My girlfriend has forgiven me for cheating but won't have sex anymore

I've been with my girlfriend for 3 years and we've been living in a flatshare with another flatmate for most of that time. My girlfriend moved out for a few months and I had a 'friends with benefits' relationship with the other flatmate. We agreed that this was nothing serious and it was easy to hide as we lived together alone. But my flatmate got emotionally involved and she told my girlfriend.

I admitted to what I did immediately and to cut a long story short, she forgave me. We live in our own flat now, and she has access to my phone to make sure that I don't speak to our former flatmate. The issue is, six months on, she wont have sex with me. She says she still loves me the same etc but the most we do is kiss. Prior to her moving out, we had sex 4-5 times a week. I find this really stressful as I don't want us to stay like this forever. I made a terrible mistake but the devestating consequences cannot last forever. I'd rather she broke up with me than not be able to have sex for many more months - 1 year+. I think she's either still angry with me or is no longer interested in the long term.

The only other reason she could still be angry with me is, I told her that it was a few times but I fear that our flatmate has already told her that it was actually closer to every day. I have fallen out with the flatmate and have no way of asking her what she has told my girlfriend. If I tell her now about the true extent, I think she will go ballistic even if she already suspects it.

Do you think I should stay with her and wait? Should I tell her exactly what happened to see if that's the only thing holding her back? We are otherwise a very good couple and still live together as very good friends.

She probably hasn’t forgiven you and is waiting to break up with you later. .
Congrats on destroying your relationship though.

3 years and you decided that to have an FWB relationship for a few months close to every day? Do you seriously see long term potential in this? Do you really like her?
You should've told her the whole truth immediately, so it wouldn't be on your conscience now.
It can't stay like this forever and I very much doubt it will.

She probably hasn’t forgiven you and is waiting to break up with you later. .
Congrats on destroying your relationship though.

I've been with my girlfriend for 3 years and we've been living in a flatshare with another flatmate for most of that time. My girlfriend moved out for a few months and I had a 'friends with benefits' relationship with the other flatmate. We agreed that this was nothing serious and it was easy to hide as we lived together alone. But my flatmate got emotionally involved and she told my girlfriend.

I admitted to what I did immediately and to cut a long story short, she forgave me. We live in our own flat now, and she has access to my phone to make sure that I don't speak to our former flatmate. The issue is, six months on, she wont have sex with me. She says she still loves me the same etc but the most we do is kiss. Prior to her moving out, we had sex 4-5 times a week. I find this really stressful as I don't want us to stay like this forever. I made a terrible mistake but the devestating consequences cannot last forever. I'd rather she broke up with me than not be able to have sex for many more months - 1 year+. I think she's either still angry with me or is no longer interested in the long term.

The only other reason she could still be angry with me is, I told her that it was a few times but I fear that our flatmate has already told her that it was actually closer to every day. I have fallen out with the flatmate and have no way of asking her what she has told my girlfriend. If I tell her now about the true extent, I think she will go ballistic even if she already suspects it.

Do you think I should stay with her and wait? Should I tell her exactly what happened to see if that's the only thing holding her back? We are otherwise a very good couple and still live together as very good friends.

Yes I do really love her, but there can be no long term potential if we're not intimate. I feel terrible about this.

Agreed. But I told her that it happened immediately and she was understandably incandescent when she found out so I couldn't really say everything as I wanted.
Should I tell her now? If she already knows and it's what she expects from me, she'll let us move forwards. Otherwise, it could push things back by another 6 months or end our relationship.

The only confusing thing is that she's still really kind to me every day. We still do everything else together. She simply won't have a conversation if I ask her why we can't return to normal and I can't reason with her when she's angry

Tell her the truth, she deserves to know. And let’s not kid ourselves here, there isn’t potential for a long term relationship anymore (maybe there never was considering things). And she won’t break up with you? Maybe she’s waiting for you to break up with her. In any case, sit down and have a serious chat about it. Breaking up seems the best solution in my eyes.

As I said in my last post, there's honestly no possibility of a five minute conversation about this without her getting really angry. We were and still are otherwise a really good couple. I just wish she would just consider this.

As I said in my last post, there's honestly no possibility of a five minute conversation about this without her getting really angry. We were and still are otherwise a really good couple. I just wish she would just consider this.

As I said in my last post, there's honestly no possibility of a five minute conversation about this without her getting really angry. We were and still are otherwise a really good couple. I just wish she would just consider this.

Sorry but I agree with the first sentence OP. She has access to your phone, but do you have access to hers?