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Background story: I am a 21 year old female and a first year university student studying nursing. For as long as i remember i have been addicted to pornography to satisfy my sexual desires( I have never been intimate with anyone)

I feel into pornography because of "cuffing season" like last year. I know this is far from the truth, but, it seems like everyone else around me is in good-happy relationships and i just wanted to feel loved and wanted by someone(something i felt like i never really got when i was brought up by my parents but that is another story)

For new years resolution, I told myself i am not going back to porn because it has caused me so much damage emotionally, mentally and physically. For example, every time i see a cute guy i just want to bang him and get distracted with my assignments and exams at uni and outside of uni. However, i have fallen prey to pornography AGAIN.

I know i need help seriously but i don't know who to turn too. I don't have real friends at uni apart from acquaintances who i don't trust enough to tell them about this issue(fear of being judged and them telling other people)

I have watched over 1000 pornography episodes to the point that it makes me feel very sick to my stomach. I feel so embarrassed and ashamed typing this post.

Pornography has also changed my views on relationships in a negative way.

I feel like every guy i see(friendships and acquaintances ) their intentions are bad like to get in a girls "down there" and use them as a sex toy. What happened to making love??

I need to learn to love myself again and stop gratifying my sexual desires through my laptop screen.

Please help me.
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Hello darling. This is a late bloomers symptom of hormones raging. You really only feel guilty because you see it is something bad. There are people who have the same relationship with porn and don't feel sick and guilty. Now do you actually WATCH 1000 videos from start to finish? And are these videos beyond about 15 minutes...? Or, do you browse and skim through 1000 like, but only frig and orgasm to one?

Basically, masturbation is energy draining if you didn't muster energy in the first place. It's the worst thing to do right after waking up. You're spiking your energy up and then suffering an intense probably depressant comedown shortly after. And then sexual images so early will pervade your thoughts the rest of the day.


Maybe watch one video before bed after a long, successful, and socially fulfilling day. If you have issues feeling successful, energised and social, then you need to look into more issues than just the porn. At the end of the day, it's fine to watch. If you aren't religious anyways. I believe in the Christian God but I won't "Bible bash" ya.
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Hello darling. This is a late bloomers symptom of hormones raging. You really only feel guilty because you see it is something bad. There are people who have the same relationship with porn and don't feel sick and guilty. Now do you actually WATCH 1000 videos from start to finish? And are these videos beyond about 15 minutes...? Or, do you browse and skim through 1000 like, but only frig and orgasm to one?

Basically, masturbation is energy draining if you didn't muster energy in the first place. It's the worst thing to do right after waking up. You're spiking your energy up and then suffering an intense probably depressant comedown shortly after. And then sexual images so early will pervade your thoughts the rest of the day.


Maybe watch one video before bed after a long, successful, and socially fulfilling day. If you have issues feeling successful, energised and social, then you need to look into more issues than just the porn. At the end of the day, it's fine to watch. If you aren't religious anyways. I believe in the Christian God but I won't "Bible bash" ya.
Thats the thing, I am a christian so feel even more embarassed
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Thats the thing, I am a christian so feel even more embarassed
I am going through the same thing but honestly I’ve prayed about it and I’ve stopped doing it. God is there to help us, you have no one to speak to about it so speak to God. God be with you
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Hello darling. This is a late bloomers symptom of hormones raging. You really only feel guilty because you see it is something bad. There are people who have the same relationship with porn and don't feel sick and guilty. Now do you actually WATCH 1000 videos from start to finish? And are these videos beyond about 15 minutes...? Or, do you browse and skim through 1000 like, but only frig and orgasm to one?

Basically, masturbation is energy draining if you didn't muster energy in the first place. It's the worst thing to do right after waking up. You're spiking your energy up and then suffering an intense probably depressant comedown shortly after. And then sexual images so early will pervade your thoughts the rest of the day.


Maybe watch one video before bed after a long, successful, and socially fulfilling day. If you have issues feeling successful, energised and social, then you need to look into more issues than just the porn. At the end of the day, it's fine to watch. If you aren't religious anyways. I believe in the Christian God but I won't "Bible bash" ya.
You may feel like there is nothing wrong with it but it has been affecting me negatively and i want to come off it so there is a problem but i just dont know how to come off it.
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I am going through the same thing but honestly I’ve prayed about it and I’ve stopped doing it. God is there to help us, you have no one to speak to about it so speak to God. God be with you
I find it really hard to open my mouth and speak to God. I just feel like i cant do it knowing i still have this urge to watch more.....but i really want to stop....i feel like me wanting to stop is not good enough as there is this strong urge to continue
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(Original post by Bang Outta Order)
Hello darling. This is a late bloomers symptom of hormones raging. You really only feel guilty because you see it is something bad. There are people who have the same relationship with porn and don't feel sick and guilty. Now do you actually WATCH 1000 videos from start to finish? And are these videos beyond about 15 minutes...? Or, do you browse and skim through 1000 like, but only frig and orgasm to one?

Basically, masturbation is energy draining if you didn't muster energy in the first place. It's the worst thing to do right after waking up. You're spiking your energy up and then suffering an intense probably depressant comedown shortly after. And then sexual images so early will pervade your thoughts the rest of the day.


Maybe watch one video before bed after a long, successful, and socially fulfilling day. If you have issues feeling successful, energised and social, then you need to look into more issues than just the porn. At the end of the day, it's fine to watch. If you aren't religious anyways. I believe in the Christian God but I won't "Bible bash" ya.

when i mentioned 1000 videos i meant in total from being addicted last year till now. I will scroll through many and watch the ones i like, regradless, i want to stop
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when i mentioned 1000 videos i meant in total from being addicted last year till now. I will scroll through many and watch the ones i like, regradless, i want to stop
I just wanted to know how much time you spent on it.

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You may feel like there is nothing wrong with it but it has been affecting me negatively and i want to come off it so there is a problem but i just dont know how to come off it.
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Thats the thing, I am a christian so feel even more embarassed
From a practical point if view rather than metaphysical and philosophical...as long as you don't miss school, studies, work, family get together and moments, social outings, for porn or the racing nagging thoughts of sexual imagery, it's technically fine. And as long as you keep up your hygiene and energy through good food sources and leaving the bed after a porn, and don't become obsessed with reenacting the porn you see, it's fine. Since it's taking a toll on you, in all ways including physically, see a doctor and counselor and read your Bible particularly scriptures on temptation. Many people have been where you are. Keep busy to make yourself too mentally distracted and physically tired to even stay up to masturbate. :dontknow: that's the common cure, keeping busy and social.




An idle mind is the devils playground.


But it seems you're watching porn because you want sex. In that case, stick with porn for religious reasons. Don't wanna go out there being promiscuous.
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start heavy gym workout
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I just wanted to know how much time you spent on it.




From a practical point if view rather than metaphysical and philosophical...as long as you don't miss school, studies, work, family get together and moments, social outings, for porn or the racing nagging thoughts of sexual imagery, it's technically fine. And as long as you keep up your hygiene and energy through good food sources and leaving the bed after a porn, and don't become obsessed with reenacting the porn you see, it's fine. Since it's taking a toll on you, in all ways including physically, see a doctor and counselor and read your Bible particularly scriptures on temptation. Many people have been where you are. Keep busy to make yourself too mentally distracted and physically tired to even stay up to masturbate. :dontknow: that's the common cure, keeping busy and social.




An idle mind is the devils playground.


But it seems you're watching porn because you want sex. In that case, stick with porn for religious reasons. Don't wanna go out there being promiscuous.
I have watched it all day yesterday. Today not so much compared with the whole day yesterday Thank you for your advice/replies
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I have watched it all day yesterday. Today not so much compared with the whole day yesterday Thank you for your advice/replies
You could go and talk to student support. They’ll understand, it’s confidential and they can advise you
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You can't be addicted to porn. You probably just have too much time on your hands. Also you're young and it's pretty normal to be a horny mofo at that age.

Get a full time job. Find some hobbies. Do more exercise.
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You could go and talk to student support. They’ll understand, it’s confidential and they can advise you
Ok thanks
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Background story: I am a 21 year old female and a first year university student studying nursing. For as long as i remember i have been addicted to pornography to satisfy my sexual desires( I have never been intimate with anyone)

I feel into pornography because of "cuffing season" like last year. I know this is far from the truth, but, it seems like everyone else around me is in good-happy relationships and i just wanted to feel loved and wanted by someone(something i felt like i never really got when i was brought up by my parents but that is another story)

For new years resolution, I told myself i am not going back to porn because it has caused me so much damage emotionally, mentally and physically. For example, every time i see a cute guy i just want to bang him and get distracted with my assignments and exams at uni and outside of uni. However, i have fallen prey to pornography AGAIN.

I know i need help seriously but i don't know who to turn too. I don't have real friends at uni apart from acquaintances who i don't trust enough to tell them about this issue(fear of being judged and them telling other people)

I have watched over 1000 pornography episodes to the point that it makes me feel very sick to my stomach. I feel so embarrassed and ashamed typing this post.

Pornography has also changed my views on relationships in a negative way.

I feel like every guy i see(friendships and acquaintances ) their intentions are bad like to get in a girls "down there" and use them as a sex toy. What happened to making love??

I need to learn to love myself again and stop gratifying my sexual desires through my laptop screen.

Please help me.
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I feel like every guy i see(friendships and acquaintances ) their intentions are bad like to get in a girls "down there" and use them as a sex toy.
You are right about this, 99% of guys do.

If you want to give up porn, I think the best thing to do is to stop watching it completely. You can still mastubate to deal with your sexual urges but without the porn.
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I'm a Christian who's struggled with porn since his mid-teens, I'm now in my second year of uni (having become a Christian in November of first year) and it feels like I'm finally making progress towards stopping (when I'm not relapsing that is). It's so so hard, well done for waking up to what an idol and prison it is so quickly.

Practically, I'd advise you to fill your time up as much as you can, keep in contact with lots of friends, Christian or otherwise. I find it's evenings when I have nothing on and I'm just studying in my room that the temptation is worst.

Spiritually, I'd say remember that God's love never fails, the end of Romans 8 is really edifying when you don't feel worthy of Him. All our anti-Biblical sexual urges are a desire for intimacy. We're feeling far from God so we try and get the feeling of His presence on our own, without success at all. When you are tempted, don't hide yourself from Him, cry out in your vulnerability, in the midst of that battle, and He'll come to your aid just as He promises. But only if we stop fighting in our own strength.

I'm *nowhere* near perfect at following my own advice, but when I do I find the above helps. When you feel crushed by guilt remember that Jesus was willing to die for that guilt. When you feel unworthy remember that Jesus knew how unworthy we are.

Satan is a liar, and a defeated one at that, so take heart sister.
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ive been doing no so called fap on and off for 5 years and the way to get over porn is make it very difficult or impossible to access it. for example at minimum instead of being one click away make it one system restore away.
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Watching too much porn is like any other addiction- overeating alcoholism drugs- you’re using something to stop yourself feeling difficult emotions. Read Russell Brand’s book Recovery. Also the sex that you will see in porn is nothing like the sex you would have in a loving relationship. It’s often quite violent, penis pounding stuff. And a lot of the actresses are exploited and badly treated in the making of porn. There is more ethical porn like Erica Lust but you have to pay for it. I would get some help for the addiction- therapy or a 12 step programme but also educate yourself about what life is like for an adult porn star. Also consider that watching porn may be stopping you from relating to someone in real life.
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