Struggling with 1st year of uni

wait hold up. you cant just stay in halls for year 2+?? you have to rent a house?? nobody told me this wtf 😨😂

wait hold up. you cant just stay in halls for year 2+?? you have to rent a house?? nobody told me this wtf 😨😂

Hi all,
just thought I'd quickly ask for some advice.

I've been back at uni for a week since the Christmas break, but it was the break itself being back with friends and family at home that made me realised that university hasn't actually been that great.

As an introvert, I knew that first term would be difficult especially making friends, but I got together with a group who I used to meet with fairly regularly for nights out during first term. However, they seemed more interested in partying compared to anything else and whilst I don't mind this, I'm not really too keen when this is almost every night! It also meant I was fairly lonely during the day and often felt upset with no one around me for the first term. (days often felt long and tiring).

However, it has got worse since I got back. The group I was with will organise and do things without me, meaning I have effectively been isolated in my room the last week. They have also got a house planned for next year, leaving me currently with no one to share for next year. This makes me particularly worried, as my parents keep asking who I'll be living with next year, as they don't want me to miss out.

I feel as though everyone I talk too I keep saying I am doing fine, so they don't worry about me, but in reality this is not the case.

Any advice about how I can meet more people and make closer friends will be greatly appreciated. It's now got to the point where my social anxiety is creeping back in to my life and just leaving me completely empty, with no energy for social interactions. I just want to meet some people like me...

You will find somewhere to live. I think it’s a good thing that you won’t be living with them because there’s no connection there.

Have you joined any societies?

I must say I do feel sorry for you!
Not to patronise but you sound like you've put all your eggs in one basket.
If you want to keep getting invited to the things your friends do then you'll have to go to all these nights out (at least partially) and pretend to enjoy them but the way I see it, that ship has sailed.
I think you're honestly going to have to fight off that social anxiety and branch out- go to every social for your course- even if you hate it; keeping up appearances is still pretty important these days.
When you meet people- yes even in a club- as them for their instagram or snapchat.
I hate the smell of cigarettes but some people love the smoking areas and that is where they meet the most people so maybe try that.
I also find that in terms of nights out, going out in a pair means you meet way more people.

I know that sounded very night-club centred but that's more my thing as I haven't really joined any societies. I remember how awkward my course was until we went on the first social and it really broke the ice.