University is not what I thought it would be like

I came to university in September thinking that I'd make friends and have a good time but so far, that hasn't been the case. I've tried to make some friends by going to some fresher events, talking to flatmates and coursemates but I still haven't met anyone that I'd consider a friend yet. The first few weeks of class, I was in a lecture with two girls, we spoke a bit, then we followed each other on Instagram after one of them suggested that we could hang out, but we never did. I speak to some people in seminars and sit with them in lectures but we never do anything out of class. I think they already have their own groups of friends anyway.

I went clubbing for one of my society events, met two other girls, who I hung out with throughout the night, exchanged contact details again but I haven't seen either of them since. Then the last time I went to another one of the society meetings, I met a girl who I actually found out was in the same hall as me, followed her on Instagram and haven't seen her since (to be fair, this was only like two weeks ago, I haven't been to another society meeting yet). When people ask for my Instagram, I feel like that's it, I'll never hear from them again.

I'm in a block with over fifty people but no one ever talks to me or knocks on my door. I wouldn't mind so much if I had friends to hang out with but I don't. I honestly didn't think it would be this hard to make friends at university. At this point, I feel like I'm in a prison cell. I only come out to use the bathroom or go to class. I rarely go down to eat (catered accommodation) because I don't want to look like a loner. Can't even order a takeaway because there's no food places nearby and it will be awkward standing outside by myself waiting for it to arrive then carrying it back to my room alone. Literally all I eat these days are sandwiches or paninis.

I honestly thought that my university experience would be different. I came here wanting to join the gym and become healthier but nothing seems to be going to plan. I probably would have left by now if I didn't like my course. Does it get any better?

Did you not start off going to meals with your flatmates at the start of the year?
Do you have any coursemates in your accommodation?

I’m having quite a similar experience as you with the added addition that I do not live in accommodations as I have to commute to the university. If I may ask, what university do you go to?

I came to university in September thinking that I'd make friends and have a good time but so far, that hasn't been the case. I've tried to make some friends by going to some fresher events, talking to flatmates and coursemates but I still haven't met anyone that I'd consider a friend yet. The first few weeks of class, I was in a lecture with two girls, we spoke a bit, then we followed each other on Instagram after one of them suggested that we could hang out, but we never did. I speak to some people in seminars and sit with them in lectures but we never do anything out of class. I think they already have their own groups of friends anyway.

I went clubbing for one of my society events, met two other girls, who I hung out with throughout the night, exchanged contact details again but I haven't seen either of them since. Then the last time I went to another one of the society meetings, I met a girl who I actually found out was in the same hall as me, followed her on Instagram and haven't seen her since (to be fair, this was only like two weeks ago, I haven't been to another society meeting yet). When people ask for my Instagram, I feel like that's it, I'll never hear from them again.

I'm in a block with over fifty people but no one ever talks to me or knocks on my door. I wouldn't mind so much if I had friends to hang out with but I don't. I honestly didn't think it would be this hard to make friends at university. At this point, I feel like I'm in a prison cell. I only come out to use the bathroom or go to class. I rarely go down to eat (catered accommodation) because I don't want to look like a loner. Can't even order a takeaway because there's no food places nearby and it will be awkward standing outside by myself waiting for it to arrive then carrying it back to my room alone. Literally all I eat these days are sandwiches or paninis.

I honestly thought that my university experience would be different. I came here wanting to join the gym and become healthier but nothing seems to be going to plan. I probably would have left by now if I didn't like my course. Does it get any better?

Highly relatable. I thought everyone was going to be super open and friendly at uni but I've not found that at all. Even the people who are friendly aren't "friends" if that makes sense?

I came to university in September thinking that I'd make friends and have a good time but so far, that hasn't been the case. I've tried to make some friends by going to some fresher events, talking to flatmates and coursemates but I still haven't met anyone that I'd consider a friend yet. The first few weeks of class, I was in a lecture with two girls, we spoke a bit, then we followed each other on Instagram after one of them suggested that we could hang out, but we never did. I speak to some people in seminars and sit with them in lectures but we never do anything out of class. I think they already have their own groups of friends anyway.

I went clubbing for one of my society events, met two other girls, who I hung out with throughout the night, exchanged contact details again but I haven't seen either of them since. Then the last time I went to another one of the society meetings, I met a girl who I actually found out was in the same hall as me, followed her on Instagram and haven't seen her since (to be fair, this was only like two weeks ago, I haven't been to another society meeting yet). When people ask for my Instagram, I feel like that's it, I'll never hear from them again.

I'm in a block with over fifty people but no one ever talks to me or knocks on my door. I wouldn't mind so much if I had friends to hang out with but I don't. I honestly didn't think it would be this hard to make friends at university. At this point, I feel like I'm in a prison cell. I only come out to use the bathroom or go to class. I rarely go down to eat (catered accommodation) because I don't want to look like a loner. Can't even order a takeaway because there's no food places nearby and it will be awkward standing outside by myself waiting for it to arrive then carrying it back to my room alone. Literally all I eat these days are sandwiches or paninis.

I honestly thought that my university experience would be different. I came here wanting to join the gym and become healthier but nothing seems to be going to plan. I probably would have left by now if I didn't like my course. Does it get any better?

We are all in this together but at different Unis

I'm exactly the same, not close with my flatmates (but they're all best friends) and dont like the people on my course. so rn i'm pretty much a loner, and people are already choosing houses for next year which is stressing me out since i have no one.

Highly relatable. I thought everyone was going to be super open and friendly at uni but I've not found that at all. Even the people who are friendly aren't "friends" if that makes sense?

It weirdly relaxes me to know that I am not the only one going through this. Everyone seems to have easily made friends, but I have bene feeling so lonely.

Yes, for about a month. It was easier since people used to ask in the group chat when they wanted to go down for dinner, but everyone seems to go at their own time now, I guess because of different timetables, them going with their friends instead and that. I do a joint honours and have only met two other people doing my exact course, but neither of them are in my hall unfortunately. Neither are the coursemates that are in most of my classes.


I'm at University of Nottingham, what about you?

I came to university in September thinking that I'd make friends and have a good time but so far, that hasn't been the case. I've tried to make some friends by going to some fresher events, talking to flatmates and coursemates but I still haven't met anyone that I'd consider a friend yet. The first few weeks of class, I was in a lecture with two girls, we spoke a bit, then we followed each other on Instagram after one of them suggested that we could hang out, but we never did. I speak to some people in seminars and sit with them in lectures but we never do anything out of class. I think they already have their own groups of friends anyway.

I went clubbing for one of my society events, met two other girls, who I hung out with throughout the night, exchanged contact details again but I haven't seen either of them since. Then the last time I went to another one of the society meetings, I met a girl who I actually found out was in the same hall as me, followed her on Instagram and haven't seen her since (to be fair, this was only like two weeks ago, I haven't been to another society meeting yet). When people ask for my Instagram, I feel like that's it, I'll never hear from them again.

I'm in a block with over fifty people but no one ever talks to me or knocks on my door. I wouldn't mind so much if I had friends to hang out with but I don't. I honestly didn't think it would be this hard to make friends at university. At this point, I feel like I'm in a prison cell. I only come out to use the bathroom or go to class. I rarely go down to eat (catered accommodation) because I don't want to look like a loner. Can't even order a takeaway because there's no food places nearby and it will be awkward standing outside by myself waiting for it to arrive then carrying it back to my room alone. Literally all I eat these days are sandwiches or paninis.

I honestly thought that my university experience would be different. I came here wanting to join the gym and become healthier but nothing seems to be going to plan. I probably would have left by now if I didn't like my course. Does it get any better?