no one understands my pain :(

Are you planning to move out for good at some point?

I feel you because i feel the same and in the exact same boat

Hey!
Don't worry, this is a very common theme amongst people in their first few years of University.
General homesickness is all over this section on TSR, to be honest!
Sorry to hear you're having a rough go of it -- but I think, a few questions are in order:

- Are you enjoying University itself? The course, the content, etc.
- Have you made any new friends and would they understand your situation?
- Most people get over being homesick after a while, do you not think you will?

At some point, you are likely to live away from home and move into your own place eventually.
Joshua

I’ve been having really bad anxiety living away from home & I feel so pathetic for missing home so much cos everyone just makes me feel so small about missing it too much. I feel like my friends don’t understand my pain as they live at home & commute & don’t really like their homes anyway but they’re not allowed to live away so have no choice. The more I live at uni the more I realise this life isn’t for me & I just hate it so much & I feel no one understands my pain & I feel so isolated & alone & whenever I think about going back to uni it gives me anxiety

Reach out to your University Wellbeing Team for support. Whether it's just someone to talk to or to access their services, they'll be able to offer the best impartial advice.

I spoke to my personal tutor who was really helpful & suggested as I only have 3 days of uni, to go home on the other days as that’s the best thing for me & said by the end of the year if I still want to transfer that’d she’d help me with it

I’ve been having really bad anxiety living away from home & I feel so pathetic for missing home so much cos everyone just makes me feel so small about missing it too much. I feel like my friends don’t understand my pain as they live at home & commute & don’t really like their homes anyway but they’re not allowed to live away so have no choice. The more I live at uni the more I realise this life isn’t for me & I just hate it so much & I feel no one understands my pain & I feel so isolated & alone & whenever I think about going back to uni it gives me anxiety

Hey!

First of all, you're not pathetic for missing home. It's a completely normal thing to feel, it's a whole new experience. There are so many people in the same boat as you, you're not the only one feeling this way.

Have you thought about not living in student accommodation anymore? Or is it hard with the commute if you lived back home? I think it'll be good to keep going home as much as possible to see your family, like on the weekends or if you have a free day through the week.

Even trying to keep yourself busy to take your mind off things might be a good step in the right direction - have you thought about joining a club or society? Or becoming a student ambassador, or undertaking a volunteering opportunity?

I wish you all the very best, and I hope everything works out for you.

Becky