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Question for sexually experienced guys

How long in to a relationship does the sex get a bit routine and lose its spark?

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mgi
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Original post by Anonymous
How long in to a relationship does the sex get a bit routine and lose its spark?


That really would depend on the attitude of both people in the relationship towards the importance of being sexually fulfilled. Creativity is essential. eg sex does not have to be in a bedroom or just consist of 2 or 3 positions etc etc.
The trouble is that sex will often stsrt getting boring when one or both partners get lazy and take each other for granted!
How long is a piece of string?

With the right attitude from both partners, the answer is never.

It's like how long would it take for you to find fine dining routine and boring?
Compared to how long would it take for you to get bored of eating at McDonalds all the time, like in Super Size Me
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Original post by mgi
That really would depend on the attitude of both people in the relationship towards the importance of being sexually fulfilled. Creativity is essential. eg sex does not have to be in a bedroom or just consist of 2 or 3 positions etc etc.
The trouble is that sex will often stsrt getting boring when one or both partners get lazy and take each other for granted!

But when does it get to that point when you need to start getting more creative, like when does the new spark fizzle?
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Original post by Dunnig Kruger
How long is a piece of string?

With the right attitude from both partners, the answer is never.

It's like how long would it take for you to find fine dining routine and boring?
Compared to how long would it take for you to get bored of eating at McDonalds all the time, like in Super Size Me

Got it but so the new spark doesn’t die out a bit cos everyone’s told me it does
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guong
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i know it says for guys but i couldn't help my curiosity haha
i personally wouldn't say it loses its spark as such but you just get more used to it; it's only boring if you do it so frequently (to which, spice it up!) or genuinely nothing really happens (oop), or youre not in the mood, or you're not on the same wavelength as your person
there's not really a timeframe to when someone gets bored, it's different for everyone so don't worry about it for now otherwise it'll constantly be in your mind but if/when it happens and you genuinely like the person, communicate with them so you both know how each other feel about it :smile:
with the right person it doesn't have to lose its spark
I think the relationship would lose its spark long before the sex does.
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Original post by guong
i know it says for guys but i couldn't help my curiosity haha
i personally wouldn't say it loses its spark as such but you just get more used to it; it's only boring if you do it so frequently (to which, spice it up!) or genuinely nothing really happens (oop), or youre not in the mood, or you're not on the same wavelength as your person
there's not really a timeframe to when someone gets bored, it's different for everyone so don't worry about it for now otherwise it'll constantly be in your mind but if/when it happens and you genuinely like the person, communicate with them so you both know how each other feel about it :smile:


Good advice ty 😊
Original post by Anonymous
How long in to a relationship does the sex get a bit routine and lose its spark?


If having it 3/4 times a day ; 7 days a week then I would prolly say after a month or 2
Original post by Anonymous
If having it 3/4 times a day ; 7 days a week then I would prolly say after a month or 2

Thanks I suppose the good thing is we’re lucky to have it even once a week bcos we’re both 17 so our spark might last longer
Original post by Anonymous
Thanks I suppose the good thing is we’re lucky to have it even once a week bcos we’re both 17 so our spark might last longer

Keep it that way! You’ll crave for it more making it more compelling
You can try things to revive it:

- BDSM, tie her up, use restraints, slap her
- Swinging, have a threesome, go to swingers clubs
- Exhibitionism, have sex in front of a window, with the curtains open, on a balcony etc
- Smoking / Drinking, make your partner smoke during sex, have sex drunk
Original post by uber_eat_promo
You can try things to revive it:

- BDSM, tie her up, use restraints, slap her
- Swinging, have a threesome, go to swingers clubs
- Exhibitionism, have sex in front of a window, with the curtains open, on a balcony etc
- Smoking / Drinking, make your partner smoke during sex, have sex drunk

That sounds like something a 14 year old raised on porn would come out with :tongue:
Original post by uber_eat_promo
You can try things to revive it:

- BDSM, tie her up, use restraints, slap her
- Swinging, have a threesome, go to swingers clubs
- Exhibitionism, have sex in front of a window, with the curtains open, on a balcony etc
- Smoking / Drinking, make your partner smoke during sex, have sex drunk

Lol says Uber_eat_porno
I have one: would you care if the girl didn't tell you she was a virgin? And if so why?
Original post by StriderHort
That sounds like something a 14 year old raised on porn would come out with :tongue:


That's what me and my boyfriend do, he fills me up every night. I always go into work the next day dripping, no point cleaning it up when you are going to get filled again the next night.
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guong
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Original post by BlueFordAnglia
I have one: would you care if the girl didn't tell you she was a virgin? And if so why?

if it doesn't come up in conversation i don't think it matters UNLESS the person has an std which you don't know about. then that is kinda serious LOL
but if it's in conversation and the person is saying they aren't when they are a virgin, or they are when they're not, it's just questioning the point of lying. but after that i don't think it's really that big of a deal after you figure out why they thought it was necessary to lie
Original post by Anonymous
How long in to a relationship does the sex get a bit routine and lose its spark?


it really depends on the relationship you have with your partner. for me if things started to feel dull we would try something new and spice things up, but it really depends on who you are with. if it's bothering you, you should have this conversation with your partner 😝
Original post by guong
if it doesn't come up in conversation i don't think it matters UNLESS the person has an std which you don't know about. then that is kinda serious LOL
but if it's in conversation and the person is saying they aren't when they are a virgin, or they are when they're not, it's just questioning the point of lying. but after that i don't think it's really that big of a deal after you figure out why they thought it was necessary to lie


K thanks. I'm old so I think I'd just be too embarrassed to admit it.
How would a virgin have an std?
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