How to tell my boyfriend?

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and we are both 20. I love my boyfriend and I know that he is such a good influence on me - he's made me want to become a better version of myself and is always encouraging me in everything I do.

HOWEVER

It has occurred to me that he is a bit too attached to his parents. Don't get me wrong, it is great having a good bond with your parents, I absolutely love mine to bits, but there have been times where he has cancelled plans because he has to do something with his parents instead, and he relies on them way too much for things. He lives with them at the moment and they drive him everywhere (sometimes he has said he can't go somewhere with me because his parents aren't available to drive him at that time), they cook and clean for him, he always confirms with them when making decisions. It sometimes does feel like I am babysitting...

My friends say I need to tell him he needs to grow up but I really find that hard as I don't want to disrespect his parents and he's such a good guy, but on the other hand I know that this needs to be said.

What should I say?

just tell him how you feel. that you don't wanna be with someone who cancels on you to be with his parents. he'll either change or choose them and break up with you. win-win situation if you ask me

If I said this I am worried he will say I am being selfish...

that would make him uptight though, him getting salty over you telling him to spend less time with his mummy and daddy. i mean hes cancelling plans on you for his parents, have you ever done that to him? would he be ok if you always did that to him? if he calls you selfish then hes kind of a fanny

you're dating a boy not a man. i say tell him to man up or exchange him for something more grown up

You are both still VERY young. Don't expect him (in this day and age) to be a Victorian dad - running his own tobacco company at age 14. I think you'll find that plenty of even 30+ year-olds still live with their parents.

Just roll with it, if you like him. If you're looking for an excuse to dump him, though, in order to get with that other bloke you've been thinking about, then do that.

I have never done that to him. If he wanted to do something I would always make time for him. If my parents knew I had plans with him, they wouldn't force me to spend time with them instead, they'd understand!