He wont do it for me?

It makes me feel so ugly because I’ve grown up hating the way it looks. Sometimes i feel like no guy will actually want me because of how it looks

Tell him you won't suck him off if he doesn't eat you out. Only a fair trade.

Can i just add its not only going down, he has no passion for me. Its like he thinks it will please me if i do things for him..... it that makes sense

You’re telling me that if a girl made a guy feel insecure about his penis by saying she doesn’t like how it looks and that’s why she’s not giving him head, the vast majority of people will label others as monsters for saying not to do it for her ? Are you serious ? No one has to do anything they don’t want to do but they shouldn’t expect something they don’t offer in return either especially if it’s done for them multiple times before.

Woman: He won't do it for me.
Other women: Don't do it for him.

Imagine it was the other way around.
Man: She won't do it for me.
Other man: Don't do it for her.
Now I know if a dude started this thread and other guys were saying don't do it for her it'd be outrageous.

It's more than that he doesn't want to do oral on you because that's his preference not to. He puts his own pleasure above your own, doesn't really care about your pleasure, doesn't care that he's making you insecure and has some pornsick notion that you only get pleasure out of pleasing him and expects you to please him and not have to do it in return.

So people can't say if the roles were reversed it wouldn't be a problem, because I don't think anyone would support someone who is completely selfish sexually and has some bad views and makes their partner insecure...

Also there's nothing wrong with you OP or the way you look.

How long have you guys been together for? Does he do any foreplay at all?

a) accept that he is uncomfortable with it and can't fulfil you in that way.
b) find a new boyfriend who will.

Pick option A or B. Pressuring him to do something he doesn't want to is not okay.

Most guys love how they look (and taste) and appreciate that they all look a little different and I very much doubt you have anything to be concerned about there... doesn't stop him wanting to put other parts of his body near it does it? From the original post you've talked about it and he has stated he doesn't like to do that. It doesn't need to be a big deal tbh. If he isn't pushing the right buttons SHOW him better ways to touch you to improve his foreplay skills. Have you spoken to him about what he does like to do to you?.. other than missionary a couple of positions that obviously are working for him but not for you. We live in an age where all types of interesting products to enhance your sex life can be obtained at a relatively low price. Have you sat down with him and looked at all the options to see if you can find anything you'd both enjoy? Surely he is concerned that you aren't finding the physical aspects of your relationship fulfilling? If he cares about you he would be and even if he doesn't it would certainly a blow to the ego for most of us guys to know we were underperforming... I'd care. If he isn't willing to satisfy you physically as well as emotionally the next guy will.

Be grateful that hes not a cannibal