Wrong decision and relationship?

Ur moving mad my friend, try and talk or meet up with your ex girlfriend solely based on, and I mean emphasis that you are meeting up to patch your friendship together, if she agrees make sure you don’t try anything, try and become friends again and explain that you were an *******, tell her that she was a friend before a lover and he will fight for their friendship try sound sincere, and with time try to not **** up and hang out a lot, do what you guys usually did and with time confess again

you've learnt a lot about relationships by your decision-making and regrets!

in fact you've learnt so much, you could probably teach us all about it....now you know what you want (unconditional, caring etc) and what to avoid (superficial etc)

now all you need is a bit of luck and your ex might take you back! If you show genuine remorse she'll quite probably forgive you...good luck

it’s means that you have done a lot in such a short space of time, I mean moving to Spain is a huge commitment and then having a new girlfriend then wanting to breakup with the girlfriend coz she doesn’t match up to ur ex and then wanting to move back to London, you have impulses and follow without thoroughly thinking, I suggest you think about your decisions properly, and u will end up making less mistakes

I think u need to chill out on relationships for a moment. Focus on urself and what you want, take time to rethink ur decisions. Avoid making impulse decisions, avoid making decisions when u r mad and when excited, u need to have a clear mind when u make certain decisions. Now that u know what u want, if u don't see any future with your current girl, break it off but don't rush for ur ex or anyone. take time to heal, know what u want in a relationship, there is so much more beneath attraction, if you believe in God, say a little prayer asking for direction. And when u r healed, u can start intentionally for the one. It doesn't have to be your ex, just have a standard and qualities u r looking for, study someone before commiting, go on dates and do all things u do when trying to know someone....

I think you made a mistake by breaking up with your girlfriend, I don’t know what to say about the Spain decision, but what was definitely wrong was getting a girlfriend you know doesn’t match up to your ex and wasting time, you could have patched things up with her and probably been together again in that period of time

someone vastly, infinitely wiser than me asked me if "being right" is important to me...(and why)

Shes fiercely superficial and our relationship is simply on the surface. No intensity, no depth. It's just sex, politics, a little bit of fun times like concerts and hiking and having the same clique of friends.

The sex and going hiking and to the odd concert sounds like a firm enough foundation to me.
You can't get a deeper interpersonal connection between 2 people than making love with someone.

Can you expand on why you're not happy with your Spanish girlfriend?
She sounds lovely to me - from your brief description.
Is she uncaring, unreasonable, and selfish? If so, how so?

Don't feel regret about the last 3 years. You've had more of a James Bond lifestyle than most of your peers.

You don't have to stick with Spanish GF all your life. You can dump her any time that suits you. And move on to Girlfriend Number 3.

it’s means that you have done a lot in such a short space of time, I mean moving to Spain is a huge commitment and then having a new girlfriend then wanting to breakup with the girlfriend coz she doesn’t match up to ur ex and then wanting to move back to London, you have impulses and follow without thoroughly thinking, I suggest you think about your decisions properly, and u will end up making less mistakes

Do you feel better for making this post that has upset me, when I was only trying my best to help you?

Do you feel better for making this post that has upset me, when I was only trying my best to help you?

You shouldn't get upset. Looks like the ex gf had a lucky escape...

Thank-you for your kind words.

I'd have to be a robot to not get upset by the OP's response to me in this thread.

All I can say is that I hope that he feels better for saying what he's said in this thread.

You shouldn't get upset. Looks like the ex gf had a lucky escape...

Your reaction is completely unwarranted. I suggest you re-read the whole thread and compare the wistful tone of your original post with the irrational aggression of your response to Dunnig. That's why I think your ex had a lucky escape.