In women autism can be more subtle, as in many don’t get diagnosed until adulthood as they just assume they’re weird, shy or something, and are able to hide it from others. Sometimes social anxiety can be given as a condition mistakenly, as social behaviour can be easier to spot by others. A lot of online resources tend to focus on the more obvious signs which are more common in men, so maybe just explaining to him how it affects you would be better than going online, as even in women, people’s symptoms can vary greatly. If it still bothers him then maybe break up (yes it’s harsh) since you’d be better finding somebody who likes you for you and is not bothered by something you can’t change.