Good Friend (gay) reveals feelings for me, we messed around and idk what to do

Hello i guess, finally sober enough to make this post

I've got 2 roommates who I've known and been friends with for a very long time and one of them recently told me he was gay, really genuinely likes me, has liked me for a long time and has finally been able to explain his feelings to me, we both are introverts so that is very unexpected. I had recently finally severed ties with my on again off again girlfriend who'd i'd blindly been following. I wasn't in the happiest of moods and slightly intoxicated and chilling out ended up with him giving me a Bj. I haven't spoken to him now in two days because i've been avoiding him but mainly I've been very drunk. I dont think im gay and im unsure how to deal with his feelings since I think he actually feels for me which is a new feeling and looking back over the years ive known him i think ive just been oblivious to when he has been slightly flirty and ive have a few suspicions but I didn't that he liked me in this way. Its a strange feeling because no one has ever really "like liked" (cringe) me to my knowledge and the first person to do was him. Im a selfish and arrogant and very shy + introverted which has definitely contributed to my lack of fans and for him to see past that and still like me in that way is confusing. I enjoyed the bj for sure but i dont think im mentally gay (is that a thing) idk, strange times indeed.

I dont know why i messed around with him but now I feel a bit ****ty since ive acted like a **** and really idk what to do or say

Sorry for the below standard grammar.

Hello i guess, finally sober enough to make this post

I've got 2 roommates who I've known and been friends with for a very long time and one of them recently told me he was gay, really genuinely likes me, has liked me for a long time and has finally been able to explain his feelings to me, we both are introverts so that is very unexpected. I had recently finally severed ties with my on again off again girlfriend who'd i'd blindly been following. I wasn't in the happiest of moods and slightly intoxicated and chilling out ended up with him giving me a Bj. I haven't spoken to him now in two days because i've been avoiding him but mainly I've been very drunk. I dont think im gay and im unsure how to deal with his feelings since I think he actually feels for me which is a new feeling and looking back over the years ive known him i think ive just been oblivious to when he has been slightly flirty and ive have a few suspicions but I didn't that he liked me in this way. Its a strange feeling because no one has ever really "like liked" (cringe) me to my knowledge and the first person to do was him. Im a selfish and arrogant and very shy + introverted which has definitely contributed to my lack of fans and for him to see past that and still like me in that way is confusing. I enjoyed the bj for sure but i dont think im mentally gay (is that a thing) idk, strange times indeed.

I dont know why i messed around with him but now I feel a bit ****ty since ive acted like a **** and really idk what to do or say

Sorry for the below standard grammar.

Just because you had one gay sexual experience doesn't necessarily mean you're gay, so if you're questioning yourself try not to get too wrapped up in it.

You definitely need to just push through the awkward and chat about what happened. You've been under the influence of alcohol which has affected your decisions, so you need to make him aware of that in case he is expecting anything to come of this encounter you had with him.

the rules of being gay in 2019 allow for a 'no homo' to cover previous actions IF said within 7 days of the event

Hello i guess, finally sober enough to make this post

I've got 2 roommates who I've known and been friends with for a very long time and one of them recently told me he was gay, really genuinely likes me, has liked me for a long time and has finally been able to explain his feelings to me, we both are introverts so that is very unexpected. I had recently finally severed ties with my on again off again girlfriend who'd i'd blindly been following. I wasn't in the happiest of moods and slightly intoxicated and chilling out ended up with him giving me a Bj. I haven't spoken to him now in two days because i've been avoiding him but mainly I've been very drunk. I dont think im gay and im unsure how to deal with his feelings since I think he actually feels for me which is a new feeling and looking back over the years ive known him i think ive just been oblivious to when he has been slightly flirty and ive have a few suspicions but I didn't that he liked me in this way. Its a strange feeling because no one has ever really "like liked" (cringe) me to my knowledge and the first person to do was him. Im a selfish and arrogant and very shy + introverted which has definitely contributed to my lack of fans and for him to see past that and still like me in that way is confusing. I enjoyed the bj for sure but i dont think im mentally gay (is that a thing) idk, strange times indeed.

I dont know why i messed around with him but now I feel a bit ****ty since ive acted like a **** and really idk what to do or say

Sorry for the below standard grammar.

What happened at the end? Did you finish in his mouth? Or, did you guys stop the bj before finishing?

He might feel like he took advantage of you while you were drunk. Or, he might also think you could be gay but that you're in denial. I'm certain that among you both it's him that's conflicted the most considering that he's had such strong feelings for you all these years.

By the way, messing around with a guy doesn't mean you're gay. You had a bit of fun, that's fine. You can choose to have more fun or not but that's all it is - fun. It doesn't matter because you'd rather settle with a girl. Just make sure you don't hurt your friend who most certainly is gay and would like to settle with a guy.

I think you’ll need to work it through with a counsellor as there’s a lot to it and consequences for your friendship. At some point you’re going to come fade to face with your room mate and will need to talk to him about it. It’ll be embarrassing but it needs to be done. How do you feel about him now your sober, would you let him blow you again? Or does that thought appall you? Take strength to have a chat with him.

Hello i guess, finally sober enough to make this post

I've got 2 roommates who I've known and been friends with for a very long time and one of them recently told me he was gay, really genuinely likes me, has liked me for a long time and has finally been able to explain his feelings to me, we both are introverts so that is very unexpected. I had recently finally severed ties with my on again off again girlfriend who'd i'd blindly been following. I wasn't in the happiest of moods and slightly intoxicated and chilling out ended up with him giving me a Bj. I haven't spoken to him now in two days because i've been avoiding him but mainly I've been very drunk. I dont think im gay and im unsure how to deal with his feelings since I think he actually feels for me which is a new feeling and looking back over the years ive known him i think ive just been oblivious to when he has been slightly flirty and ive have a few suspicions but I didn't that he liked me in this way. Its a strange feeling because no one has ever really "like liked" (cringe) me to my knowledge and the first person to do was him. Im a selfish and arrogant and very shy + introverted which has definitely contributed to my lack of fans and for him to see past that and still like me in that way is confusing. I enjoyed the bj for sure but i dont think im mentally gay (is that a thing) idk, strange times indeed.

I dont know why i messed around with him but now I feel a bit ****ty since ive acted like a **** and really idk what to do or say

Idk i got conflicting feelings. Never been attracted to guys and still not attracted to guys or him, however I enjoy bjs and i don't receive them as often as I would like. Very conflicting feelings and I also dont want to say or do anything to hurt him since he's a good friend. Its also very difficult to have that chat and very difficult to explain my feelings

Idk i got conflicting feelings. Never been attracted to guys and still not attracted to guys or him, however I enjoy bjs and i don't receive them as often as I would like. Very conflicting feelings and I also dont want to say or do anything to hurt him since he's a good friend. Its also very difficult to have that chat and very difficult to explain my feelings

You literally just explained your feelings; it's that simple. You don't know what his response will be and it's completely understandable to be worried, and it's THAT that's stopping you from talking to him, not any difficulty in explaining how you feel.

The way you're treating him now - avoiding him when previously you were good friends - is certainly more hurtful to him than explaining how you feel ever could be. Just get it over with!

how could you....

it's easier to forgive an enemy than it is a friend.