Anyone else not want lockdown to end?
Anon because I'm embarrassed about feeling this way.
I know everyone has struggled during lockdown, and at the start of it, so did I. But now, in a very strange way, I don't want it to end.
I work from home, so I spend a lot of time in the house anyway. In theory, I could earn a living and look after myself and never step foot outside my front door!
But.
I live with my boyfriend, and I am under constant pressure from my parents to meet up for this, meet up for that. Judging from how often my friends see their parents, this isn't normal. There is also pressure to see other family members more often than I would choose if left to my own devices, along with pressure to do things for people that I would rather say no to.
Lockdown has taken away all of this pressure, and I'm getting on much better with my parents for the simple fact that my lifestyle is now forced upon everyone, so I'm no longer the odd one out for working from home and not doing much else.
May I say, I'm happy with how I live my life. I have lived with my boyfriend for a few years, we go out and about, it's just that there's so much pressure to meet up with family every single week, and after a week of being tied to my laptop non stop I just want to sit in the garden or go out for the day with my boyfriend .. not always meet up and do family stuff!
So, I am very nervous about how I will feel once this lockdown ends. I am scared that I have become comfortable the way things are now, even happy, which I haven't felt for a few years.
There's a lot of family stuff that's gone on that I haven't mentioned here, so please don't think I'm being horrible for not wanting to see them that much.
But I have found that lockdown has brought new ways to be in touch with people that fit better with who I am as a person, I can do things more on my terms than I ever could before, and that constant pressure that was on me previously has been taken away.
I am happy, and when things go back to normal, I'm scared of what that might mean.
I know everyone has struggled during lockdown, and at the start of it, so did I. But now, in a very strange way, I don't want it to end.
I work from home, so I spend a lot of time in the house anyway. In theory, I could earn a living and look after myself and never step foot outside my front door!
But.
I live with my boyfriend, and I am under constant pressure from my parents to meet up for this, meet up for that. Judging from how often my friends see their parents, this isn't normal. There is also pressure to see other family members more often than I would choose if left to my own devices, along with pressure to do things for people that I would rather say no to.
Lockdown has taken away all of this pressure, and I'm getting on much better with my parents for the simple fact that my lifestyle is now forced upon everyone, so I'm no longer the odd one out for working from home and not doing much else.
May I say, I'm happy with how I live my life. I have lived with my boyfriend for a few years, we go out and about, it's just that there's so much pressure to meet up with family every single week, and after a week of being tied to my laptop non stop I just want to sit in the garden or go out for the day with my boyfriend .. not always meet up and do family stuff!
So, I am very nervous about how I will feel once this lockdown ends. I am scared that I have become comfortable the way things are now, even happy, which I haven't felt for a few years.
There's a lot of family stuff that's gone on that I haven't mentioned here, so please don't think I'm being horrible for not wanting to see them that much.
But I have found that lockdown has brought new ways to be in touch with people that fit better with who I am as a person, I can do things more on my terms than I ever could before, and that constant pressure that was on me previously has been taken away.
I am happy, and when things go back to normal, I'm scared of what that might mean.
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Somewhat selfish, no?
I don't think lockdown for a long time is a good thing for people individually or for the country as a whole, but I'm quite introverted and can't really relate with the people who are really struggling with not being able to see people face to face or go to social events. However the lockdown has given me time to work on things/projects that I wouldn't otherwise have had time for.
I know how you feel but an infinite lockdown would lead to anarchy and chaos and that's not worth it imo
Original post by Anonymous
Anon because I'm embarrassed about feeling this way.
I know everyone has struggled during lockdown, and at the start of it, so did I. But now, in a very strange way, I don't want it to end.
I work from home, so I spend a lot of time in the house anyway. In theory, I could earn a living and look after myself and never step foot outside my front door!
But.
I live with my boyfriend, and I am under constant pressure from my parents to meet up for this, meet up for that. Judging from how often my friends see their parents, this isn't normal. There is also pressure to see other family members more often than I would choose if left to my own devices, along with pressure to do things for people that I would rather say no to.
Lockdown has taken away all of this pressure, and I'm getting on much better with my parents for the simple fact that my lifestyle is now forced upon everyone, so I'm no longer the odd one out for working from home and not doing much else.
May I say, I'm happy with how I live my life. I have lived with my boyfriend for a few years, we go out and about, it's just that there's so much pressure to meet up with family every single week, and after a week of being tied to my laptop non stop I just want to sit in the garden or go out for the day with my boyfriend .. not always meet up and do family stuff!
So, I am very nervous about how I will feel once this lockdown ends. I am scared that I have become comfortable the way things are now, even happy, which I haven't felt for a few years.
There's a lot of family stuff that's gone on that I haven't mentioned here, so please don't think I'm being horrible for not wanting to see them that much.
But I have found that lockdown has brought new ways to be in touch with people that fit better with who I am as a person, I can do things more on my terms than I ever could before, and that constant pressure that was on me previously has been taken away.
I am happy, and when things go back to normal, I'm scared of what that might mean.
I know everyone has struggled during lockdown, and at the start of it, so did I. But now, in a very strange way, I don't want it to end.
I work from home, so I spend a lot of time in the house anyway. In theory, I could earn a living and look after myself and never step foot outside my front door!
But.
I live with my boyfriend, and I am under constant pressure from my parents to meet up for this, meet up for that. Judging from how often my friends see their parents, this isn't normal. There is also pressure to see other family members more often than I would choose if left to my own devices, along with pressure to do things for people that I would rather say no to.
Lockdown has taken away all of this pressure, and I'm getting on much better with my parents for the simple fact that my lifestyle is now forced upon everyone, so I'm no longer the odd one out for working from home and not doing much else.
May I say, I'm happy with how I live my life. I have lived with my boyfriend for a few years, we go out and about, it's just that there's so much pressure to meet up with family every single week, and after a week of being tied to my laptop non stop I just want to sit in the garden or go out for the day with my boyfriend .. not always meet up and do family stuff!
So, I am very nervous about how I will feel once this lockdown ends. I am scared that I have become comfortable the way things are now, even happy, which I haven't felt for a few years.
There's a lot of family stuff that's gone on that I haven't mentioned here, so please don't think I'm being horrible for not wanting to see them that much.
But I have found that lockdown has brought new ways to be in touch with people that fit better with who I am as a person, I can do things more on my terms than I ever could before, and that constant pressure that was on me previously has been taken away.
I am happy, and when things go back to normal, I'm scared of what that might mean.
You wouldn't have a company to work from home for if this lockdown lasted forever as it would most likely go out of business.
Original post by ageshallnot
Somewhat selfish, no?
Somewhat unhelpful, no?
Look. I specifically said in my OP that I posted as anon because I'm embarrassed of feeling this way.
You may also have noticed (or not, perhaps) that this thread is posted in the mental health forum. I don't think many of you realised that. It's relevant.
I struggle with depression and anxiety. Every day is a struggle for me - and still is, don't get me wrong.
I know lockdown won't last forever. I don't expect it to. I KNOW it's better for the world and the economy if it comes to an end ASAP.
Let me make this clear - I am NOT saying lockdown shouldn't end. All I mean is it's improved my mental health as a whole, now I've settled into it.
Hardly any helpful replies in this.
I would ask, politely, that if you can't respond in relation to mental health - which is the whole point of this - then please don't bother.
No, some of us have a ‘Life’ to live
You guys are misunderstanding the post. OP has no power over whether lockdown ends or not(which it will, unless the apocalypse comes around). She's just describing her feelings towards it and how she's much more comfortable in it. Rather than attack her or give negative comments why not try and engage in conversation if you have a point to make.
Original post by Anonymous
Somewhat unhelpful, no?
Look. I specifically said in my OP that I posted as anon because I'm embarrassed of feeling this way.
You may also have noticed (or not, perhaps) that this thread is posted in the mental health forum. I don't think many of you realised that. It's relevant.
I struggle with depression and anxiety. Every day is a struggle for me - and still is, don't get me wrong.
I know lockdown won't last forever. I don't expect it to. I KNOW it's better for the world and the economy if it comes to an end ASAP.
Let me make this clear - I am NOT saying lockdown shouldn't end. All I mean is it's improved my mental health as a whole, now I've settled into it.
Hardly any helpful replies in this.
I would ask, politely, that if you can't respond in relation to mental health - which is the whole point of this - then please don't bother.
Look. I specifically said in my OP that I posted as anon because I'm embarrassed of feeling this way.
You may also have noticed (or not, perhaps) that this thread is posted in the mental health forum. I don't think many of you realised that. It's relevant.
I struggle with depression and anxiety. Every day is a struggle for me - and still is, don't get me wrong.
I know lockdown won't last forever. I don't expect it to. I KNOW it's better for the world and the economy if it comes to an end ASAP.
Let me make this clear - I am NOT saying lockdown shouldn't end. All I mean is it's improved my mental health as a whole, now I've settled into it.
Hardly any helpful replies in this.
I would ask, politely, that if you can't respond in relation to mental health - which is the whole point of this - then please don't bother.
Unfortunately, the supposed hci experts who designed the app (which I generally use) neglected to include key information such as Forum on posts. That means I didn't know you had posted under Mental Health.
Would it have changed my response? No, not much. I saw that you're embarrassed but that doesn't take away the fact that in your first post you prioritised your own feelings above those of literally millions of others. Hence my "selfish" comment.
As for telling me - or anyone else - the context in which we are allowed to respond then I'm afraid that's a big fat No. If you want some help then all I can do is encourage you to stand up to those who try to insist that you behave in a certain manner.
I grew up in a dysfunctional household and I wouldn’t really care if I never saw my family again. There’s a lot of guilt surrounding families, but I would throw it in the bin. You can’t help how you feel and you shouldn’t have to feel guilty about it.
I really like lockdown. I’m spending more time with my twin and parents. And I don’t feel like I have to go out or be anywhere.
I don't want it to end.
I'm spending all my time writing a novel.
Get up in the morning, eat breakfast, go to shop, eat some snacks, then write and only pause for dinner. Then bed.
I have always had the talent and enjoy writing but never had time. I believe I'm going to write a very popular novel that will make me alot of money and get me out of my dead end no meaning job which I'm unhappy at.
I'm spending all my time writing a novel.
Get up in the morning, eat breakfast, go to shop, eat some snacks, then write and only pause for dinner. Then bed.
I have always had the talent and enjoy writing but never had time. I believe I'm going to write a very popular novel that will make me alot of money and get me out of my dead end no meaning job which I'm unhappy at.
I agree- to a certain extent, see I was stressed, anxious and depressed as an Alevel student- however, since the cancellation of Alevels so much pressure has come of my shoulders. I didnt mention I was overwieght and extremely unhealthy- ever since the lockdown I have been taking care of myself phisically through excersing and mentally through praying and meditating. This lockdown has given me alot of time for myself. However I do hope it ends later on, as life must go on
Original post by ageshallnot
Unfortunately, the supposed hci experts who designed the app (which I generally use) neglected to include key information such as Forum on posts. That means I didn't know you had posted under Mental Health.
Would it have changed my response? No, not much. I saw that you're embarrassed but that doesn't take away the fact that in your first post you prioritised your own feelings above those of literally millions of others. Hence my "selfish" comment.
As for telling me - or anyone else - the context in which we are allowed to respond then I'm afraid that's a big fat No. If you want some help then all I can do is encourage you to stand up to those who try to insist that you behave in a certain manner.
Would it have changed my response? No, not much. I saw that you're embarrassed but that doesn't take away the fact that in your first post you prioritised your own feelings above those of literally millions of others. Hence my "selfish" comment.
As for telling me - or anyone else - the context in which we are allowed to respond then I'm afraid that's a big fat No. If you want some help then all I can do is encourage you to stand up to those who try to insist that you behave in a certain manner.
How am I 'prioritising my own feelings above millions of others'? I am only saying my feelings, it's not like I'm actually petitioning for lockdown to continue forevermore.
Cant lie perfect time to wrok on yourself, hope they extend
It's okay to feel whatever you're feeling during lockdown and it's probably helped many people to identify things that they want to do with their lives. It's not like we've had much else to do but think about stuff.
You'd identified a problem - the need for you to meet family obligations constantly - and I can totally see how lockdown has almost given you the freedom to not have that pressure. Now that you've identified that you feel better without that pressure, is there a way you can work on cutting that pressure out of your life? If anything, this is all shown us that life is definitely too short to be living up to harmful expectations and it might be worth starting to push back if you're content with your living situations.
I can also see where you're coming from regarding living in a bubble. I'm the same, I work from home in an incredibly safe job that I can do while sitting in the garden and as long as my food is delivered and I can order more books, my life can be lived happily without stepping out of my home.
You'd identified a problem - the need for you to meet family obligations constantly - and I can totally see how lockdown has almost given you the freedom to not have that pressure. Now that you've identified that you feel better without that pressure, is there a way you can work on cutting that pressure out of your life? If anything, this is all shown us that life is definitely too short to be living up to harmful expectations and it might be worth starting to push back if you're content with your living situations.
I can also see where you're coming from regarding living in a bubble. I'm the same, I work from home in an incredibly safe job that I can do while sitting in the garden and as long as my food is delivered and I can order more books, my life can be lived happily without stepping out of my home.
