My girlfriend doesn’t want me to move to uni with her

I asked my girlfriend if we should get a place together when she goes uni, she doesn’t want to and I don’t know why

She may think things are moving too fast as living together is a very big commitment and it's going to cause issues if it doesn't work out, plus a lot of people like to experience the classic uni life when moving away and she may struggle to do that if living with someone she already knows.

That’s a pretty horrible reason, what’s the difference of living with me and some randoms?

Having friends as opposed to being basically married at 18...

Are you going to the uni too, or just moving to follow her?

How’s it marriage at 18, it’s just a getting an apartment??😂😂 I’m going for her and to open up opportunities for myself in the profession I’m in

I asked my girlfriend if we should get a place together when she goes uni, she doesn’t want to and I don’t know why

Living alone with her, rather than her getting out and meeting new people. At 18, that's daunting and a bit too serious. I'm not at all surprised she's saying she's prefer not to.

And especially as you're not going to uni there, it comes across as a bit controlling, that you don't want her to meet new people or have been friends.

Making it sound like I’m gonna put up some prison bars in the apartment pal, asking to get a place together isn’t controlling in the slightest. So it’s daunting getting a place with me but not with randoms??

Is it just your girlfriend going to uni and you moving with her? Why do you want her to live with you?

How will you afford it, and who is going to do all the upkeep and shopping, cooking etc? Where would you live that is a sensible distance from campus where she can travel easily and safely? What if she wants to stay late to study or chat with friends or party or have a part-time job somewhere?

Talk to her, but why not leave her to her course without additional distractions and being free to make the most of the whole experience of uni?

Making it sound like I’m gonna put up some prison bars in the apartment pal, asking to get a place together isn’t controlling in the slightest. So it’s daunting getting a place with me but not with randoms??

Didn't say you are, just that that's how it could sound.

And it's a different kind of daunting. Yeah, meeting new people is weird, but taking a relationship to that stage is pretty serious and has a lot of connotations that some people at 18 aren't ready for.

If you can't understand that I question whether you have the emotional intelligence for the relationship.

We’ve been together for 3 years lol and it’ll be 4 by the time she goes to university. Jokes on you she actually said she’d want to get a place together I was just prepping for If she said no lollllll

We’ve been together for 3 years lol and it’ll be 4 by the time she goes to university. Jokes on you she actually said she’d want to get a place together I was just prepping for If she said no lollllll

What happens if you break up? It's one thing to move in together when youre in employment but when youre students it's a whole different world

I’m working full time and she gets student finance we’ll be fine