I just got diagnosed with BPD AMA

How do you feel about the diagnosis? I know personally i wasnt thrilled because of the stigma but equally it felt nice to have an explanation of what was wrong

I did think that I have it for the last year and this just confirmed that. So feel reliefed. Previously my GP just tried to tell me that I have anxiety and depression and was not listening to me. I feel like the psychiatrist listened to me and he let me decide what medication I want. A bit worried about starting medication. I think I can finally get the right help . I feel sad about the stigma associated with BPD-people just think we're manipulative and people say to stay away from those with BPD.

Can understand that, i was given a sort of interim diagnosis of depression and anxiety (so i was able to offer disabled students support at the uni whilst i was on the waitlist to see a psych) and it never really felt right or like it encapsulated what i was feeling.
In terms of medication what in particular are you apprehensive about? I personally find anti-psychotics to be more effective at managing my mood than antidepressants but it depends on the person. Generally though therapy is a better treatment for BPD than medication as bpd is behavioral not chemical so there is only so much of an impact meds can have.
Yeh it's really ridiculous, never look on the sub-reddit r/bpdloved ones basically people decide that someone they hated or abused them has bpd and then apply their vitriolic stereotype to all of us.
I would try to get on a DBT waitlist as soon as possible if you are interested in therapy, the waitlists can be really long

Do you have close friends? Or anyone youve told about it?

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The psychiatrist also said I have a depeessive syndrome because I have an extensive family history of depression. I don't think I'll have kids because they are very likely to be mentally ill with my genetics. Before I didn't have a diagnosis and my university wouldn't give me study support but now that I have it, for 2nd year I'll probably get a lot of support. I'm going to be on Venlafaxine. I was put on sertraline before but only lasted 2 days because I couldn't deal with the side effects I was getting and my GP accused me of not being cooperative when it wasn't my fault my side effects were too severe. Then they tried to give me quetiapine but I wouldn't take it because I didn't want to put on weight because it would trigger my eating problem. I was meant to be getting therapy but because I was referred to secondary care they weren't allowed to help me. The psychiatrist is going to refer me to some place that deals with personality disorders and I need to contact this place about self harm. I'm hoping the personality disorder place has DBT. It didn't really take me long to see the psychiatrist because they had to fast track my referal quite a bit but it took a very long time for the GP to write a referral, I asked in September but they didn't write a referral till February or March.My referral was flagged up because my situation became quite worrying and then the MH specialist enabled my referral to be accepted about 2 days after he got in touch with secondary care. Then I contacted my local team and my situation was getting worse and I got to see the psychiatrist one month earlier than I was meant to. Have you ever faced discrimination or stigma in real life because of your BPD? Do you tell your friends and family about your BPD?

I have BPD too but am at a loss with what it actually entails. Please fill me in.

After not knowing what is wrong with me for the last 2 years, I finally got diagnosed with BPD (borderline personality disorder), so AMA.

I have BPD too but am at a loss with what it actually entails. Please fill me in.

I don't think I'll have kids because they are very likely to be mentally ill with my genetics.

Ah that makes sense glad to hear you can finally get some support a DSA mentor might be good to inquire about, i found mine really useful.
That's understandable, am on quetiapine and it does make you really hungry, hopefully the referal goes well DBT isnt life changing in my experience but it does help you cope a bit with the symptoms.
Not really but that is mainly because i have told few people directly, people may suspect but that's up to them. I feel like it is similar to disclosing being gay, if it's not relevant to the situation i dont mention either. I made the decision to tell my parent and at first they didnt quite get it but over time i've filled them in and now they have a better awareness

Are you a 'quiet borderline' or do you struggle with behaviours/ impulsivty ?

That's a really difficult decision to make for me as well 🤔.
Personally I believe that life is the most precious thing we have. It's a gift.
However, do I want to deny a potential life from coming to be?
Equally, is it selfish of me to bring in to this world some who is more likely than others to experience great pain?
We have to decide indervidual, otherwise it's called eugenics.

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I would say I'm more on the quieter side. I don't display the risky behaviours except for self-harm and disordered eating. I don't have explosive anger. But struggle with impulsion regarding the 2 things I mentioned above. I internalise most of my struggles but can have quite severe mental breakdowns when I reach crisis point. What about you? But then I still struggle with my relationships with people with the whole abandonment issues and then I act in ways I'm not proud of because of it.