The Dark Reality of Sexual Desire

You have labelled “non-existent” a major problem voiced by millions. For its seriousness to go unrecognised is terrible, but for the legitimacy of its phenomenon to be dismissed wholesale and without due explanation? That makes you a dangerously unsound person.

The tactic employed here fits the very definition of "gas-lighting." It is a form of abuse whereby a person is made to doubt their sanity by way of manipulating their perception of reality with fabrications.

Correct me if I’m mistaken, and you can ignore this paragraph if untrue, but I suspect you are the same person who delivered a blanket criticism on the act of cold approach without offering an alternative suggestion. If so, is there an agenda at play to flip reality on its head by framing an addiction to masturbation as good and framing an attempt to connect with the people of the world as bad?

I am not a dangerously unsound person. I have merely been repeating the same basic message that is contained on this NHS website:
https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/sexual-health/masturbation-faqs/

What the NHS website contains bears no relevance whatsoever to the point of this thread. In fact, the point is not even addressed on the website and only highlighted in passing in one statement at the end:

“I have had enough. This is the end. No more.”

These are the words I have repeated on more occasions than I care to admit when I have sought seriously to abstain from masturbation and pornography once and for all.

What explains the bottom line cause of chronic failure in such an earnest endeavour?

The fact that the body resets itself.

For while abstinence that lasts in excess of a week bestows the abstainer with an undeniable feeling of energetic calm and bliss, a process called upregulation must take place in the centre of the brain that regulates hormones in order for the positive outcome of abstinence to be experienced. In other words, the right to such an enriching sensation entails an exorbitant price to be paid just to maintain it!

And thus the cause of chronic failure is primarily due to a remarkable increase in sensitivity over time that renders the desire for sexual release compelling beyond belief. Conscious refusal to satisfy this biological itch results in an assortment of the following immediate symptoms: emotional agitation; painfully numb testicles; irritable bowel; lack of concentration; unwanted fantasising; dreams of a sexual nature; increase in eroticism; intensity in emotion; rapid heart beat and bodily pangs resulting from conscious resistance; manic discomfort; and unbelievable paranoia by the recognition that it is easy to get triggered by the most subtlest of sexual suggestions.

The dark force of this biological tug is one that is profoundly difficult to resist because it is tied into our very function of existence. In fact, a healthy lifestyle alone functions as the enabler of an increasingly healthy libido; an intertwinement that reinforces this addictive spiral. Our biology has been programmed with a preset potent energy swirling throughout our body that can be ignored for only so long until the physical and psychological issues that entail abstinence rear their ugly head; to remind us that there exists no ‘turn off’ switch to our biological coding and that the urge to bust a nut will force its way into our lives, irrespective of our lack of preparation for reproducing or our disinclination to birth a newborn ever.

Nature displays ruthless indifference, and biology trumps ideology.

So what am I expected to do? An optimal suggestion I have come across can best be summed up in the following phrase: “energy can’t be destroyed, only channeled.”

True.
But for how long exactly can the most potent energy in existence realistically be retained and redirected into creative and goal-oriented pursuits while, in the background, biology is at work always rebalancing the neural pathways to regenerate a primal force so powerful that, in a solitary moment of vulnerability, will inevitably produce a flood of pleasure-fuelled chemicals to bathe our brain, and override any last shred of willpower?

The brutal truth is that the intensifying nature of sexual desire that occurs over a relatively short span of time serves as a mechanism whose purpose is strictly to feed on itself with no regard whatsoever for the mind fog and bodily unrest it causes to the one who attempts to resist its lure. The energy remains active on constant as a sort of twisted insurance policy to ensure, amongst those who display an unwillingness to procreate, that at least the enveloping sexual urge will cause to fade into oblivion the sharpness of one’s clarity to lead one haplessly into either an unwanted or accidental pregnancy just so that the continuation of the human specie can be virtually guaranteed.

From the point of puberty onward, sexual desire becomes a rampant, all-consuming vicious cycle that few can contain without hampering general day-to-day focus and function. It becomes a cycle that can be expressed in only one way, in exclusion to the way nature intended due to the absence of an intimate partner: chronic jerking with visual aid as a crutch on which to lean to cope with the deprivation of such a basic need; to arrest the free fall into a state of imbalance, neuroticism and distraction that naturally accompanies a basic need that has gone gratuitously unfulfilled in a manner proper.

It is thus paramount to acknowledge that sexual energy is a ticking time bomb that will detonate irrespective of the lengths to which one deludes himself to think that it can be preserved on a consistent basis. In a state of long-term abstinence the body becomes increasingly sensitised to the slightest sexual trigger and, in the way the scent of blood arouses the senses of a shark, it proverbially pours gasoline on the flames of an extant desire which creates a raging fire that becomes almost impossible to put out without having to confront the negative consequences listed previously.

Sexual desire is truly insatiable. It is a black hole that can never be filled. Awareness of this fact alone can certainly help one make a firm decision to preserve abstinence in the short-term, but for the reasons previously given, not for the long-term. As such, there is literally only one call to action at hand: to realise that one must take massive action to find an intimate partner with whom this compelling desire can be regulated in a healthy way and that there is a deadline to meet before the sexual energy inevitably reaches tipping point.

Failure to meet deadline must be avoided at all costs.

For while masturbation might relieve stress on a temporary basis, in the long run it only reinforces the dualistic desire that created the stress in the first place. In other words, when you give in to dualistic desires, it creates a self-reinforcing spiral that takes you down as far as you allow it to take you. If relieving stress only leads to more stress, where is the relief? In reality, this leads to addiction rather than freedom.

To avoid the violently compulsive swings between unnatural repression and excessive long-term binging, a partner is needed to establish an effortless stasis in the desire for sex and a fine tuned balance in the satiation of sexual desire. Unlike masturbation, which leads to sexual dysfunction in the long run, and pornography, which leads to an incontinent impulse in the long run, sexual intercourse can be likened to a wholesome, protein-rich meal that stabilises the appetite effectively. The excess depletion of energy grinds to a complete halt, and an enhanced mental well-being can be enjoyed as longer gaps can be maintained effortlessly between sexual activity in the knowledge that a partner is always available to satisfy sexual cravings as and when necessary.

Beat the dark force of impulsive sexual desire into submission with the incorporation of a daily, sustainable action plan that can draw on an abundance of prospects, a percentage of which can be converted into mutually beneficial relationships. Be it 50 or 100 cold approaches per day, automated swiping software for dating applications, frequenting meet up events or late night bars and clubs, the key driver behind taking action with fervour is the knowledge that, at some point, the primal craving will re-emerge with intensity. Failure to get one’s ducks in a row means that the bad habit will be the only means of relief, and thereby cause the addictive spiral to be looped all over again.

This is madness of peak proportions.
The hourglass is already in progress. Do not ping pong pathetically between two patently regressive, insufferable options. Take the necessary steps to bring sanity into your life, with relentless vigour.

Oh yes it is addressed on that NHS website. What it says is very much on topic. Inparticular these 2 sections:

Bro this is too long I CBA

The sections you’ve pasted are very much off topic as the overwhelming side effect of masturbation, namely chronic addiction and its attendant negative effects, has not been broached.

I see that paying attention is not your only deficit. My main criticism about masturbation has gone unaddressed by you and you have also wilfully ignored the fact that the matter of addiction to masturbation and porn has already been recognised by academic publications. I see nothing fruitful emerging if I continue to engage with you.

Was this worth announcing? No. There was no point.

The NHS website is very much on topic.

If there were any actual known negative side effects as a result of masturbation, it would be extremely irresponsible of the NHS to not mention them on their website. The NHS can be described as many things, but irresponsible is NOT one of them.

What's your opinion on female masturbation op

...But, in reality, it is clear that masturbation is, for the most part, an unhealthy crutch on which men lean to cope with the absence of an active sex life and therefore becomes an addiction that leads to desensitisation of the penile tissue, erectile dysfunction and an assortment of issues listed in the main post of this thread which create an upsetting loss of control. Hence, to say that the act is ‘perfectly’ healthy is the most irresponsible judgment of all.

You can quite easily get desensitized using porn and masturbating, so that sex or real people are no longer satisfactory for you, which in my opinion Is very wrong.

I'm strongly against porn as I believe in equality and morality, which it is the antithesis of. However I don't understand what's wrong with masturbation IF you do it in a sensible way. Not everyone can have regular sex, and it's potentially a lot of effort to have sex. As well as all the problems, stis, danger etc. Better to masturbate than become aggressive and horny and easily triggered.

Just give us the headlines, a brief synopsis if you will. The message..what's the message?

:P

What about porn brings morality and equality into question?

But, in reality, it is clear that masturbation is, for the most part, an unhealthy crutch on which men lean to cope with the absence of an active sex life

You can quite easily get desensitized using porn and masturbating, so that sex or real people are no longer satisfactory for you, which in my opinion Is very wrong.

I'm strongly against porn as I believe in equality and morality, which it is the antithesis of. However I don't understand what's wrong with masturbation IF you do it in a sensible way. Not everyone can have regular sex, and it's potentially a lot of effort to have sex. As well as all the problems, stis, danger etc. Better to masturbate than become aggressive and horny and easily triggered.