feeling guilty, am I doing the wrong thing?

If you like him, I think you should talk to that guy (maybe the girlfriend but you don't really her that well so idk) and confess your feelings. If he likes you as well, he should break up with his girlfriend but if he wants to stay with his girlfriend, you should move on. This is my thinking though but its still your choice on what you could do

I feel like admitting what’s between us is a bit soon like theres a spark but I’m not in love with him majorly, and for me to admit it I’d also feel like a mug as he could just cut the friendship off completely anyway- i think the only way I’d actually admit it to him is if he broke up with his gf but I also know that it probs won’t solve anything just waiting either- it’s a complicated situ which is hard to put in words really but appreciate your feedback

If he's the one who is getting closer and he is the one in a relationship then the only person who should be feeling guilty is him. Make it clear to him that unless he's willing to break up with his gf,you don't wanna really get too friendly with him. If he does something about it then fine,if not then stay away from him-it's probably for the best.

I see more cons to this and I feel like you dont really mind if things were kept the same. I think you should move on because a spark is okay but finding someone you love is amazing.

I know it’s toxic I seem to fall into situations like this n then just feel **** either way really- boys are tough n I’m lonely lol but should be looking for something decent and not something that’s just going to make me hurt, thank you

Hey if you like him, you should probably tell him, and also tell her preferably at the same time ;/ because both of them deserve to know, then at least you're not leading anyone on.. and whatever happens happens, if he likes you too he'd let you know and then he should let his gf know if he doesn't its your job... please try not to give the impression of being a 'wrecker' even though im sure you're not but you know who doesn't value honesty, if he's not honest with his girlfriend and he's sneaking off with you you tell her.

But if it wasn't meant to be dont be too hard on yourself, or embarrassed things like this happen and you're not at fault so long as you don't flirt with him like that or graft too hard because that isn't fair on his gf, think about being in her position too and how'd you feel and that helps a lot when it comes to how to behave towards him etc hope this helps x best of luck

p.s this wasn't a guilt trip at all I was just giving advice although I kinda second guessed myself and it sounds harsh but I dont mean it like that, i meant when it comes to how to act always think okay whats the best way to go about it and make everyone happy, diplomatic uno, and think about being in other peoples position because that's key for anything aha

I completely understand where you’re coming from don’t worry, yeah that’s what I keep thinking, how would I feel if I was his girlfriend and reality is I know nothing about their relationship and that she might not necessarily be happy if I told her but she’d appreciate it more than me doing anything behind her back bc I’m obviously not trying to spite her or hurt her

The thing is if I’m still going to be seen as a homewrecker even if I go about it in the best way possible and didn’t end up my way I still put myself in the position of potentially getting between them and I don’t know if I can cope with it-

I think I’m going to slowly work towards it by hopefully getting him to realise that he can’t get close to me when he has a gf and then he’ll either choose to leave me alone and stay with her (which I would be fine with bc at least I would know and not be worrying) or he makes the decision to end things with her..

Thanks for all your advice x