My Boyfriend And I Are Opposites - AMA :)

Interesting. Your relationship still works ok?

Hi there,

No trolls please 😅

My boyfriend and I are dissimilar in quite a few areas, such as politically, religiously, and personality wise.

I’m just a little bored so AMA

What religions are you both? And does that effect your relationship in any way?

[ltr]How do you get on with him if he’s the opposite it to you in politics? Your views on everything would be different.[/ltr]

i can sorta relate. e.g. in my relationship we have different views on polyamory and drugs, i'm vegetarian and he's not, he's more 'family' oriented, very different personalities. it gets on my nerves sometimes tbh. do you guys fight a lot too?

We don’t really fight. Similarly I’m vegetarian and he’s not, but he enjoys vegetarian options too lol. However we have the same views on polyamory (for some, not for us) and drugs (no). We don’t live together or anything though so perhaps that’s why?

Is the sex amazing asf???

yeah, lol, possibly. we do.

I suppose the more time you spend someone the more chance you have to fight I guess? I hope everything works out for you though!

Hahaha, I’m Christian so can’t comment lol.

So you aren't living together?

And you haven't had sex?

So he's not your "boyfriend" in some senses of the word?
In my family somoene only becomes a "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" when you are having sex with them. Different people have different definitions of these words.

He's only your boyfriend as far as you are close platonic friends with the intention that at some point you might get married?

Or is it that you've had sex with him, but don't want to talk about it on a public forum?

How compatible are you in:
the number of children that you desire
your basic philosophies in raising children
how you resolve conflict
Your attutudes to money and finances. Earning it. Spending it. Saving it.

He is my boyfriend in the sense that we are in an exclusive romantic relationship. We’re looking to live together next year but we haven’t had sex, no.

We’ve both agreed max one child but we both want to be fully ready and prepared before then, so it could potentially be none. I lean towards none, but we’re still young and at the moment this is not a concern. Evidently if we change our minds we will need to decide what to do.
We seem to have similar ideas of how to raise children? Less technology, lots of personal interaction, no physical punishment etc, if that’s what you mean.
Conflicts need to be spoken through and understood.
We both want to earn large amounts of money. I save slightly more than he does.

That's great!

So, on the important relationship-breaking things in life, the 2 of you are pleasantly compatible.
The sex. It remains to be seen. Hopefully you'll be compatible with that. But there's a chance that you won't.

All the areas that you are incompatible in are rather unimportant in terms of how happy you will be in the long term as a couple.
Brexit, what you like to eat, the church that you like to go to, favourite music, clothes, TV programmes, films, books.
Because there are simple enough work-arounds that you can use for these. Get a 2nd TV, have a spare study room in your home, give each other space on Sunday morning, agree to disagre on Brexit, eat 4 of the 6 things available to eat with any meal etc etc etc