriate to follow porn accounts on a handle your partner knows. That's all it is though, porn.

But some people watch porn with their partner!
Original post by mgi
No , finding people attractive when you are in a relationship is ok but going through pics of naked people is a bit much unless, as in some relationships, neither person minds. Its about being sensitive to the feelings of your partner. If you were in love with someone and they combed through naked pics of other women/men in front of you would you be ok with it? and how far away from cheating is this? just a thought!

I'd only class it as cheating if it was personal, if they were asking for nudes from someone they knew or something. If it's just a naked random then I'm not so fussed, just seems like porn to me.
Original post by _gcx
same reason why guys watch porn ig

Pornography is a medium that is harmful to social order. It is wisely banned in China. It is not normal behaviour to consume pornography, but a symptom of a deranged society in decline that has lost all sense of pride and respect.
Well, just imagine the thoughts he is having of these insta girls!!! IT IS very unloyal. idc what any of you say it is. People say it is controlling, no it is not! What makes you capable of thinking that they won't actually do something in real life with a pretty girl whilst with their partners. You don't know that! So yes maybe have a talk with him or show him where the door is.

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