celibacy till married.

Hey there! So I'm a 17 year old gay guy who's celibate. Thing is I'm staunchly religious as well and hence view sex outside of marriage as sinful. However, I can't seem to be able to reconcile being religious and being gay because I think that even within the context of a 'marriage', sex would still be highly undesirable. Don't get me wrong though, I don't think being gay in itself is sinful.

You’re waiting for marriage ? Well it isn’t going to be a Christian one is it ..

of course it is. why wouldn't it be ?

Which church allows a sex same marriage ?

Not gonna lie. I'm not too sure about wether having sex in marriage is sin or not. I do think that we should treat it the same as if a straight couple have sex in marriage because even then most if not all will use protection to prevent having a baby. so I don't see why it is any different.

if that doesn't suffice then I guess you just need to understand that every one sins, it's just they sin differently to you and that's what they're judging despite the fact that were told not to judge others.

It must be hard in this day and age to get someone to marry you who hasn't been intimate with you, but it's no impossible. You're just going to have seek people out who have the same views as you. It's not going to be easy, the person you fall in love with might not want to make the commitment of marriage without having a sexual relationship with you first and u might have to rethink things so keep an open mind but keep your own goal at the forefront and see how things go. You're still so young so lots of time to find the right one

I feel like deciding to have gay sex but only in marriage is splitting hairs. The argument you present above seems like it could equally be used to excuse fornication.

For the record, I don't see anything wrong with people of the same gender having sex, or with people having sex before marriage; I don't see any of that as sinful because I don't see who any of it could possibly harm. I'm just pointing out inconsistencies.

I can imagine it will be. for now I'm not really bothered about being in a relationship. I'm in a place where I want to concentrate on my education and setting the groundwork to a possible future in what I enjoy. I do believe that God will put someone in my life that will not only wait for me but will be supportive of my decision. I don't care if they too have waited or not. I know everything will work out but right now Its not something I'm thinking deeply about. I really appreciate what you're saying, I do and I will keep an open mind. but I'm confident that it will work out. i am young as you said so I do have a lot of time to not worry too deeply about it yet. I'll just let things happen when and as they do.

You know exactly what you want and I've got lots of respect for you. I like your mindset.

but I do believe sex can be so much more than making a child. it can be one of the deepest form of love and affection and trust towards your partner and strengthing a loving relationship between two people.

Well, exactly. I don't see what the problem is with doing that before marriage; I don't see who it harms or how it would damage a person's relationship with God.

He designed it to be so intense, so exciting, so memorable, so fun that He wants us to share it with one person: our future wife/husband which is why you wait till marriage.

How does that follow?

what are you asking?

God is doesn't hate sex. He designed it to be so intense, so exciting, so memorable, so fun that He wants us to share it with one person: our future wife/husband which is why you wait till marriage.