Army boyfriend being deployed

Do you know where he's deploying (the general area, don't put specifics)? Not familiar enough with Army ops to know where this might be, especially for 8 months. This will affect how you can communicate, including the time difference. In some places use of personal mobile phones is restricted, but phone cards are issued to use landlines. Other places there will be use of emails, Skype etc. There are also 'blueys', which are free email letters that you can pick up at the post office, and now an online mail services. You might also have the opportunity to send 'care packages', parcels with toiletries, magazines, sweets, just little gifts and practical items that are always appreciated. It is doable, but takes a lot of patience, and allowing for the other person being busy and sometimes absolutely knackered from work! Best thing is to talk with him, find out more about his job, how often he might be away (I would think there'd be a reasonable time back at home base after an 8-month stint) and where his job could take him in the UK, as he won't always be in one place. And ask him about how to keep in touch whilst he's deployed; tell him you'd like an address to post stuff and how would it work with phone and e-mail. His reaction to that might tell you how he views the relationship.

I'm ex-RAF, as is my boyfriend, and when we both served we spent a lot of time apart because of our day jobs, let alone deployments; longest period was a year. There's Forces families that manage it, too, with someone back home working, looking after children etc, so it's common, though I know it's scary when the relationship is new and unfamiliar to you.

There's also an Armed Forces forum (under Careers and Jobs) where this kind of thing has been discussed; if you post on there, read the security rules and don't give too much away about the situation.

Been through this, so happy to chat further!

He’s going somewhere in Russia but he can’t tell me where, he’s not allowed a SIM card so it would just be letters and FaceTimes but there is obviously the time zone difference. I think I’m just scared because it’s so unfamiliar for me and I don’t know how to act and what to say and do

Sorry, 8 months for a deployment sounded an odd length of time for deployment, but Russia? Is he saying he's British Army or from elsewhere? Has he said what his job is and where he is normally based? So to worry you, but if he says he's British Army I'm a bit suspicious of his story.

Yeah British army, I’ve stayed at his base. He says he’s got 2 weeks off in the middle of 8 months but I thought that sounded strange, his deployment keeps changing all the time apparently.

Sorry, 8 months for a deployment sounded an odd length of time for deployment, but Russia? Is he saying he's British Army or from elsewhere? Has he said what his job is and where he is normally based? So to worry you, but if he says he's British Army I'm a bit suspicious of his story.

Yes, Russia doesn't seem like a place where british troops would get stationed.

His thing isn’t for deployment for fighting it’s for Exercises overseas but he’s not really telling me much

It’s been a while but I was under the impression that single servicemen were not allowed overnight guests in barracks so where did you stay?

There's always work-arounds! Some guys have girls stop in their rooms and keep a low profile by not going for meals in the Mess, so no questions asked. They can sponsor them onto the base and no-one checks visitors passes unless there's any issues.

When I had an raf bf years ago we used to stay with married friends. But the singleton rooms were strictly off limits.
My sons bestie is a military police officer and he has some marvellous tales of weekend exploits
Where there’s a will there’s a way.
But there’s just something I’m not believing about this story. And it’s not the boyfriend

i think this looks like a troll

Called it. But what an odd thing to troll about

This is odd
It’s been a while but I was under the impression that single servicemen were not allowed overnight guests in barracks so where did you stay?
And the British army does not have troops stationed in Russia
Either you’re trolling or he’s spinning you a yarn

Think the persons been looking at too many WW3 memes

Called it. But what