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Halls sucks

I think everyone hates living in halls. The people, the parties, get singled out and be that guy, sit alone in your room while hearing everyone else partying it up having the time of their life. On the first night everyone wants to go home and never come back to university.
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Original post by bunnyrabbit2
I think everyone hates living in halls. The people, the parties, get singled out and be that guy, sit alone in your room while hearing everyone else partying it up having the time of their life. On the first night everyone wants to go home and never come back to university.

In my experience most people like living in halls, and not everyone goes out partying all the time. On my first night in halls, I unpacked my room, cooked in the kitchen with a few of my other flatmates, and went out to a bar for a quiet drink with a number of them later on.
Original post by CatusStarbright
In my experience most people like living in halls, and not everyone goes out partying all the time. On my first night in halls, I unpacked my room, cooked in the kitchen with a few of my other flatmates, and went out to a bar for a quiet drink with a number of them later on.

That sounds almost as bad as a night of partying. What is the purpose of living in a hall with a bunch of people and cooking together and/or going for a drink? What is the purpose of hall parties?
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Original post by bunnyrabbit2
That sounds almost as bad as a night of partying. What is the purpose of living in a hall with a bunch of people and cooking together and/or going for a drink? What is the purpose of hall parties?


I suspect you’re a troll but some people (I would say most) enjoy socialising. The purpose of it is to have a good time and build connections with other people, but it is okay if that does not appeal to you, it just makes you an antisocial person.
Original post by hajima
I suspect you’re a troll but some people (I would say most) enjoy socialising. The purpose of it is to have a good time and build connections with other people, but it is okay if that does not appeal to you, it just makes you an antisocial person.

Why would people want to socialize for the point of socializing? I would rather get to know people through doing a particular activity. What is the point in just living in the same place to build connnections with other people? You sound judgmental as well when you say that makes me an antisocial person.
If you don't like the idea of living in halls... don't live in halls.
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Original post by bunnyrabbit2
Why would people want to socialize for the point of socializing? I would rather get to know people through doing a particular activity. What is the point in just living in the same place to build connnections with other people? You sound judgmental as well when you say that makes me an antisocial person.


I’ve already answered your question: because people enjoy it and it’s convenient. You are antisocial by definition if you are adverse to socialising; you’re kicking up a fuss about living in close proximity to people your own age, and that’s pretty antisocial.
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Original post by hajima
I’ve already answered your question: because people enjoy it and it’s convenient. You are antisocial by definition if you are adverse to socialising; you’re kicking up a fuss about living in close proximity to people your own age, and that’s pretty antisocial.

Then don't term it antisocial. That is judgmental. Maybe I just don't see the point in living in a hall. Plus it makes me feel very inferior and worthless and insecure because I don't like the idea of living in halls with a bunch of young people my own age. I resent that there is such a thing as halls. As for admit-one's post about if I don't like halls then don't live in halls, that isn't the point. I feel insecure and weak about the idea of not living in halls when I could live in halls.
By the way in response to hajima's comment, I am not adverse to socializing. I am adverse to socializing in a stupid environment. Who cares about the convenience? You pay way more because it is on campus and all halls are a dump.
Everyone’s experience is different.

Sorry you hated halls so much but not everyone feels like that. If you didn’t make an effort to socialise then it’s more likely you didn’t enjoy your time as you didn’t make solid connections with people.

Socialising is a big part of uni and halls themselves.
What if I didn't know how to socialize and how to become friends with people? Nobody talked to me for the most part at the hall I stayed at. It wasn't that particular hall. They would have treated me like that in any hall.
Original post by bunnyrabbit2
What if I didn't know how to socialize and how to become friends with people? Nobody talked to me for the most part at the hall I stayed at. It wasn't that particular hall. They would have treated me like that in any hall.


You don’t know that though. If you didn’t make the effort to meet people and form connections, then obviously you wouldn’t have made lots of connections with people.

Halls are a different experience for everyone as I stated before. I’m sorry you had a bad experience but that doesn’t mean everyone will.
Original post by pepsimaxcherry
You don’t know that though. If you didn’t make the effort to meet people and form connections, then obviously you wouldn’t have made lots of connections with people.

Halls are a different experience for everyone as I stated before. I’m sorry you had a bad experience but that doesn’t mean everyone will.

Actually I did make an effort to make connections and meet people. It's just that people didn't want to become friends with me. For example I usually was never invited to any parties and just stayed in my room and some weekends went back home for the weekend to my parents house. My social life was message boards.
Original post by bunnyrabbit2
Actually I did make an effort to make connections and meet people. It's just that people didn't want to become friends with me. For example I usually was never invited to any parties and just stayed in my room and some weekends went back home for the weekend to my parents house. My social life was message boards.


That’s unfortunate then. I don’t know you so I can’t say whether you made the right moves to form connections. However I do think it’s wrong to post about how everyone will hate halls as that’s not true.

I’m sorry for your negative experience but not everyone will feel that way.
Original post by pepsimaxcherry
That’s unfortunate then. I don’t know you so I can’t say whether you made the right moves to form connections. However I do think it’s wrong to post about how everyone will hate halls as that’s not true.

I’m sorry for your negative experience but not everyone will feel that way.

I post how everyone will hate halls because I am jealous of all the people who are going to have the time of their life in halls. While they are partying it up having an awesome time I hope they think of the person that is sitting alone in their room hearing them having the time of their life.
Original post by bunnyrabbit2
I post how everyone will hate halls because I am jealous of all the people who are going to have the time of their life in halls. While they are partying it up having an awesome time I hope they think of the person that is sitting alone in their room hearing them having the time of their life.


You can’t tell everyone to hate halls though just because you had a bad experience. Some people thrive in halls and some don’t. You can’t guilt people into feeling bad about socialising just because you didn’t quite fit in :smile:
Original post by bunnyrabbit2
Why can't I guilt them? They are *******s.


No they’re not, that’s an unfair statement. Just because your flat mates didn’t invite you out doesn’t mean every single person who stays in halls is evil. They didn’t form a connection with you and therefore didn’t make time to spend with you. Not everyone’s situation is the same. You’re naive if you think that every person who stays in halls is the same.
Original post by pepsimaxcherry
No they’re not, that’s an unfair statement. Just because your flat mates didn’t invite you out doesn’t mean every single person who stays in halls is evil. They didn’t form a connection with you and therefore didn’t make time to spend with you. Not everyone’s situation is the same. You’re naive if you think that every person who stays in halls is the same.

It would have happened to me in any other hall, because I got to know another guy from another hall and he was a jerk to me. Used me as his wingman to get into a bar and then left me on my own at the bar once he found a woman to hook up with. Then when we went back to his hall he basically told me he didn't want me around. Just in general the people in halls are ********
Original post by bunnyrabbit2
I think everyone hates living in halls. The people, the parties, get singled out and be that guy, sit alone in your room while hearing everyone else partying it up having the time of their life. On the first night everyone wants to go home and never come back to university.


Hey :smile:

I kinda agree. Halls felt quite isolating for me. Despite me being an outgoing guy I just couldn't fit into cliques. For example, I got along with the girls in my block but they had their own "girls group" that I as a guy couldn't join.

I got excluded by the guys on the bottom floor etc.

It sucked. Then 2nd year sucked as I didn't live with people that I was compatible with yet again.

I know that experience of being alone in your room and hearing the partying aha. Keep your head up, and keep trying to find good friends
Thank you Superhuman98 for your kind, true and upfront response. Finally someone that gets it that halls are a terrible experience. I knew I was not alone in hating halls.

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