The Dark Reality of Sexual Desire
“I have had enough. This is the end. No more.”
These are the words I have repeated on more occasions than I care to admit when I have sought seriously to abstain from masturbation and pornography once and for all.
What explains the bottom line cause of chronic failure in such an earnest endeavour?
The fact that the body resets itself.
For while abstinence that lasts in excess of a week bestows the abstainer with an undeniable feeling of energetic calm and bliss, a process called upregulation must take place in the centre of the brain that regulates hormones in order for the positive outcome of abstinence to be experienced. In other words, the right to such an enriching sensation entails an exorbitant price to be paid just to maintain it!
And thus the cause of chronic failure is primarily due to a remarkable increase in sensitivity over time that renders the desire for sexual release compelling beyond belief. Conscious refusal to satisfy this biological itch results in an assortment of the following immediate symptoms: emotional agitation; painfully numb testicles; irritable bowel; lack of concentration; unwanted fantasising; dreams of a sexual nature; increase in eroticism; intensity in emotion; rapid heart beat and bodily pangs resulting from conscious resistance; manic discomfort; and unbelievable paranoia by the recognition that it is easy to get triggered by the most subtlest of sexual suggestions.
The dark force of this biological tug is one that is profoundly difficult to resist because it is tied into our very function of existence. In fact, a healthy lifestyle alone functions as the enabler of an increasingly healthy libido; an intertwinement that reinforces this addictive spiral. Our biology has been programmed with a preset potent energy swirling throughout our body that can be ignored for only so long until the physical and psychological issues that entail abstinence rear their ugly head; to remind us that there exists no ‘turn off’ switch to our biological coding and that the urge to bust a nut will force its way into our lives, irrespective of our lack of preparation for reproducing or our disinclination to birth a newborn ever.
Nature displays ruthless indifference, and biology trumps ideology.
So what am I expected to do? An optimal suggestion I have come across can best be summed up in the following phrase: “energy can’t be destroyed, only channeled.”
True.
But for how long exactly can the most potent energy in existence realistically be retained and redirected into creative and goal-oriented pursuits while, in the background, biology is at work always rebalancing the neural pathways to regenerate a primal force so powerful that, in a solitary moment of vulnerability, will inevitably produce a flood of pleasure-fuelled chemicals to bathe our brain, and override any last shred of willpower?
The brutal truth is that the intensifying nature of sexual desire that occurs over a relatively short span of time serves as a mechanism whose purpose is strictly to feed on itself with no regard whatsoever for the mind fog and bodily unrest it causes to the one who attempts to resist its lure. The energy remains active on constant as a sort of twisted insurance policy to ensure, amongst those who display an unwillingness to procreate, that at least the enveloping sexual urge will cause to fade into oblivion the sharpness of one’s clarity to lead one haplessly into either an unwanted or accidental pregnancy just so that the continuation of the human specie can be virtually guaranteed.
From the point of puberty onward, sexual desire becomes a rampant, all-consuming vicious cycle that few can contain without hampering general day-to-day focus and function. It becomes a cycle that can be expressed in only one way, in exclusion to the way nature intended due to the absence of an intimate partner: chronic jerking with visual aid as a crutch on which to lean to cope with the deprivation of such a basic need; to arrest the free fall into a state of imbalance, neuroticism and distraction that naturally accompanies a basic need that has gone gratuitously unfulfilled in a manner proper.
It is thus paramount to acknowledge that sexual energy is a ticking time bomb that will detonate irrespective of the lengths to which one deludes himself to think that it can be preserved on a consistent basis. In a state of long-term abstinence the body becomes increasingly sensitised to the slightest sexual trigger and, in the way the scent of blood arouses the senses of a shark, it proverbially pours gasoline on the flames of an extant desire which creates a raging fire that becomes almost impossible to put out without having to confront the negative consequences listed previously.
Sexual desire is truly insatiable. It is a black hole that can never be filled. Awareness of this fact alone can certainly help one make a firm decision to preserve abstinence in the short-term, but for the reasons previously given, not for the long-term. As such, there is literally only one call to action at hand: to realise that one must take massive action to find an intimate partner with whom this compelling desire can be regulated in a healthy way and that there is a deadline to meet before the sexual energy inevitably reaches tipping point.
Failure to meet deadline must be avoided at all costs.
For while masturbation might relieve stress on a temporary basis, in the long run it only reinforces the dualistic desire that created the stress in the first place. In other words, when you give in to dualistic desires, it creates a self-reinforcing spiral that takes you down as far as you allow it to take you. If relieving stress only leads to more stress, where is the relief? In reality, this leads to addiction rather than freedom.
To avoid the violently compulsive swings between unnatural repression and excessive long-term binging, a partner is needed to establish an effortless stasis in the desire for sex and a fine tuned balance in the satiation of sexual desire. Unlike masturbation, which leads to sexual dysfunction in the long run, and pornography, which leads to an incontinent impulse in the long run, sexual intercourse can be likened to a wholesome, protein-rich meal that stabilises the appetite effectively. The excess depletion of energy grinds to a complete halt, and an enhanced mental well-being can be enjoyed as longer gaps can be maintained effortlessly between sexual activity in the knowledge that a partner is always available to satisfy sexual cravings as and when necessary.
Beat the dark force of impulsive sexual desire into submission with the incorporation of a daily, sustainable action plan that can draw on an abundance of prospects, a percentage of which can be converted into mutually beneficial relationships. Be it 50 or 100 cold approaches per day, automated swiping software for dating applications, frequenting meet up events or late night bars and clubs, the key driver behind taking action with fervour is the knowledge that, at some point, the primal craving will re-emerge with intensity. Failure to get one’s ducks in a row means that the bad habit will be the only means of relief, and thereby cause the addictive spiral to be looped all over again.
This is madness of peak proportions.
The hourglass is already in progress. Do not ping pong pathetically between two patently regressive, insufferable options. Take the necessary steps to bring sanity into your life, with relentless vigour.
These are the words I have repeated on more occasions than I care to admit when I have sought seriously to abstain from masturbation and pornography once and for all.
What explains the bottom line cause of chronic failure in such an earnest endeavour?
The fact that the body resets itself.
For while abstinence that lasts in excess of a week bestows the abstainer with an undeniable feeling of energetic calm and bliss, a process called upregulation must take place in the centre of the brain that regulates hormones in order for the positive outcome of abstinence to be experienced. In other words, the right to such an enriching sensation entails an exorbitant price to be paid just to maintain it!
And thus the cause of chronic failure is primarily due to a remarkable increase in sensitivity over time that renders the desire for sexual release compelling beyond belief. Conscious refusal to satisfy this biological itch results in an assortment of the following immediate symptoms: emotional agitation; painfully numb testicles; irritable bowel; lack of concentration; unwanted fantasising; dreams of a sexual nature; increase in eroticism; intensity in emotion; rapid heart beat and bodily pangs resulting from conscious resistance; manic discomfort; and unbelievable paranoia by the recognition that it is easy to get triggered by the most subtlest of sexual suggestions.
The dark force of this biological tug is one that is profoundly difficult to resist because it is tied into our very function of existence. In fact, a healthy lifestyle alone functions as the enabler of an increasingly healthy libido; an intertwinement that reinforces this addictive spiral. Our biology has been programmed with a preset potent energy swirling throughout our body that can be ignored for only so long until the physical and psychological issues that entail abstinence rear their ugly head; to remind us that there exists no ‘turn off’ switch to our biological coding and that the urge to bust a nut will force its way into our lives, irrespective of our lack of preparation for reproducing or our disinclination to birth a newborn ever.
Nature displays ruthless indifference, and biology trumps ideology.
So what am I expected to do? An optimal suggestion I have come across can best be summed up in the following phrase: “energy can’t be destroyed, only channeled.”
True.
But for how long exactly can the most potent energy in existence realistically be retained and redirected into creative and goal-oriented pursuits while, in the background, biology is at work always rebalancing the neural pathways to regenerate a primal force so powerful that, in a solitary moment of vulnerability, will inevitably produce a flood of pleasure-fuelled chemicals to bathe our brain, and override any last shred of willpower?
The brutal truth is that the intensifying nature of sexual desire that occurs over a relatively short span of time serves as a mechanism whose purpose is strictly to feed on itself with no regard whatsoever for the mind fog and bodily unrest it causes to the one who attempts to resist its lure. The energy remains active on constant as a sort of twisted insurance policy to ensure, amongst those who display an unwillingness to procreate, that at least the enveloping sexual urge will cause to fade into oblivion the sharpness of one’s clarity to lead one haplessly into either an unwanted or accidental pregnancy just so that the continuation of the human specie can be virtually guaranteed.
From the point of puberty onward, sexual desire becomes a rampant, all-consuming vicious cycle that few can contain without hampering general day-to-day focus and function. It becomes a cycle that can be expressed in only one way, in exclusion to the way nature intended due to the absence of an intimate partner: chronic jerking with visual aid as a crutch on which to lean to cope with the deprivation of such a basic need; to arrest the free fall into a state of imbalance, neuroticism and distraction that naturally accompanies a basic need that has gone gratuitously unfulfilled in a manner proper.
It is thus paramount to acknowledge that sexual energy is a ticking time bomb that will detonate irrespective of the lengths to which one deludes himself to think that it can be preserved on a consistent basis. In a state of long-term abstinence the body becomes increasingly sensitised to the slightest sexual trigger and, in the way the scent of blood arouses the senses of a shark, it proverbially pours gasoline on the flames of an extant desire which creates a raging fire that becomes almost impossible to put out without having to confront the negative consequences listed previously.
Sexual desire is truly insatiable. It is a black hole that can never be filled. Awareness of this fact alone can certainly help one make a firm decision to preserve abstinence in the short-term, but for the reasons previously given, not for the long-term. As such, there is literally only one call to action at hand: to realise that one must take massive action to find an intimate partner with whom this compelling desire can be regulated in a healthy way and that there is a deadline to meet before the sexual energy inevitably reaches tipping point.
Failure to meet deadline must be avoided at all costs.
For while masturbation might relieve stress on a temporary basis, in the long run it only reinforces the dualistic desire that created the stress in the first place. In other words, when you give in to dualistic desires, it creates a self-reinforcing spiral that takes you down as far as you allow it to take you. If relieving stress only leads to more stress, where is the relief? In reality, this leads to addiction rather than freedom.
To avoid the violently compulsive swings between unnatural repression and excessive long-term binging, a partner is needed to establish an effortless stasis in the desire for sex and a fine tuned balance in the satiation of sexual desire. Unlike masturbation, which leads to sexual dysfunction in the long run, and pornography, which leads to an incontinent impulse in the long run, sexual intercourse can be likened to a wholesome, protein-rich meal that stabilises the appetite effectively. The excess depletion of energy grinds to a complete halt, and an enhanced mental well-being can be enjoyed as longer gaps can be maintained effortlessly between sexual activity in the knowledge that a partner is always available to satisfy sexual cravings as and when necessary.
Beat the dark force of impulsive sexual desire into submission with the incorporation of a daily, sustainable action plan that can draw on an abundance of prospects, a percentage of which can be converted into mutually beneficial relationships. Be it 50 or 100 cold approaches per day, automated swiping software for dating applications, frequenting meet up events or late night bars and clubs, the key driver behind taking action with fervour is the knowledge that, at some point, the primal craving will re-emerge with intensity. Failure to get one’s ducks in a row means that the bad habit will be the only means of relief, and thereby cause the addictive spiral to be looped all over again.
This is madness of peak proportions.
The hourglass is already in progress. Do not ping pong pathetically between two patently regressive, insufferable options. Take the necessary steps to bring sanity into your life, with relentless vigour.
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is it just me or is there a significant lack of paragraphs?
tldr please
Original post by Glaz
is it just me or is there a significant lack of paragraphs?
I think it's just you that can see a very long wall of text that hurts the eyes.
Original post by Glaz
is it just me or is there a significant lack of paragraphs?
Fixed.
Dude, just have a w*nk yeah?
This is how seriously I aim to take every essay from now on. No more. No more mediocrity.
I was thinking there are too many paragraphs, could you condense this bc I just skim read
Wow you are a good writer. I have not masturbated or watched porn in three weeks and I understand what your saying. Every moment I think about satisfying my desires and it’s a violent hunger within me. And having sex is not an option for me
Original post by PotatoFruit
Wow you are a good writer. I have not masturbated or watched porn in three weeks and I understand what your saying. Every moment I think about satisfying my desires and it’s a violent hunger within me. And having sex is not an option for me
Thanks.
Why is it not an option? If you have imposed an artificial limitation upon yourself then it is virtually guaranteed that you will surrender to bad habits sooner or later and be under its control for as long as your self-imposed limitation persists.
It's tough being Muslim, isn't it?
Sexual desire is satiable. In the same way that being hungry for food is satiable.
It does help if food and sex are both of sufficient quality and variety and quantity. But it's not the end of the world if they are not.
Mastubation is not dark. It's not any colour. It's a perfectly healthy thing to do.
It does help if food and sex are both of sufficient quality and variety and quantity. But it's not the end of the world if they are not.
Mastubation is not dark. It's not any colour. It's a perfectly healthy thing to do.
Original post by Polymath0
biological tug
I do love a good biological tug
Original post by Dunnig Kruger
Mastubation is not dark. It's not any colour. It's a perfectly healthy thing to do.
This is simply an assertion devoid of explanatory value.
The easy accessibility of masturbation in combination with the overpowering pull of sexual desire is a recipe for chronic addiction that leads to sexual dysfunction due to death grip that weakens the phallus over time and uncontrolled distraction from day-to-day responsibilities. Absent the hormonal and phallus-related benefits of sexual relations, there exists no other way to properly regulate the frequency of sexual desire without falling into a pit of self-pleasure that quickly snowballs into an addictive spiral, and hence insatiable.
How is this ‘perfectly’ healthy? It is a wilful distortion of reality to put it as such.
Original post by Polymath0
Thanks.
Why is it not an option? If you have imposed an artificial limitation upon yourself then it is virtually guaranteed that you will surrender to bad habits sooner or later and be under its control for as long as your self-imposed limitation persists.
Why is it not an option? If you have imposed an artificial limitation upon yourself then it is virtually guaranteed that you will surrender to bad habits sooner or later and be under its control for as long as your self-imposed limitation persists.
It would be hard for me to find a girl and I wouldn’t be able to bring her home
If you don't have a partner then this isn't really feasible. Yeah you can have casual sex from strangers but doing this regularly does pose its risks
Original post by PotatoFruit
It would be hard for me to find a girl and I wouldn’t be able to bring her home
Of course it’s difficult.
But to take massive action in order to keep at bay the toxic side effects of masturbation and pornography is the greatest pleasure. In the end you feel reassured that at some point, via the focused effort you expend, a suitable person will come along to cater adequately to your sexual needs, in a sustainable fashion.
If you can’t bring her home then arrange an Airbnb or hotel.
Original post by Anonymous
If you don't have a partner then this isn't really feasible.
Do you mean to say that it is not feasible to contain sexual desire in the absence of a partner? If so, this is precisely the premise of my solution: to acknowledge that it cannot be contained for too long a period and that urgent action is required to acquire a partner before the desire to masturbate becomes unbearable. Once acquired, sexual health will be restored as the biological urge will find its natural balance through a partner.
Ngl ******* is my favourite pastime
Original post by PotatoFruit
Wow you are a good writer. I have not masturbated or watched porn in three weeks and I understand what your saying. Every moment I think about satisfying my desires and it’s a violent hunger within me. And having sex is not an option for me
How do you control yourself from ******* cause I can’t
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